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January 8th, 2013, 08:59 PM
I'm 17, male, and last week one of my best friends stopped talking to me for no reason
I'm not that social but I'm really friendly with everyone and I have some really good friends and everything. Then out of the blue, last week, one of my best friends just started to ignore me. I have zero idea why. I know him very well, I know he wouldn't get mad at me unless I did something truly horrible, problem is, I can't seem to figure out what.
I DO remember that the night before he stopped talking to me me and him were supposed to meet up with an older kid to study our classes together. I didn't really feel like going because I wanted to go home already (my schools pretty lenient with leaving after official classes are over) so I just went home without telling him. I really don't think this is the reason why he isn't talking to me though. He wouldn't get mad over something like this, I'm sure of it. He even did the same like two weeks ago, he left early since he felt tired and I was understandable about it.
I know it's not a problem at home he was having because he was friendly with everyone in the class this week, but specifically made a point to ignore me. As I said before, he has to have a REALLY good reason why he's mad at me, because he normally doesn't get bothered by such things. Problem is, I can't recall anything out of the ordinary I did to him. Just to give you an example, one time a few years ago I was whacking him with my sweater just out of fun and accidently hit him with the metal zipper. He had a bruise on his cheek for like two weeks but he was mad at me for like 10 MINUTES and then he said it was ok. He's just not the kind of kid to hold grudges at people and not tell them what he's mad at them for.
I'm a pretty good friend to him, we joke around alot. Lately I was wondering whether I was getting a bit dependent on him as a friend (since I don't have a HUGE amount of friends) but I don't think so. I gave him his space, he has friends with the cool kids in the class too and when he's involved with them I don't try to make him join me or something. It's been six days already and I have no CLUE what I did to him!!!! Oh yes, and all my other friends are treating me completely normal and joking around and stuff. They're not acting like I did anything upsetting to them. He's obviously mad at me, for a good reason.
It really hurts me, we've been really good friends for a long time and then this just suddenly comes up. I haven't actually INITIATED a talk with him since he started ignoring me because I didn't want to sound like a disloyal friend. (Accusing a friend of being mad at you just makes things worse).
Anyways I'm really upset over this, I first thought it was just coincidence that he didn't talk to me for a few days but now I'm convinced. We're in the same classes for like 3/4 of the day and we sit next to each other so I KNOW he's mad at me for something. I just can't figure out what!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry if I made you read all this, I'm just really upset right now, please, any advice would be highly appreciated
I'm not that social but I'm really friendly with everyone and I have some really good friends and everything. Then out of the blue, last week, one of my best friends just started to ignore me. I have zero idea why. I know him very well, I know he wouldn't get mad at me unless I did something truly horrible, problem is, I can't seem to figure out what.
I DO remember that the night before he stopped talking to me me and him were supposed to meet up with an older kid to study our classes together. I didn't really feel like going because I wanted to go home already (my schools pretty lenient with leaving after official classes are over) so I just went home without telling him. I really don't think this is the reason why he isn't talking to me though. He wouldn't get mad over something like this, I'm sure of it. He even did the same like two weeks ago, he left early since he felt tired and I was understandable about it.
I know it's not a problem at home he was having because he was friendly with everyone in the class this week, but specifically made a point to ignore me. As I said before, he has to have a REALLY good reason why he's mad at me, because he normally doesn't get bothered by such things. Problem is, I can't recall anything out of the ordinary I did to him. Just to give you an example, one time a few years ago I was whacking him with my sweater just out of fun and accidently hit him with the metal zipper. He had a bruise on his cheek for like two weeks but he was mad at me for like 10 MINUTES and then he said it was ok. He's just not the kind of kid to hold grudges at people and not tell them what he's mad at them for.
I'm a pretty good friend to him, we joke around alot. Lately I was wondering whether I was getting a bit dependent on him as a friend (since I don't have a HUGE amount of friends) but I don't think so. I gave him his space, he has friends with the cool kids in the class too and when he's involved with them I don't try to make him join me or something. It's been six days already and I have no CLUE what I did to him!!!! Oh yes, and all my other friends are treating me completely normal and joking around and stuff. They're not acting like I did anything upsetting to them. He's obviously mad at me, for a good reason.
It really hurts me, we've been really good friends for a long time and then this just suddenly comes up. I haven't actually INITIATED a talk with him since he started ignoring me because I didn't want to sound like a disloyal friend. (Accusing a friend of being mad at you just makes things worse).
Anyways I'm really upset over this, I first thought it was just coincidence that he didn't talk to me for a few days but now I'm convinced. We're in the same classes for like 3/4 of the day and we sit next to each other so I KNOW he's mad at me for something. I just can't figure out what!!!!!!!!!!!
Sorry if I made you read all this, I'm just really upset right now, please, any advice would be highly appreciated