Sex with my bf

[Nikki9]

Me and my boyfriend have got to the point now where we're thinking about having sex. I can't talk to my mum about this, and the last thing I want is to get pregnant or wonder if I'm pregnant and panic. Oh wouldn't that be great? First having to explain who I had sex with and then why.

So what should I do? What's the safest way to have sex to make sure I don't get pregnant? What are the best condoms to use? I know a few people who have had condoms split on them when they've been having sex so that's got me really worried.

Also it's my first time having sex. Any advice about sex would be greatly appreciated :)

[Glasgow]

Just be careful, use a condom at all times. Maybe check the odd time to see its still intact and tell him not to cum inside you even with a condom on. And if you go again use a new condom (obviously :P)

[Lifesreject]

Mabey it would be a good idea to go the pill. but make sure you still use a condom. All i can say for the first time is take it slowly and dont rushe and push and b warned it hurts and u may bleed. But make sureu r really ready and keep safe.

[Maverick]

The best way to prevent pregnancy is two forms of birth control. The best are him using a condom and you going on the pill. The best condom can be any regular name brand from the pharmacy. I think as you become more educated with sex you can experiment with different kinds but for a first time try to stick with regular kind. You're best off going to a planned parenthood place to get birth control or see your doctor.

Your first time having sex will probably won't be as great and magical as you might expect. It will be a new thing that will require practice. So don't have high expectations for the first time, but you love him and that's all that will matter. Just have an open mind and don't expect it to be like the movies. It gets better in time.

[R_master]

oh ant, always the romantic :p

first time will hurt though, girls have told me it feels like a knife...i wont go much further into that :/

as for condom brands i reccomend Durex extra sensitive. birth control pill is really the best option for both parties if you can afford it.

good luck, and stay safe

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Like they've said, your first time won't be as great as your future experiences. The best way for you both to have the most fun (and the least pain, in your case) is to take everything very SLOW, and of course to communicate. Don't be shy to tell your partner what feels good and what is painful or uncomfortable. The same goes for your boyfriend; it'll go alot better for the two of you when you both know what each other likes.

Good Luck and Be Safe :yeah:

[Nikki9]

Thanks for all the great advice, everyone! You've helped me a lot, but now you've made me nervous lol. You say the first time it will hurt. Will I be likely to scream?

[Maverick]

Thanks for all the great advice, everyone! You've helped me a lot, but now you've made me nervous lol. You say the first time it will hurt. Will I be likely to scream?
Just make sure you two go slow and you do a lot of foreplay beforehand. The reason why it hurts for the first time for a lot of girls is because the couple rushes it and/or go too fast. As long as you take it slow it will minimize the pain.

[Actor]

one way is to time when you have sex so that you will have your period right after to remove everything but still use birth controle and a condom

[Maverick]

one way is to time when you have sex so that you will have your period right after to remove everything but still use birth controle and a condom
No, that's not a smart method at all.

[RaisingSand]

Thanks for all the great advice, everyone! You've helped me a lot, but now you've made me nervous lol. You say the first time it will hurt. Will I be likely to scream?

IMO saying it will hurt a lot the first time, and there will be pain and blood the first time is a lot of overdramatics. It does hurt, yes, but it has been blown way out of proportion. If you have masturbated at all before, or have partaken in any physical sporting events etc, there is a possiblity your hymen (the bit that gets torn when you first have sex) has already been broken (most doctor's believe this is what generally happens).
Anyway, it probably will be a bit painful for you the first time, and you'll have a weird feeling in your abdomen afterwards because you're not used to sex, but that's normal. There shouldn't be pain so extreme that would make you scream out, and if there is, then there's probably something wrong, but the likelihood of that happening is pretty low.
Just wait, see how it all goes and enjoy it. Good luck. :)