My Two Best Friends Dating

[iloveladygaga]

Ok so today my two best friends began dating each other. I'm not too sure how i feel about it. Lately they have become distant from me and don't include me as much in their lives as before. I'm happy for them and all but i feel kind of lonely about being a third wheel or bieing cast away by them. Anyone have any advice?

[Troy35216]

unless they're into 3somes all i can think of is concentrate on your own dating life and when you find a gf/bf then all 4 of you can double date sometimes. if they always go out together on Friday night then maybe you can say to them, "Hey you wanna hang out Friday afternoon before you guys go do your thing?" then the 3 of you can do stuff for a couple hours and then the 2 of them can do their thing and you can go do something with other people or by yourself. or if your like me, when they go do their thing you can go home and feel miserable and left out and just pretend you don't care when your all together. (I kinda know what your going thru only i wish my best friend was into me instead of the person my best friend is actually into but i have to fake like i'm all happy for them). good luck bro i feel you

[FreeFall]

It sucks, third wheel let alone when you all used to be a type of tricycle.

But yeah, find a time to hang out with them that doesn't impede on their couple time. They sound like they're in the honeymoon phase, where they just want to be with each other.
But speak to them about it if you would like. Don't make them feel bad for wanting to be with just themselves, or that they're dating. Just tell them you'd like to hang-out with them, don't sound as if you're blaming them, just you understand they're a couple and things have changed and will be different from you guys were all just friends. They could be phasing away from you in an awkward attempt of not making you the third wheel.

Or maybe try to find yourself someone to date, maybe hang out with other friends. All in all, which ever way it goes, there is space needed between the couple and you. It just depends on how big or small it will be.

[Dunce]

Maybe you should try bring along other people when you guys hang out? It's a tough situation, but that's all I can think of.
Like, you could just wait for them to arrange hanging out so you know they actually want you there, but they might mistake that for you not wanting to hang out...

[Elementalpow]

Dude i totally know what your going thru!
two of my best friends are dating and it pissing me off!
Im doing wat troy is doing
Feeling bad and then staying home feeling misreble!
It sucks i know but atleast your friend (the bf) dosent tell you everything that going on in his life! Or like everything that goes on in the relationship.......like the private moments they share they dont need to tell anyone! He will tell me. All i can tell you is
be happy for them
and find someone else. i know thats hard but it happens to everyone....mostly everyone.
Like me. 4 times this year....and it still hurts...
just be happy for them and try to find someone else

[iloveladygaga]

Thanks for all the help guys! Really good advice there I'll be sure to follow! :)

[DerBear]

Two of my friends once dated and yeah, at first they distanced themselves with everyone. However that passes within about a few weeks to a month. When people start dating they're are pretty much constantly all over each other and want to spend time alone etc to do things that new couples do, go on dates and all that other stuff. You'll find usually it passes within a short period of time, couple weeks to a month and then things return to semi normality. e.g. they start spending time with friends more again and then still have time to do their couple things.

If they don't stop then just ask them when its cool if the three of you hung out. Together. Just say "Hey guys its been awhile since we've hung out" and they'll maybe take the hint or agree with you that it would be a good time to hang out again.

Like I said new couples tend to be all over each other to start with. Which usually passes within a month or so then normality catches up with them and they start hanging out with their friends a bit more.