Bedtime

[Leon03]

I had an argument with my Mom this morning about bedtime. We got school-holidays still and I staid up until 11:45pm. She was like "This is not going to happen again". I am age 13 (almost 14 in March).
What time are you supposed to be in bed on a regular weekday and on weekends or holidays?

[workingatperfect]

I haven't had a bed time since I was like 10. Of course, I was always really easy to get up in the mornings. But my mom used to complain a bit if I was still up around 2am. I now go to an online school, so I obviously have no bed time. Well, that and I'm 17 haha, it'd be a bit silly if I did.

[Noirtier]

I had an argument with my Mom this morning about bedtime. We got school-holidays still and I staid up until 11:45pm. She was like "This is not going to happen again". I am age 13 (almost 14 in March).
What time are you supposed to be in bed on a regular weekday and on weekends or holidays?

Really, the time when you're supposed to be in bed is up to your parent(s). You're only thirteen--that's really pretty young. If your mother feels that 11:45 is too late for you to be up on a regular basis, or even really at all, then you need to respect her wish as a rule. The older you get, the longer you will probably be able to stay up, as you grow and mature, and as you begin to become an adult and are able to accept the responsibility that comes with that. When I was your age, bedtime was about 9:00/9:30ish if I remember right. And that was at the latest, including on holidays/weekends. It's part of what comes with being a kid--because even if you are a teenager you're still someone's child. Eventually, like I said, you'll grow and mature and, if my own experiences are any indication, will be able and allowed to stay up later and later if you so desire. It's just a matter of obeying your parents on this one--your mother knows that sleep is important, especially during this time of life, when you need on average 8 3/4 hours of sleep a night or so.

[Lost in the Echo]

I've never really had a bedtime, i've always went to sleep whenever I wanted to. :P

Although, i'd say 10:00 P.M. during the week, and 12:00 A.M. during the weekend/holidays is pretty reasonable. :)

[simplycomplicated]

I have no defined bedtime. But in school time it's usually 22.00 - 22.30.
When it's about holidays - somewhere about 00.00... xD

[darkie]

I could definitely attest to that fact said above that as you grow older, your bedtime extends bit by bit. When I was 13, my bed time was around 9:15pm during school days and 10pm during weekends/when there's no school the next day. Now I'm 15 and it's like 10:00 pm for school days and until 11:30pm when there's no school the following day. My mom knows I have more things to do and to work on, which explains the later bedtime.

Follow your parents when they set a bedtime, they only do it for your own good. Having enough time to rest is essential, no matter who you are :)

[TigerBoy]

Routine is really important to keep your body programmed to sleep on a schedule that suits you, and your mum just wants the best for you because sleep is really important to your health.

I have a sleep disorder type thing and I often can't get to sleep at a sensible time. I train before school so that motivates me to get out of bed and makes me more tired at night, but I hate when I can't go to sleep and spend the whole day like a zombie. I can manage one or two nights with only a few hours but it makes you feel really ill (and affects my sports and brainpower).

[Leon03]

Really, the time when you're supposed to be in bed is up to your parent(s). You're only thirteen--that's really pretty young. If your mother feels that 11:45 is too late for you to be up on a regular basis, or even really at all, then you need to respect her wish as a rule. The older you get, the longer you will probably be able to stay up, as you grow and mature, and as you begin to become an adult and are able to accept the responsibility that comes with that. When I was your age, bedtime was about 9:00/9:30ish if I remember right. And that was at the latest, including on holidays/weekends. It's part of what comes with being a kid--because even if you are a teenager you're still someone's child. Eventually, like I said, you'll grow and mature and, if my own experiences are any indication, will be able and allowed to stay up later and later if you so desire. It's just a matter of obeying your parents on this one--your mother knows that sleep is important, especially during this time of life, when you need on average 8 3/4 hours of sleep a night or so.

Thanks for your honest and precise answer. But is it really that important for a kid of my age to be in bed before 10pm basically? It's not that I question the given bedtime by my parents on schooldays (which is 9 btw and 10ish respectively during holidays). It is more that there is obviously NO exception to this rule. Sure, I will obey my parents' bedtime for the rest of the holidays. :D
But I plan to speak to my parents again - in a good way of course - so any additional opinion is highley appreciated :)

[TigerBoy]

Thanks for your honest and precise answer. But is it really that important for a kid of my age to be in bed before 10pm basically? It's not that I question the given bedtime by my parents on schooldays (which is 9 btw and 10ish respectively during holidays). It is more that there is obviously NO exception to this rule. Sure, I will obey my parents' bedtime for the rest of the holidays. :D
But I plan to speak to my parents again - in a good way of course - so any additional opinion is highley appreciated :)

Yes - as I explained in the post right above, sleep is very important for your health, and routine is important to help you sleep.

The actual time depends on when you have to get up. Teenagers need at least 8 hours and mid to late teens may need more like 10 hours.

I think a lot of us get into bad sleep habits over the holiday and have a real shock when term starts again :P

[thisisben]

I just go to sleep when i feel like it , on a school day im up till about 1:00 am , and then on a weekend/holidays and up until 3/4 5 am at the latest , my mum doesnt mind unless i have the tv on too loud haha.

[Leon03]

I have a sleep disorder type thing and I often can't get to sleep at a sensible time.
I am sorry to hear that. Fortunately that's not a problem for me at all. I go to bed at 9, 10, 11 or any other time, turn around and fall asleep within minutes.
This morning I woke up at 8 and was fit. Not tired or something. I am a morning person anyway. Maybe that's why I was cross with my Mom because she was mad at me.

[TigerBoy]

Maybe that's why I was cross with my Mom because she was mad at me.
I can relate :P But hey, don't think its bad you get that at 13, my sister is ten years older than me and has her own place, and still gets my parents nagging her like she's 13. Parents will nag, fact of life, sorry :-D

[Cognizant]

In my house, we have "guidelines" a.k.a my dad says "go to bed earlier than 11 or you'll have fun in the morning," But I usually just go to bed when I want.
However, I go to bed willingly around midnight or 1 AM, if I'm upset.

[Desuetude]

eh at my dads it's 11pm on both week days and weekends and at my mums it's somewhere between 10:00-11:30 depending on when she wants to do to bed. My sister (who is 12) is usually an hour before me on weekdays and goes to bed at the same time on weekends which in my opinion is a little unfair but it's the parents choice.

I know it's easy to argue about bedtime but from experience I know that it won't get you anywhere. The best way to go is to just sleep at the time your parents have set and maybe after a couple of months when they know they can trust you, bring up the conversation again. I hope speaking to them goes well and I know it seems unfair but parents think they know all and sometimes it's just easier to go along with the façade.

[DerBear]

When I was younger, (I'm 17 currently) we had to be in bed round about 9-9:30 PM on School Days/week days and then on Weekends it was generally a lot later. However it was more 11pm-midnight. However we were generally always in our rooms, we didn't have to go to sleep. So it probably if we spent it downstairs then my parents would have had it lower. However until I was about 13, I was always in bed around midnight for sure, often a lot less, probably 11.

When I was really young it was 7pm, but that was when I was very very young.

When I hit my teens it changed to a more unspoken rule. As long as I was upstairs, it wasn't a problem and I could be up at late as I wanted. I got my PS3 when I was around 13 and discovered the world of online gaming and found myself frequently being up to 2am in the morning. My parents made comments about me not getting enough sleep but because I always got up at a reasonable time, in fact I was often up really early, still am. and my school work was always done and I took care of my responsibilities I had, I guess they learned to be okay with it.

So yeah since 13 its really been an unofficial bed time, I always go upstairs around 10 now-a-days. However there is no real "lights out, sleep time rule"

[Xandle]

I'm awful with bedtimes - I'll stay up as late as 5am when I don't need to be up in the morning and 2am when I do. I really don't get enough sleep, though. I was probably going to bed at about 10 at your age I'd guess.

[Leon03]

Had that conversation with my parents at dinner. Went really well. Got to go to bed now. It's 10 :D

[Steve Jobs]

I'm really not a morning person, so I slowly drift later and later everyday. Trust me, it's not good and I wished I was better in the mornings. When I was 13-14 my parents used to make me go to bed by 10 or 11 too.

[Jupiter]

it started that ten was it. over the years i've stayed up later and later, gradually of course. and now it's very rare if i go to bed before midnight!

[Skyline]

I don't have a bed time, but I know that going to school sleepy is hell, so I do my best to moderate my sleep.

[Foamy]

Anywhere between 10 and 11:30 is fine for me at 16. But for you, try 10 or earlier.

[Leon03]

As I am ok with my bedtimes in general it was only about those rare exeptions during holidays or before non-schooldays. After all my parents are ok with occasional extensions if they don't affect my daytime vivacity.
Thank you for all your support :D

[NudistKid]

i dont really have a bedtime i just go when im tired

[Abyssal Echo]

at 13 my bed time was 9 PM on school nights and 11 PM weekends and holidays.

[FreeFall]

When I was your age, 9 pm no exceptions. Schedules to keep and body order to maintain.
When I hit 16, 10 pm with a "no school day" exceptions. Usually if I was in bed before 1, everything is fine.
I hit 18, free for all. I pick when I go to bed. If I wake up tired after 4 hours of sleep, that's my fault. If i sleep in because I was too tired, my fault. They stopped regulating me and gave it to me to responsible for.

[Dimentio]

Well i am soon to be 17 (Birthdays in March too :P 16 currently) and an insomniac so my family no there is no point telling me to sleep, But when i was 13 nearly 14, I was going to bed around about 2 in the morning or so and my mum has issues with it at first but she accepted it after a while, But i think your mum is just caring and trying to make sure you sleep well and be a good mum :) I think her saying that at 11:45 is a little over the top but everyone has their views