do i even really like him?

[mynameisjane]

i knew this guy for about a year. sometimes he seems to be attracted to me, sometimes i'm attracted to him, but most of the time we're just platonic. sometimes when we're out with our friends, they'll check out a girl and he'll join in. i hate when they do that because then i feel very self concious. my friends say he never talks about girls he likes. he doesnt really flirt with anyone. or he'll be really bad at it. he hasnt had a girlfriend in the time i've known him. i like him again but i think he might not like me. idk he's really hard to figure out. last year some friends said, "would you go out with jane?" and he said he'd have to think about it, but never got back to them about it. but i might only like him because i get jealous when other girls hug him, he had to leave the country 2 weeks ago and said he might not come back, and he had a sexy accent. but he's a nice guy. he seems sweet. but i dont want just tell him how i feel because we have the same friends and if he doesnt like me back, i'll remember that everytime i hang out with him.

[Lifesreject]

You say he might not be coming back to the country then mabey it would be best to move on find someone new who you like. If he does come back then mabey it would be a good idea to tell him how you feel you may find he does and you start a relationship. but then again he may not and yes it hurts to be rejected but it gets better, and trust me i no, move on there are plenty more fish in the sea.

[mynameisjane]

he came back. thats probably why i like him so much now because i feel like i almost lost him forever. but if i tell him how i feel and he doesnt feel the same way, it will be hard moving on when we have the same friends and hang out all the time. we'd still be friends but it would be wierd between us. i would have killed a good friendship. and he'll look at me as his ugly friend who has a crush on him. then one day he might decide to date me just because he can't find someone prettier. or what if i tell him and he likes me back but breaks up when someone prettier comes along? what if he says he likes me but is only going out with me just because he has nothing better to do? but i dont know if he'll ever ask me out because i'm not good at flirting either and he really shy.

[Lifesreject]

Firstly you really do need to talk to him because if hes shy as you say he might not have the courage to say that he like you and if neither of you speak up ull probably never get together. And you say you think he would finish you for someone prettier i doubt that i bet your a beautiful girl and its not what is on the outside it is whats on the inside that counts and if he cant see that then he isnt worth the effort. If he would finish you for someone else because you wernt pretty enough then he isnt worth it. I no it will be hard to move on but my ex bf is in my group of friends and i find it difficult still to be with him when his girlfriend is there. But there is more to life than boys and im learning that as long as you have your real friends you will be ok.