Chickening out!

[Skyline]

Well, I have come to understand that I want to come out, I feel that I am ready and don't want to hide it anymore... Its just that every time I go to tell someone... I chicken out... I have had multiple opportunities to tell my mom and have even said "Mom, I'm" but then I change it to something else (hungry, bored etc..) How can I just say it?!?! I don't want to beat around the bush I just want to say it!

[tundravortex]

just wait for that exact time and say or blurt it out

[Abyssal Echo]

I guess you can do what I did. just come out and tell her Mom I'm Gay

[PinkFloyd]

Well my whole family tends to be the talkative type, and every so often in the car or at the dinner table, that subject comes up. My entire family is very accepting of others, so whenever the subject does come up, we all wonder: "What's so bad about it?" Well if your family is anything like mine, then you can start a conversation with your mom about it and just say it. Unless your mom is homophobic, she will support you. best of luck,

-Rob

[Lost in the Echo]

Well, since you keep chickening out, I don't think you're completely ready to come out. I strongly suggest you wait until you're 100% ready and comfortable with telling her. You don't need to rush it, do this when the time is right. :)

[Dunce]

Maybe it would be easier to think of some sort of easy way to bring it up? I know me and my family don't really share things, and I would feel really weird just saying "I'm a lesbian" or "I'm bi" out of the blue. I would not be able to do that, even if I felt ready for them to know.
The way I would probably do it is if I was alone with my Mom and she brought up the topic of dating, or if I had been out the night before and she asked me about it. I would probably just be like "I've always thought it was weird how I didn't want a boyfriend, and then I realized quite a while ago that I don't like men at all, I like girls". To me, that would be easy. To bring it up in any conversation, as long as it's not random. The conversation wouldn't have to be about dating or sexuality, as long as I can bring it around to that.
Maybe this applies to you? It might be more comfortable for you if it felt relevant and a little more gentle or something?

[Magnus Bane]

Just get her talking about it and the. When you get I the subject of girls tell her I mean this worked in my case but I think that's because my mother is bi but I don't know. But what I do know is that mothers are very excepting. Especially when it is their own flesh and blood. When you talk to her about it next time just calm yourself and tell her don' t be scared.

[Pierce]

since you don't want to say it I would write it down and show her. Slip her a note that says I'm gay. If you don't want to do that practice saying I'm gay while your alone so it becomes more normal and not such a big deal.

[Lyra Heartstrings]

Coming out is hard for any teenager. And..well, once you tell, it gets a lot easier. You just have to stay strong and..say it.
"I'm gay, Mom."
Force yourself to. You have to. It's the only way you're going to feel better.

[unusedaccount]

Well, I have come to understand that I want to come out, I feel that I am ready and don't want to hide it anymore... Its just that every time I go to tell someone... I chicken out... I have had multiple opportunities to tell my mom and have even said "Mom, I'm" but then I change it to something else (hungry, bored etc..) How can I just say it?!?! I don't want to beat around the bush I just want to say it!

Just say it. If she loves you, she'll accept you for who you are.

[DepartInSecret]

Yeah same here I always chicken out. I know that I am gay and that people will accept it but I guess that there is always that thought...
Well Ivan sure that if I push myself I will eventually blurt it out. :)

[ImCoolBeans]

It took me a long time to be able to come out to my Mom. After a few failed tries at telling her I decided that the easiest way to do it (for me, at least) was to tell her that I had to talk to her about something personal, that way I couldn't really back out of it anymore. If you feel like you're ready and comfortable with coming out then maybe that could work for you too. It takes a lot of acceptance and comfortability with yourself to even get close to the point where you want to come out -- it's never an easy task the first time -- especially with your mom. I told a few of my close friends before I told either of my parents because I had always heard that it gets easier the more you do it, which proved to be true (again, for me, at least).

[unusedaccount]

Well, I have come to understand that I want to come out, I feel that I am ready and don't want to hide it anymore... Its just that every time I go to tell someone... I chicken out... I have had multiple opportunities to tell my mom and have even said "Mom, I'm" but then I change it to something else (hungry, bored etc..) How can I just say it?!?! I don't want to beat around the bush I just want to say it!

Why society feels the need to label people is beyond me...

[LiamC]

I did the same so many times, and still find myself doing it! It gets easier the more people you tell though, face to face especially. Recently I've been trying to tell one of my straight friends but I also have a crush on him so it's awkward and I just annoyingly imagine him then immediately twigging that I have feelings for him, but I can't see why because I don't act like it. And it's so hard to say I imagine myself hinting but I need to say 'Look, I'm gay.' and it's simple enough but I just can't, probably because of my feelings for him.

Could you not text a friend first? I did that and even that builds up a bit of confidence so it's slightly easier to tell someone face to face. If you're already out to a few people and you find it hard to just say 'mom I'm gay' then you just have to dive in and say it, it's one of the hardest things you'll ever do but it's a lot better than hurting from keeping it bottled up if you feel you really must come out.

[teen.jpg]

I do the same thing! Just try to relax your mind, and don't freak yourself out!

[darthearth]

I just indirectly mentioned it. I talked about how I wanted a gay student group and they asked why and I said "because that's my orientation", and I used those exact words too. Got the message across fine :-)

[Troy35216]

yeh i would practice on a couple of good friends first. if you still can't figure out a way to tell your mom you can always do the 2 truths and a lie game and make "i'm gay" one of the truths and make the lie something obvious. like "I'm allergic to peanuts. I won the Nobel Prize. I'm gay....guess which one is the lie, Mom" and since she knows you never won the Nobel Prize she'll figure out your gay.

[Lovelife090994]

Maybe try soul searching?

[Eth_94123]

It's a hard thing to do but if it helps then write a letter to your mom! It might help with you chickening out? :)

[Celtic.]

Just randomly come into the room and scream IM GAY!
and walk out. see the reaction and go from there

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