ok so there's this girl...

[rjp123]

so there's this girl i know that i see everyday, and we have alot in common, we watch the same shows and movies and we both have a random sense of humor, shes really cute, smart and funny and i like her alot, and i wanna ask her out but u see shes a cheerleader/bandgeek and im just a bandgeek, i dont think she would say yes, plus im a little fluffy, i dont know what to do, can some one give me advice

[Gumleaf]

what have you got to lose? just ask her out, if you have that much in common you sound like a good match.

[rjp123]

your right but im scared for some reason

[Gumleaf]

yeah, thats natural and i was when i asked my gf out too. for me it was the fear of rejection, but you just have to try and overcome that otherwise you will never ask her.

[rjp123]

any creative ideas on how i should ask her

[Lifesreject]

Ask her to her face. It makes a girl feel special that someone would want to put in that much effort. As for the best time i would probably do it if you had been out. Offer to walk home with her and ask her just before you leave her.

[rjp123]

so face to face

[Gumleaf]

i think that would be a very proactive way to do it.

[byee]

I'm not sure what 'fluffy' is, to me that sounds kinda cute in an endearing way.

Anyway, sounds like a case of the dreaded Fear of Rejection. The cure for this uniquely male affliction is to first recognize that no one but you actually sees it, it's not like a huge zit on your nose. Secondly, the only thing that comes close to this with girls is their fear of not being liked. So, her fears kinda cancel yours out.

The easiest way to do this is probably in a few steps. Step one is to just start casual convo with her, maybe about band (or someothr thing you have in common). Do this a few days. Step 2, when she's used to hanging with you, sorta in the middle to the end of the convo, but while you're both into it, tell her how great this was, and suggest an afterschool meeting of some kind. Nothing grand, don't shoot the moon, you just want something like you have been doing in school successfully, outside of school. If it's been going well in school, she's more likely to say sure.

Girls aren't as frightening and intimidating as we sometimes make them out to be, they are just people, like us, who smell much better, and make nice noises when they're happy. Remember what you have in common, minimize what you don't, and don't respond so much to your anxiety/excitement and you'll be fine.

[rjp123]

fluffy is one of the stages of fat, theres husky, heavy, healthy, fluffy and daaamn! fluffy is like the second stage