my dad's drinking. how can i not get yelled at?

[ShatteredWings]

hes mean after a few beers...im afraid he'l get verbaly abusive again. i dont know what i should do. its only 6:30 pm. he's home early.

i cant go out b/c its already dark. if i went to bed NOW id probaby get somting about you need more sleep. as if i dont know i needmore sleep.

help me out please

add: oh fuck...im gonna bein the same house w/him for a alitle whiel while my mom goes out!

[byee]

You need to talk with your mom about this one, the 2 of you need a plan to address dad's drinking (and his subsequent abusiveness). Don't try this alone.

In the mean time, the best strategy is probably self protective, as in stay away, stay in your room, keep out of his way.

[ShatteredWings]

stay away from him.
if he's drunk, go the other way.
go to a friend's house, go up to your room
read, listen to music, watch t.v.

keep yourself occupied.
that's on the spot advice.

now, you need to talk to your mom
if she's sympathetic toward you, and there for you, let her know that this is bothering you.
if, by chance, she doesn't know about the verbal abuse, she needs to know.

to avoid getting yelled at, just stay away from him, and don't bring attention to yourself.

and, like i said, in the meantime, talk to your mom.

if you want to, you can PM me.


thanks..im so glad people care...he didnt get abusive last night, but then again, i was quite litary silent cuz i really couldnt talk(panic, not other reasons)....the next time he gets abusive, i'll call the cops.

[ctw4451]

I've had this when I was younger.
Someone in your family needs to help him realize that he has children, morals, and values. One day hopefully he'll realize the damage he is doing and he will stop. If not - you have people who can help you everywhere. Family, friends, and VT! I also do agree with the others; talk with your mom, stay away, etc. I hope it works!

[kovert43]

if nothing works fine a plac ein ur house to hide and do sumthing til ur mom gets back or till its bed time <----- if that meant like ur were 3 or 5yrs oldit wasent like that

[western ninja]

just hide, walk in the other direction and try not to anything that might provoke him.
I hope it works out

[smarti20067]

i agree with otthers, stay away from him, leave him alone, there's no need to be in his way, just forget about him

[Camazotz]

Yeah, talk to your mom and try to get him in rehab. Dont try it on your own. If he gets abusive, call the cops. Otherwise, avoid him when he's drunk.

[Sugaree]

hes mean after a few beers...im afraid he'l get verbaly abusive again. i dont know what i should do. its only 6:30 pm. he's home early.

i cant go out b/c its already dark. if i went to bed NOW id probaby get somting about you need more sleep. as if i dont know i needmore sleep.

help me out please

add: oh fuck...im gonna bein the same house w/him for a alitle whiel while my mom goes out!

Yeah my dad put up with this when he was a kid. His father would abuse him but not physically only verbal.

The only thing he could do was stand down but you need to talk this over with your mom. Your dad's drinking is reaching a peak to him being alcholic.

So talk it over with your mom. In the mean time I would suggest you don't come in any contact with him.

I'm sorry but that's all I can say for now.

[goin to work]

i have the same problem take his beer and throw it out and hide tiil mom gets home

[ShadowX]

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[thesphinx]

i have the same problem take his beer and throw it out and hide tiil mom gets home
No that is a bad idea, don't mess with him.

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What? please try and be helpful.

[derekrocks]

stay away from him.:yes:

[thesphinx]

Derek this is an old thread please don't bump them.
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