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PetRock
January 13th, 2013, 12:10 AM
A girl I like, I told her, she said she had a bf and we texted for a bit.

A couple weeks later she texts me "If you don't want to talk to me that's fine". Is that her way of saying "You're annoying me, fuck off and leave me alone please"?

I'm really unsure how to act around her now. At first she gave a few signs of flirting, I think, after I told her. Maybe it was just pity, idk. I was called "hilarious" and "adorable", though I don't know what those words mean to her :S. Then she gives me a huge apology a few days later. She essentially said she was acting stupid, she is sorry she has a bf but he makes her happy, and that she wants to get to know me. What I got out of that was I got friend zoned, maybe not even friends >_<.

Help? What should I do?

EDIT: I found out that she may have left her bf on Friday. Not certain though :S.

FreeFall
January 13th, 2013, 01:56 AM
What good were you going to get out of a girl that has told you, twice now?, that she has a bf? Were you hoping to replace her current bf and be so super in love that she'd never text and flirt with other guys, or replace you with new guy?

You're, really, nothing special to her. She'd have left him for you, or not strung you along like she did.
Her initial "If you don't want to talk..." was not a passive aggressive screw you, but rather her victimizing herself for some reason. What happened that made her try to play victim to you? Also, people who victimize themselves without good reason, no good. They're selfish and self-centered and you'll be last priority to them, you must cater to them for them to be happy.

Well you got your answer. She wants her Bf, but wants to know you. Possibly you were friend-zoned or you've just been made the possible re-bound/back-up. Aka she'll pluck you off the shelf she's stuck you on and sort of act like you're the crumb from a really good dish. Not much you can get out of a crumb.

Only you can decide. You want to still chase a taken girl? or will you really just be friends and find a girl not taken? or will you just say "see ya" to her and leave her behind to move on in life?

PetRock
January 13th, 2013, 01:28 PM
Thank you for the wake up call :)

Rascaldog24
January 14th, 2013, 02:07 PM
If some random dude was texting my GF all the time I would get very annoyed with this guy.

Lost in the Echo
January 14th, 2013, 02:32 PM
If she has a boyfriend, then don't try to be in a relationship with her, that may cause some problems. Be glad she wants to be friends with you.

If she and her boyfriend break up, then you could try pursuing a relationship with her.
Until then, just remain friends with her.