i give up

[ItsNotOver777]

so

I met this girl, about 8 months ago.

about two months into knowing her, we knew each other pretty well and became friends, and i started to like her.

one of my friends told her i liked her and she asked me about it..i denied it..which i regret. week later i told her how i feel and she told me i screwed up the first time for denying it and she only likes me as a friend.

now we're best friends and we talk all the time but idk..

she goes out with guys and when she breaks up i feel like...finally, another chance. shell get a new one a week later. and she just broke up with her boyfriend on like really bad terms and she used to be in LOVE with my best friend and now shes all over talking about how much of a best friend he is and all this bs, when I'm the one who has always been f***king there for her.

but no

its just never good enough

idk what to do

i know love is a strong word

and i don't use it lightly

but i love her but shell never the same way.


i feel like crap all the time now to.


ahhhhhhhhhhh love sucks..

idk if I'm jealous or just angry.

either way iv felt like this for a while now and wish it would stop.

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Damn man... I'm in a similar situation... I guess we feel the same way about these things.

Love well and truly SUCKS :D

[ItsNotOver777]

Damn man... I'm in a similar situation... I guess we feel the same way about these things.

Love well and truly SUCKS :D

Haha, yeah. I'm still able to have a good time when I'm hanging out with my friends and stuff, but when I start thinking about it i just feel depressed and like I'm not good enough..

Least I'm still able to have a good time sometimes, hopefully it doesn't get worse =\

[Sage]

If she truly won't go out with you because "you screwed up the first time", then honestly, I don't see why she's worth your time. : /

[mynameisjane]

she probably knows you well by now and if she wont give you a chance now, its not likely that she'll give you a chance anytime soon. if she has a new boyfriend every week, she probably doesnt know what she wants. but if you care about her enough, you can still be her friend and maybe one day she'll grow up and realize how you must really care about her. but that wont be anytime soon. so are you willing to put up with the pain for the small chance that she'll fall in love with you someday a long time from now? or you can tell her goodbye.

this reminds me of forest gump.

[Lifesreject]

Mabey you should try telling herhow you feel again and if she says she isnt intrested just ask her to just listen to you at least and see what she says. And if she still says that she just wants to be friends it would be best to move on. Look for other girls and if it is really going to be a problem just start to hang out with her less. Good Luck with it

[ItsNotOver777]

yeah this past week she broke up with her bf, guess what, she likes a new dude alreaaaady.

F**k it. i dont care anymore, i still love her, of course, but i just dont care.

i just wanta know how do get over it now instead of to keep trying. screw it.

i dont know how you feel so crappy all the time over something like this

:(

and what pisses me off the most

she acts like shes likes me but she doesnt


wears my hoodie soemtimes

always, ALWAYS says hi if she sees me in the hallway, if im not looking shell tap my back and say hi still. shell try tickling me. all this other crap

it just pisses me off so much when people act like that when they dont like you.

[mynameisjane]

i think she knows you like her and she wants you to keep liking her even though she doesnt like you back, because it feels good when someone likes you. and when you stopped acting like you like her, she missed that and she wants you to like her again. she might even like you all of a sudden but once you start acting like you like her again, she'll stop liking you. at least thats how i am, i dont know why.

if you want to get over her, explain how you feel and that you cant be her friend anymore. and if she suddenly likes you, dont go out with her because it wouldnt work out.

[ItsNotOver777]

i think she knows you like her and she wants you to keep liking her even though she doesnt like you back, because it feels good when someone likes you. and when you stopped acting like you like her, she missed that and she wants you to like her again. she might even like you all of a sudden but once you start acting like you like her again, she'll stop liking you. at least thats how i am, i dont know why.

if you want to get over her, explain how you feel and that you cant be her friend anymore. and if she suddenly likes you, dont go out with her because it wouldnt work out.


Well if that would be the only way to for sure get over it, I'll pass.

The pain of losing a best friend would be far worse than wanting someone you can't have..

The least I want to do is stay friends.

[byee]

I think you've got a pretty good deal with her right now. It sounds like she can only tolerate 'going out' for a short time. Your relationship is more enduring. Why do you want to change that? Sounds like the Praying Mantis love story here: The male wants the female, and risks death to mount her (which always happens). You wanna gut your head bitten off to 'go out' with her for a short time?

Sometimes the best relationships have boundaries that keep it different, yet safe. Try not to look at it as 'missing out' on something. It's a compromise, but at least you have the pleasure of her continuing company. And who knows, as she matures a bit, maybe she'll come to recognize what a catch you are. Without biting your head off.

[ItsNotOver777]

I think you've got a pretty good deal with her right now. It sounds like she can only tolerate 'going out' for a short time. Your relationship is more enduring. Why do you want to change that? Sounds like the Praying Mantis love story here: The male wants the female, and risks death to mount her (which always happens). You wanna gut your head bitten off to 'go out' with her for a short time?

Sometimes the best relationships have boundaries that keep it different, yet safe. Try not to look at it as 'missing out' on something. It's a compromise, but at least you have the pleasure of her continuing company. And who knows, as she matures a bit, maybe she'll come to recognize what a catch you are. Without biting your head off.

Lol, thanks. Theres a good chance me and her are going to the same highschool so thats good.

the funny thing is when I think about it, I can't see us "together" but I still like her.

I hope I'm the reason why I get so depressed about it is hormones or something..

[TakenAway--x]

No matter how hard it is to believe, you will be fine. You'll find someone who you think is even better than her. It just takes time.

Do you really love her or do you just want her that bad? Sometimes it isn't what you think it is. Love is a strong word to use, especially in this situation. It could be infatuation.

When someone new comes along, and you are thinking back on this, if you realize you never actually loved her, you will be kicking yourself for saying that you did. Think over your words carefully.

You are young. She is young, and it is obvious from the way she moves from one guy to the other. Dating to most kids is just a bunch of fun. She doesn't seem like she is looking for anything serious, seeing as her current relationships are small flings.

If you don't like the things she does to you, just tell her to stop sending you mixed messages and to leave you alone if she's going to continue with it.