(GIRLS please!!!) I have questions...

[Elvalight]

I'm not as of yet the age of 18, so I always thought it would just come to me, but I've really been wondering about these things...
If I did turn out to be lesbian, what would my family do?( I know my mom is a Christian, and so am I, but I am okay with homosexuals and I'm not sure my family is.) I've never considered myself to be that pretty or having a great figure, so I'm scared of being rejected or used.
I've always been shy, and how would I know if a girl was a lesbian too? I guess I grew up thinking that if I looked at a girl more than a glance or something would either scare her off or ... I guess I thought it would be just breaking rules. But what rules? I always thought that my life was my own, and if I did find that right person, if it was a girl, my family wouldn't let me be with her. I guess I'm scared of finding the right one in the first place, for fear it's another girl, and for fear I'd loose her. The thing about me is that if I have something and grow attached to it, I get defensive if anyone tries to take it. If I did find that someone, I protect that person with all of me, but what if it was a girl and my family wouldn't allow it? I love my family and I don't rebel against them ever, but I just feel alone and I don't know who to look for and who to listen to.

[Desuetude]

You haven't said that you know you are a lesbian. What kind of feelings do you have for girls? Could you see yourself in a long term relationship with a girl? Spending your whole life with one? If you have no attraction boys (physical nor emotion) and are attracted to girls then you would be considered lesbian.

We can't say how your family would react. People react in different ways depending on how they've been raised and their own views. You might find that your mother surprises you and is very excepting but it could go the opposite way. What I suggest is dropping the topic into conversation, perhaps around the dinner table while you're eating, see how she handles it and what she has to say. That might give you a better idea of how she might react. You might be surprised how many religious parents turn out to be accepting of their children when they come out.

I know it might be against your religion to be with another girl and there is a chance your family will not accept that but in the end it is your life. You should do what makes you happy, not play along and be someone you're not just to make your family happy. It might take a while to find the right person, you might have to go through a couple of relationships first but hopefully you'll find someone that reciprocates your feelings and that you can care about. That's the most important thing and if your family doesn't respect your decision then really, it's none of their business, it's not going to affect them. This is your life, do things to make you happy, not them.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

I may not be a girl, but I would like to help you. Every day, lesbian and gay teenagers are rejected by their parents. It's the fact that the parents have lived their entire life with these beliefs, and when someone that they made goes against those beliefs..it's hard for them to understand and accept. Coming out is such a feat. It is one of the hardest things a homosexual person will do in their life. We all will do it eventually. It's about finding the courage. There is no rush for you to do this. You do it when you want to. But, yes, your family may reject you. You have to understand that, no matter what they say or do, they will unconditionally love you. And that will never change. It will take time, but they will accept you. Oh, and with the whole family-not-accepting-your-girlfriend? You will love who you will love, and no matter what they say, you will love her. And she will love you.
Long story short, coming out is hard, and it'll take time for them to accept you. But it will happen, dear. <3