Sleeping over at girlfriend's house

[Blueeyes]

Ok so I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 3 months now. Parents know about it and I think they like her. It has always been something for us to sleep together, I mean, like we really want it to happen for just even a night. Just to talk and be, together lol. So I was thinking about it and actually decided to google it, if it was ok for a 16 year old to sleep over at their girlfriend/boyfriend's house. To my surprise, it seems lots of our age actually do it. We do NOT plan to have sex, neither us are sexually active nor do we plan to be, so this isn't about sex.

So I'm asking for the people around my age (16) if they have slept over at their boyfriend/girlfriend's house before and if you shared a bed? How did you go about asking your parents about this?

My mom is fairly umm.. old fashioned. She likes my girlfriend, but I don't know if I should ask her... and to make it worst, I get really shy and nervous to ask her anything lol.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I had the same problem
When I was 15 I got my first girlfriend and I wanted her to sleep over
But Even though we were the same gender my foster mom wouldn't let us share a bed
But we do it anyway. Well basically your mom might feel the same
She might not allow it because of how common it is for young teens to have intercourse at your age but then again she might be ok with it
Try and talk to her and see what she says. She might let her stay over but you will probably have to sleep in another room which is what me and my ex had to do
Good luck

[justinglives]

what I've seen and heard it's really not that unusual for boys and girls to sleep over together. but I can say from experience that unless you have an unusual amount of self restraint, you may not be planning on having sex but in a lot of cases it's really difficult not to when the hormones take over. if that happens you could commit to doing something else other than real sex..... but even that is tough. ( think about the last time you said you were just going to watch a minute of a porn and not jerk off.......... how far did that get?) as far as asking the parents the best way is to demonstrate how much you guys care for each other and respect each other in the presence, and not be overly gropy what disrespectful to the parents. I'm talking more about from the guy because don't forget it is there a little girl that they are going to try and protect.... and most certainly is sex does happen she has a lot more to lose than you do..... ie pregnancy. take it really slow and take your lead from how they react to you being respectful to them.

[Blueeyes]

what I've seen and heard it's really not that unusual for boys and girls to sleep over together. but I can say from experience that unless you have an unusual amount of self restraint, you may not be planning on having sex but in a lot of cases it's really difficult not to when the hormones take over. if that happens you could commit to doing something else other than real sex..... but even that is tough. ( think about the last time you said you were just going to watch a minute of a porn and not jerk off.......... how far did that get?) as far as asking the parents the best way is to demonstrate how much you guys care for each other and respect each other in the presence, and not be overly gropy what disrespectful to the parents. I'm talking more about from the guy because don't forget it is there a little girl that they are going to try and protect.... and most certainly is sex does happen she has a lot more to lose than you do..... ie pregnancy. take it really slow and take your lead from how they react to you being respectful to them.

Ok thanks. Well we both plan to save sex until marriage... she is more firm on it then I am.

I think maybe we should wait a bit.

[brianabyington]

I know I'm a little young, well almost 15 and so is my boyfriend. My boyfriend & I have known each other for 5 yrs and we have been bestfriends since the day we met and never thought we would date ever and we are. My boyfriend and I want to wait for sex also. He says he is not one of those types of guys that only has sex on the brain & I do believe him as I've know him for a long time. I still think sex is kind of gross really and he respects me for it. I would love to have sleepovers and just to cuddle up with him and wake up next to him. That would be great. We are in the same situation kind of. I would love for this to happen also, but I don't see it happening.

[unnamed94]

from how you say it, your mom probably won't let you sleep with your girlfriend. try to explain her how you actually feel and as someone else pointed out try to show her that you actually respect her and would be ok with sleeping over without having sex. if it doesn't work out (which will probably happen) then there's nothing you can do about it but wait. 3 months is not that long for a relationship and parents know that most teens have sex at that age, so you have to understand other peoples point of view if they think they are encouraging you two to have sex by doing that.

in my personal experience, when i was your age i had friends (they weren't actual gfs) sleep over at my house even if my parents didn't know about it because my mom was also old fashioned about that, although i never slept over at any of these girls houses because i didn't feel really comfortable. from what i've talked about with friends from when they were around 16, their gfs slept over every once in a while (not that common), although they did have sex and slept on the same bed most of the times.

[FreeFall]

I slept next to my boyfriend on a camping trip in separate sleeping bags. He went through my dad, the laid back take adventures parent, who got my uptight mother to agree. His crazy she beast of a wo...I mean mom, stuffed 4 pillows, a towel used to dry dishes, and a duffle bag between us.

If you're still up for it, maybe tell them you two will be in separate sleeping bags in an open room, like the living room or dining room. Your head will face her feet and her head will face your feet. Unless someone has a foot fetish that much seems harmless.

[Wrestler0821]

"We do NOT plan to have sex, neither us are sexually active nor do we plan to be, so this isn't about sex. "
Not many people plan to have sex. I understand wanting to be closer to your girlfriend but I think if you asked your traditional mother she would automatically think you are trying to get laid. Then she will be paranoid every time you go out with her.

[dontfiguremeout]

It's really good you guys don't plan on having sex! I see this relationship a true relationship, because you guys want more in each other than sex! It's going to be hard to tell your parents because teens now a days just want sex! So do what you feel like you should do. Best of luck to both of you!

[Aceso]

Simple solution me and my parents have: Sleep in different bedrooms. My parents are cool with that and it works :)