my boyfriend gets agressive when hes angry

[ackmedsgirl666]

if i try and fight back by like kicking him or punching him in the arm he goes too far and overpowers me and pretty much pounds me till im either crying or severely hurting... he just took my laptop from me and i got pissed and punched him to get it back and he threw me and wailed me with kicks :(
i know your just gonna tell me to dump him/kick him out whatever but its not that easy. i love him but at the same time im scared whenever he does these things :(:(

[AkuRokuStalker]

Abuse just gets worse and worse until someone ends up in the hospital or dead. Either talk to him or dump his ass. I'm glad you are willing to seek help but the only person that can help is you. You have to want to get out of this situation. More and more teenagers are being involved in abuse in relationships and most of them refuse to break up cause they think they love them. If he really loved you back he would not hurt you what so ever. Hope you break up with him cause he is not worth your love if all he does is hurt you.

[ackmedsgirl666]

thanks girl..
that helped alot

[FreeFall]

What will it take for you to even start to see how much danger you both are in?

What will it take for you to finally stop being so co-dependent and stop dragging him back to you?

What will it take for you two to finally stand in a healthy place in life? Whether alone or together?

You say you love him. That's nice. But do you trust him? Do you feel safe? Does he make you feel secure? Does he better you as a person. Clearly not. Love isn't enough, never has been, to keep people together and healthy.

How many times have you posted about your boyfriend and the issues between you two?
How many times have you proven time and time again that nothing is changed? That nothing WILL change?
How many times have we beat the dead horse, telling you two to work together and solve yourselves before you can solve the relationship?
How many times will you read that before it even begins to sink in and you grow up?

What will it take girl?

You in the hospital with a concussion?
You in the hospital with a stab wound?
Him in the hospital with a hand full of glass?
Him in the hospital from a busted eye?
You both in court for domestic disputes?
One of you dead?

He can do no wrong to you can he? He can scare you but you'll always run back to him. You will always cling to him. You will start to make progress, but you'll always turn on your heels and run back to him. He'll say I'm sorry, you'll forgive him and cling. He will say I love you, so you rush to him and you cling. He'll slap you, and you will cling. He will punch you in the temple, yet you will still cling. He'll push you over and crack a rib, but you will continue to cling to him like a puppy.

You don't love yourself. That's what makes me the most sad.

So why don't you, finally, try working with him. Since you'll never part from him? Books, counseling, therapy. Until you can finally find that woman in you, that self respect and sense of self worth, to get yourself out.
Anything, any progress. Just find it.
Hope your one year with this man goes/was ok.

[Taryn98]

Nobody should ever have to live with abuse. He has the problem not you. You can encourgae him to talk to a professional about it and say you'll attend with him. If he refuses, you should remove yourself from the situation. Nobody deserves that. I'm sure someone else will love you and treat you with respect!