I am gay and I have a girlfriend

[DepartInSecret]

Well as the title suggests I am gay and I have a girlfriend. When we first started going out I was not 100% sure if I was gay but over the last while I have proven to my self that I am. I was trying not get in any relationships but due to peer pressure and persistence it happened. I don't consider us as a serious couple as we have kissed once in a year and a half of dating. I have been hoping that she ends it so that I don't have to but that hasn't happened so now I am doing it.
I want to tell her that I am gay as she is a great person to talk to but i am a little bit scared that she might take it the wrong way. Does anyone have any ideas on how to do this respectfully.
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[ReginaGeorge]

I think you should explain to her what you said on here nicely face-to-face. Tell her how you feel. I don't know about her knowledge of sexuality, but tell her it's not her fault if for some reason you think she's blaming herself for whatever reason, that sexuality isn't a choice, and your sorry things worked out this way, but it's not who you are and you can't pretend now that you know. Good luck.

[armadaskiing]

You're trying to say.. You have girlfriend and you're gay and you and her are together for 1.5 year... AND YOU KISSED HER ONCE? o:

[ackmedsgirl666]

well basically pull her aside and say that you really care about her alot
but when it comes down to it you have found out your gay and cannot continue the relationship because of how you are feeling and that you still wish to be friends with her etc

[Human]

you can do it, just be sensitive and take time to explain that you have found yourself in a way

[DerBear]

Puberty for Both :arrow: Relationship and Dating

I understand that you're hoping to have her end it. However if after a year and a half, there has been no sign of the relationship ending then I'd personally just tell her that you don't want to be in a relationship. I mean, she might never end it and you'll be with her for a longtime. So ending it yourself might be the best way to go. How to end it with her is just to sit her down and do it face to face. There isn't an easy way to end a relationship most of the time so you just gotta say it how it is.

[DepartInSecret]

Thank you for the help from everyone so far and sorry DerBear I was not aware that there was a relationship section.

[FreeFall]

If you're really scared/worried, you don't even have to tell her your gay.

You could just say that the spark or feelings aren't there anymore (in a way this is true so it's not completely lying).
Either way it's not fair to her or yourself and new-found sexuality, she may be totally comfy as is right now and not break up with you. Don't rely on her to do it when you know it needs to end. It'll be ok : D