Help Talking to Him

[minimoya]

I had previously explained I have a crush on a girl, Julia, and a guy, Will. Talking to Julia is a sinch. She's really nice, caring, but soft-spoken.

My question is about Will. I've told only two of my friends about my crush on Will. Both of them advised I not confess to Will. He is athletic, popular, and I'm certain straight. In no way am I popular. I talk to him on Facebook a couple times a week. I almost never talk to him in person though, even while having three classes together. He's one of those kinds of people to me. I'm too shy to talk to him. He is the varsity team quarterback and he's a sophomore. Playing at the Thanksgiving game, he broke his ankle and tore a ligament and needed surgery. He was out until after winter break. During that time, I messaged him about how injuries suck. I got an injury myself and we compared the two.

Anyway, even if I wanted to tell him my feelings, I would want to be friends with him first. I am not friends with many guys, and when popular guys talk to me about whatever, I get all awkward. It's just easier talking to girls. And I have no problems talking to the guys I'm already friends with. I don't know what to talk to Will about though and I feel the best way to be friends with anyone is to talk in person. But I have no clue on what to talk about.

Can anyone help? And should I tell him how I feel about him?

[Gandalf]

I had previously explained I have a crush on a girl, Julia, and a guy, Will. Talking to Julia is a sinch. She's really nice, caring, but soft-spoken.

My question is about Will. I've told only two of my friends about my crush on Will. Both of them advised I not confess to Will. He is athletic, popular, and I'm certain straight. In no way am I popular. I talk to him on Facebook a couple times a week. I almost never talk to him in person though, even while having three classes together. He's one of those kinds of people to me. I'm too shy to talk to him. He is the varsity team quarterback and he's a sophomore. Playing at the Thanksgiving game, he broke his ankle and tore a ligament and needed surgery. He was out until after winter break. During that time, I messaged him about how injuries suck. I got an injury myself and we compared the two.

Anyway, even if I wanted to tell him my feelings, I would want to be friends with him first. I am not friends with many guys, and when popular guys talk to me about whatever, I get all awkward. It's just easier talking to girls. And I have no problems talking to the guys I'm already friends with. I don't know what to talk to Will about though and I feel the best way to be friends with anyone is to talk in person. But I have no clue on what to talk about.

Can anyone help? And should I tell him how I feel about him?

Only you can decide whether or not to speak to him, you already talk to him on Facebook, so you could casually start a conversation. Perhaps sport since that seems to be something he at least is interested in.

Do what seems right and most positive for you, and if that does in time being truthful about your feelings then that is something you can think about. Just be careful he's not homophobic (your profile say's you're a guy)

You'll become less awkward as your confidence grows.
I don't know what else to say, so if you need anything else just let me know :)

[Imfeelinglostagain]

I'd tell him. If he's not interested then you'll know instead of wasting time on someone you won't benefit from. I've learned, just take the risk. You'll reget you didn't later in life when you've spent a couple years chasing someone only to find out they seriously don't want a relationship with you and that can hurt you alot in the end of things. I hope everything works for you :)

[minimoya]

I really like him and her. I spend much more time with her though. Even if I were to tell him, what would be the kind of thing I would say?

[Pierce]

I would advise not to tell him. If you tell him your world can be torn apart. If it is just a crush don't tell him anything. Focus more on the girl and maybe you can forget about him. You still label yourself as straight, this might be a minor crush and nothing more. Definitely do not tell him because you don't seem to know him too well and if he tells other people, your world can be torn apart. I wish you could just tell him how you fell without consequences but homophobia is very real and if word spreads there is a good chance that you will get made fun of for being gay. Best of Luck friend!

[AkuRokuStalker]

I agree with Pierce

[JustAGuy]

Just go up and talk to him almost football like if he has a college he would like to go to or whatever and them bring in your own interest skiing perhaps see if he skis or snowboards and then be like oh well maybe once your all healed up we could hit the slopes or something along those lines

[minimoya]

. . . Hmm . . . He does ski. I have a problem though. When I talk to guys, I can't shut up. I keep talking. I have no clue when I annoy someone until they make it very very clear. How would I get to know him, yet not annoying him?

[minimoya]

I did break it to him. He said he respects it and "it's all good". I apologized for him for not being able to shut up, since I message him every couple days on Facebook. He said, "it's okay it's okay." He is so chill about everything, but I am concerned I made things awkward for him, perhaps. A gay guy who hit on me last year made me uncomfortable, and I don't want to do the same to Will. I just wouldn't know because he's do chill and laid back. Should I even worry?