If You Don't

[ctw4451]

If you don't get a boner just after seeing a girl you think is hot, are you not attracted to her? What about if you rub your penis and shortly after you do when looking at the same picture? I went to the picture of Kristin Cavallari and did it, and I went to a picture of Brad Pitt and did it, and I found that I got aroused faster with Brad Pitt's picture. Am I gay?

Oh and, can someone put this in simpler terms?


And remember, that what makes you who you are isn't at all determined by what turns you on, they're just feelings!

[Serenity]

To add to your post, you can use the Edit feature, rather that double posting.

Physical attraction is when you look at someone and like what you see. Whether you get a boner or not depends on if you become aroused or not due to you liking what you see [or imagining what you can't...]

You are gay if you have an EMOTIONAL attraction toward a member of the same sex. Seeing as you probably don't have emotional attractions towards Brad Pitt, I think you're fine. Because you're going through puberty, your hormones are all crazy like and making you feel weird things, like becoming aroused by looking at pictures of male celebrities. As long as you have no emotional attatchment, you are still straight.

And Sam's post is basically saying that the crazy like emotions you're feeling right now because of your raging hormones doesn't make who you are- you're still you, no matter what your orientation is.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Well, I know a girl and I KNOW I like her :wub: . However, I don't get boners every single time I see her (that would be soo embarrasing!). Actually I get boners more often when I'm thinking about her, or after she says goodbye and isn't around any more. Though of course I get the odd erection when she IS around when she does certain... things :D

I don't know about Brad Pitt though. I don't feel any arousal at all for men, but even I would get a boner from ANY picture if I was aroused enough! :D

[ctw4451]

I just, don't know. I'm very confused, mad, and tired. :\

Can you also put this in simplier terms?



Physical attraction is when you look at someone and like what you see. Whether you get a boner or not depends on if you become aroused or not due to you liking what you see [or imagining what you can't...]

I believe I'm straight - I don't get boners looking at girls though. I have to imagine sexual activity with girls, but when I think about same sex activity I get a boner faster - is it just hormones and due to the fact that I've masterbated longer to same sex activity? I've never said a man was hot - and I still couldn't evaluate any attraction. With a woman - I can say shes hot - no boner - imagine me having sexual activity with her - boner(even though sometimes I might not get one right away). If I don't get a boner over thinking about sexual activity with a girl, or by looking at her, am I not attracted to her?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

You know, this answer kinda sucks, but it's true: only you can decide/figure out if you're gay or not. Most guys that ask "am I gay!!!?!?!?! OH NOOEEESSS!!!" are just really stressed and most likely AREN'T gay. I mean think about it; if you're that worried about it or strongly opposed to it, it might just mean that you're hormones are raging and things are getting a little weird on ya. On the other hand, if you really don't care if you're gay or not, then that might always be a possibility as well.

You see how stupidly two-sided this is? The cycle just keeps going and going when really it is UP TO YOU. Are you gay? "... I like girls. I wanna marry a girl some day." that = NOT GAY :yeah:

This goes for most people concerned with this as well, just FYI

Hope everything works out! :)

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

Great response comrade. I agree with the above post :)

[byee]

If you don't get a boner just after seeing a girl you think is hot, are you not attracted to her? What about if you rub your penis and shortly after you do when looking at the same picture? I went to the picture of Kristin Cavallari and did it, and I went to a picture of Brad Pitt and did it, and I found that I got aroused faster with Brad Pitt's picture. Am I gay?

Oh and, can someone put this in simpler terms?

LOL! I apologize, I was working on a paper here and got a little too erudite for my own good, thanks for bringing me down to earth! (and thanks for Val for reminding me of the usefulness of the Law of Parsimony!).

The simplest way to say what I meant to say is that there's a diff between physical attraction and emotional attraction, and that's because you have one doesn't mean you automatically have the other. So, you can find Brad Pitt arousing not so much because you're gay, but because he is, afterall, handsome. So, you're not gay for this, just observant!

Not getting aroused by girls doesn't indicate much of anything about your sexuality, either. As i've said elsewhere, I believe that when many think of girls they get excited, and nervous, at the same time. And nothing kills arousal faster than nervousness. So, that might be why you don't always get a boner looking at/talking to them. As you get older and more experienced just being around them, your anxiety should drop and you'll likely feel just the excitement.

[Underground_Network]

There is no guarantee that you are even physically attracted to him. If you were rubbing your dick while looking at the pictures, there was a high possibility you would get a boner regardless of which picture you were looking at. If both people were fully clothed it tells you even less. As everyone said, you are only gay if you are EMOTIONALLY AND PHYSICALLY attracted to the same sex. I think there's an 80% chance that you are straight (which is extremely high since I do not believe you can be 100% gay or straight). You are probably not gay, but only you can decide your sexuality, you have to give it time, you may not know your true sexuality until you've had experience with either the opposite sex, same sex, or both sexes.