:( Help. Passing of My GF's Uncle

[AuthorX303720]

I really need help. Just a couple minutes ago, I was notified by my neighbor across the street that her uncle passed away at home. Just a 6 days after he had heart sugery in order to clear up his heart after a recent heart attack. I would really like some help, to help her through the mourning process or just encourgaging words so that I can show her in a week. I don't know how to deal with losing such a close relative and mourning in a relationship.

[Noirtier]

I really need help. Just a couple minutes ago, I was notified by my neighbor across the street that her uncle passed away at home. Just a 6 days after he had heart sugery in order to clear up his heart after a recent heart attack. I would really like some help, to help her through the mourning process or just encourgaging words so that I can show her in a week. I don't know how to deal with losing such a close relative and mourning in a relationship.

Honestly, it depends on the person. If she was particularly close to her uncle, which I'm guessing she was by the way you put it, she could be handling the grief in different ways. Some people want to be left alone to grieve. If she's one of those people, then give her the space if she needs it. Other people want support, and encouragement, when they grieve. If that's the case, then talk to her, let her know that you love her and that you care about her, and you're sorry that this happened. That you feel her pain to an extent, because you see how much she's hurting. Regardless of how she chooses to grieve, you need to respect that choice. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs you, that you care about her. Make sure she knows that if she feels she needs to talk, then she can talk to you. And if she needs to be alone, you'll still respect her wishes. It's a hard thing to help someone you're close to through the death of a loved one, and I wish you the best of luck. I hope that you're able to help her through this, that she knows she has people there who support her and care about her.

[Imfeelinglostagain]

I'd suggest just being there for her and listen if she wants to talk. There really isn't much you can do sadly. Only time will heal

[FreeFall]

Honestly, it depends on the person. If she was particularly close to her uncle, which I'm guessing she was by the way you put it, she could be handling the grief in different ways. Some people want to be left alone to grieve. If she's one of those people, then give her the space if she needs it. Other people want support, and encouragement, when they grieve. If that's the case, then talk to her, let her know that you love her and that you care about her, and you're sorry that this happened. That you feel her pain to an extent, because you see how much she's hurting. Regardless of how she chooses to grieve, you need to respect that choice. Let her know that you're there for her if she needs you, that you care about her. Make sure she knows that if she feels she needs to talk, then she can talk to you. And if she needs to be alone, you'll still respect her wishes. It's a hard thing to help someone you're close to through the death of a loved one, and I wish you the best of luck. I hope that you're able to help her through this, that she knows she has people there who support her and care about her.
This, this, this. A significant other isn't so much really in position to automatically assist on their own, but be there when asked to by the one they care for/love. Noirter said it best : D

[ackmedsgirl666]

just be there for her
show her you care.. make her feel loved... and supported
encourage her it will be ok.... basically talk to her and make her feel like she has the full suppport she needs