Man-Boobs

[phate]

Hey all


Since five years ago when I moved school, people have always taken the mick out of me for having man boobs. Going as far as saying I need a bra and stuff like that, even the girls jump on the bandwagon. It has really damaged my self-confidence, and I have never spoken about it before to anyone. Its not as if I eat loads, I eat less than most. The worst time is when swimming comes round on the agenda, which is in a month. My worst problem is my self confidence, I have fears of asking a girl out, not because of what she thinks, but of how the people will take the mick out of me, which really, really sucks. Is there anyway I can get rid of them or boost my slef confidence? Anyways, thanks in advance!

[Desuetude]

Just remember that you are above these immature and stupid people. You don't need to listen to their abuse. I can't say that I can think of anything that will make the name calling stop but just remember that no one is perfect, most people have some issues with self esteem and that's one of the reasons why people pick on others, to boost their own self confidence and make them feel superior.

There are lots of things you can do to boost your self esteem. Start with thinking positively and blocking out any negative thoughts about yourself. Make lists of all the good things you like about yourself and whenever they're saying this shit about you remember all the positives. Stand tall and don't let them know that it bothers you. If you cower in front of them and they see weakness they're going to latch onto that. I know it's hard and you're going to have to pretend but when they see that you're not going to get to you the name calling might die down a bit. If you'd like to read a little more about what you can do to help yourself I found this link (http://zenhabits.net/25-killer-actions-to-boost-your-self-confidence/) that might be useful for help with self esteem. Just remember that they can't control you, you're in control of yourself and if you say you're not going to let what they say get to you, it won't.

[phate]

Thanks

That link seems really useful, the thing is that after 5 to 6 years of it, and my parents having a violent brake up in the middle I am an emotional wreck. I don't see myself as having any positives, I know that's bad its just..... You know.

[Zenos]

Try buying some weights and exercising with them,because as your body builds up muscle you'll feel better aout yourself and others will start complimenting you which will also boost your self esteem.:D

[Coolboi]

you start to lift weights an them man boob will in no time turn into a big man chest . then see what they say to you. they will say don't mess with you !

[Jose Mendoza]

Dude,you can wear large T-shirts or you can start working out so you get some abs and pecs :P

[Mynick]

I totally relate to you. The same happened to me last year and i did not do any swimming. As ThePretender said, ignore them. They are just immature kids.

As for your self esteem, you could ceck in (is that the term? xD) into a gym. I did that and since them i feel a lot more confident.
Stay strong.

[unusedaccount]

Regulate your diet, start doing some cardio to burn fat, and hit the gym if you can... Start doing some weight training. Only eat as many calories as you'll burn. :)

[Zenos]

Dude,you can wear large T-shirts or you can start working out so you get some abs and pecs :P



Don't forget the delts,glutes,quads,hams,calves,biceps,triceps forarms and back(Traps,lats ,and spinea erectors(lowerback),other wise he'd look silly with just abs and pecs developed:D

[NeuroTiger]

If you exercise properly and seriously along with a proper balanced diet, no doubt will these 'man's boobs' turn into strong pecs and abs...try it.

[Human Male]

What's your weight and height, OP?

[Jose Mendoza]

Don't forget the delts,glutes,quads,hams,calves,biceps,triceps forarms and back(Traps,lats ,and spinea erectors(lowerback),other wise he'd look silly with just abs and pecs developed:D

Why haven't you finished enumerating all the muscles in the body?

[xAlfredo]

I felt the same, OP.
I got a gym membership back in September and I've gone a few times a month, even though I wish I could go more, time doesn't permit. However, I have been eating less, and haven't drank any to much soda (i limited myself to one a week) and I feel great about myself. In the summer, I hope to lose weight since I will have more time for myself and not school. Maybe you could try the same. Go back to school the next year with a bang. It must feel great!

[rocketsheep]

fffff

[Texas warrior]

Just try not to let it get to you. Any one that makes fun of you is inferior to and you can take pride in that.

[xmojox]

Exercise is good in so many ways. If you can't do weights, do pushups, crunches, etc.. Intense exercise releases endorphins which help you feel better in the short-term, it helps with depression, and, when you start seeing the results of your work, you'll feel better about yourself.

That being said, you've gotta realize that you're ok, and don't ever let other people define you. What those people say doesn't matter a damn. They're bullies, and bullies are the ones with the problems, not the people they bully. I'd say it's a safe bet that you can use these boards for support whenever you need it.

[AJJ1]

actually, i had slight boobs wen i was 11 (14 now + i was skiiny) but it neever bothered me cuz actually other of my frenz had it