Complicated Situation

[TonyStew]

Well my situation is kinda complicated but at the same time I guess it can be considered not too complicated....Anyways, I've been dating this girl for almost 2 years and things have gotten quite boring lately, and it's not really my fault. We just kinda got into the same routine during the weeks and no matter what I do, she kinda just acts really pissy about it. For example, she was on vacation in New York for spring break last year and went to a club without even asking me. It's not the club that really ticked me off, it's the fact that she would never let me go to one(not that i want to), or even she would never let me hang out with girls even though they are clearly friends. Another example is a promise that she broke with me....She had never been to an Aquarium before and we planned on going to one as a romantic kind of thing that she would remember with me, but instead, she went to one with her friend when they were in New York.....Sorry I'm rambling, but those are just some examples....

My predicament is...I have a thing for a friend of mines girlfriend. Me and this kid have kinda drifted apart after high school and we barely even talk anymore without our other friends being there. His girlfriend is a really cool girl and me and her kinda get along more than they do, and we have more in common. She's kinda just amazing to be completely honest. I don't know what to do. I know she kinda likes flirting with me, and we have fun joking around with each other, but a part of me wants more than that, and I don't want to go through life with the regret of maybe letting this girl walk away and regret not doing something about it..

Of course there's the "Guy Code" thing people will bring up, and the "You're taken, she's taken" part, but does anyone have any stories of maybe something similar and it working out better? Or just anything else? It makes me confused when I think about it, so I can imagine 90% of the people who read this will feel the same way, but anyways yeah, that's my situation...

Edit : Lemme explain a little bit more about my relationship. Most of the time I feel like she resents me, for no reason. Throughout the 2 years I have been nothing but a "perfect" boyfriend, at least in my eyes and my friends eyes. None of my friends really like her because of how she treats me around them, but at the same time when we are alone we are perfectly fine and act wonderful.. I just feel like this could go on even more when I truly go away to college (I commute to a community college atm, until september of this year), and when I go away to college I feel like she will trust me even less. I might be an asshole for having these feelings for this other girl but trust me, if i could help it, I would. It's just making me crazy and with my girlfriend acting like this I just can't help but feel like the grass could be greener with a girl who is more "fun", so to speak. Ughh I don't even know guys....

[FreeFall]

How'd you last with her for two years if she's always been selfish and lacking respect or trust for you? Yet she con totally go out and do it. She cannot ban you from things either. You still have free will. Partners don't do anything they know their partner will hate, because they respect and love them, not because they will go to jail if caught. If you want to hang out with female friends, do it. If you want to go to a club, do it. If she dumps you for it, so? Her true colors are showing and I fail to see how you like that.

Unless you want to show her you respect her. But frankly, why are you with her?

And the other girl, you have no right to be saying what you're saying, unless you know it 100%. So you think you get along better than he does with her, so you think you two have more in common.
There's a reason she with him/still with him and not you.

If she's spilling the guts of her relationship to you, she will spill the guts of any possible relationship with you too. I wouldn't be surprised if her boyfriend knows about what you guys say. It would annoy the hell out of me if everyone was pretty much up in my relationship knowing everything. You may just be one of her friends and that's it, don't jump the shark.

The grass can be greener, but why don't you take care of your own grass and not hop the fence into someone else's yard?
Snip off the weeds (dump your girlfriend) or try to pull them out and replace them with flowers (Talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you're feeling. Actually, have you communicated with your girlfriend about this at all?) If not, and the weeds are gone, find a flower to plant in your yard. Do not hop the fence, take someone else's flower, and keep it. If that flower comes to you free from her last yard, then that's fine. But until then, mind your own gardening.

[Pierce]

I will give you a brief answer. What I would is break up with our girlfriend immediately because it doesn't seem like you 2 are too fond of each other. Just the way you talk about her, you called her this girl and not my girlfriend in your first or second sentence. Do not pursue your friends girlfriend not because of "guy code" but it's just not cool. Say on the market a while you might meet someone better than both.

[Wrestler0821]

I agree with Pierce. Sounds like you were together for social reasons rather than emotional.