Can lesbians like guys too?

[cinderellagirl732]

So I'm pretty sure I like girls only..but I have this friend and he's a guy. I like him, but I'm not sure if it's a crush or I just like the attention from him. When he hugs me though, it feels like hugging my brother. I want to "like" like him, but I'm not sure if I do or not. We were talking earlier and he asked if I liked girls and I didn't answer him, because of the fact that I might like him too...what's going on? Any advice??

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There is the possibility you could like him and still be lesbian, but it seems unlikely. Either you aren't really lesbian, or this feeling is more of brotherhood, and not a crush.

Anything is possible, though.

[Lost in the Echo]

Just go with the flow, and let whatever happens, happen. Even if you are a lesbian, nobody is ever 100% anything. Whether it be gay, straight or whatver.
Like I said, don't think too hard about this, just do whatever feels comfortable to you.

To answer your question, i'm not too sure what's going on. You just have to go with the flow...

[Lights]

You don't need to label yourself. Do you feel about this boy in the same sort of way as you do about any of the girls you've ever liked? If he's on your mind a lot, this could mean you do like him a little more than a friend - or it could be you wanting like him (like you actually said yourself) and it's part of a period of time where you may be slightly in denial, wanting to feel more normal. I had that myself. But, only you can really tell what you think of this boy truly. You don't need to rush yourself though - just play things by ear and see how your feelings develop. They will either advance and continue or they will go away. Don't worry most of all. :)

[Troy35216]

maybe your bi?

[Dunce]

Maybe you want to like him more than you do? People who identify as gay can fall for the opposite sex on occasion, but not usually. Like, a lesbian could be romantically attracted to men, but most would then identify as bi. Don't force yourself to like him but because he likes you or he's a great guy, been there, it's not fun.

I think you'd be sure you liked him if you did, forget how nice he is or how he acts around you for a second. Would you go out with him, enjoy spending time with him, kiss him? Would you like him if he didn't pay as much attention to you?
You don't need to label yourself, just let yourself like who you like :)

[Twilly F. Sniper]

Only 3 possibilities are likely

1. You aren't lesbian, but much more so attracted to the same sex.

2. It's not actually a crush, just more like a bond between two friends.

3. You're in some pretty serious denial.