Trust Issues HELP

[joescott15]

hi so im 17 and my girlfriend is 15 and we are in love i know one of you is going to say you dont know what love is but its different for everyone and we have been through alot like her having cancer and im going on holiday for 3 weeks to australia soon and im going to be so worried about her meeting up with other lads when im not there and i wont be able to talk to her much when she really needs me, what do i do? how can i fix my trust issues?

[Gandalf]

hi so im 17 and my girlfriend is 15 and we are in love i know one of you is going to say you dont know what love is but its different for everyone and we have been through alot like her having cancer and im going on holiday for 3 weeks to australia soon and im going to be so worried about her meeting up with other lads when im not there and i wont be able to talk to her much when she really needs me, what do i do? how can i fix my trust issues?

Trust issues aren't simple to deal with in the sense that having them, since there are different types of trust, having a personality which may exhibit lack of trust generally towards people, is different to having a lack of trust in a particular person.

This would lead me to ask, what in particular would lead you to mis-trust your girlfriend? Or if not anything there is your mis-trust a result (as unwanted as it is) of previous actions or is this a result instead of mis-placed fear and apprehension of being apart for a while?

-I don't expect you to answer those, they are just quesitons to think about in terms of understanding your thought process.

Now, in terms of practical soloution would it be possible you spoke honestly about this to her? Or would it be worth just reminding each other how you feel about each other by doing something positive and parting temporarily on a very positive mood?

Hope I helped :)

[Lost in the Echo]

Well, there isn't really much you can do, really. If she actually does love you, and is committed to you, then she won't cheat on you.
If she does cheat on you, then clearly, she's not the right girl for you.
You just have to trust her. If you're both truly in love, and committed to each other, then everything will be fine.

[FreeFall]

You say you're in love and been through so much, but you don't trust her? Has something happened to cause your lack of trust or faith in her? I mean, you can't really keep tabs on her 24/7 for the rest of your lives, and trust is one of the solid foundations of a good relationship. Maybe you need to sit down and judge and soul search. Can you be happy with a girl you can't trust when you're not there for awhile? Or will you break and give her this chance to prove you, she's trust-worthy?

Of course, you can even sit down with her and calmly explain your feelings and your fears. Get her to understand you, and you to understand her. Communicate : D