are my friends right?? did i do something wrong??

[gingerchick]

a couple of weeks ago i had my frist kiss which is kind of pathetic seeing as i'm about to turn 17 but anyway. two days later i went over to his house and we watched a film and made out and a bit more besides. i told my friends what we did and they all thought i was being rather fast and that i shouldn't be pressured into doing something. but i didn't think i done anything that bad, addmittedly i'm actually not dating him but that's because i don't feel the necessity to label it so soon. it doesn't help that most of my friends don't like him. but i just want some reassurance that i'm not a slut and that i'm not the only one to do that.

[Gandalf]

a couple of weeks ago i had my frist kiss which is kind of pathetic seeing as i'm about to turn 17 but anyway. two days later i went over to his house and we watched a film and made out and a bit more besides. i told my friends what we did and they all thought i was being rather fast and that i shouldn't be pressured into doing something. but i didn't think i done anything that bad, addmittedly i'm actually not dating him but that's because i don't feel the necessity to label it so soon. it doesn't help that most of my friends don't like him. but i just want some reassurance that i'm not a slut and that i'm not the only one to do that.

Nobody is a "slut" or any other synonym for enjoying kissing, it's perfectly normal and things often happen in the spur of the moment so a as long as you are safe and happy I see no problem with it.

You're friends sound somewhat mature in trying to not get you to rush into anything that could be harmful, I think you're lucky there. -But you're free to make your own choices too.

You can't make your friends like other people but as long as you all respect each others decisions it's fine :)

[FreeFall]

Your first kiss at 16 is pathetic? How is it pathetic? At what age are humans supposed to kiss their love before they become pathetic? Are the women and men who never have their first kiss until it's their wedding day pathetic? Then the people who remain virgins until marriage are pathetic?
Or maybe it was pathetic because you're setting up age limits for yourself and if you don't get to a certain point by a certain age you've set, you don't enjoy it? That's what could be pathetic. Kids younger than me had their first kiss ages before me. Kids younger than me lost their virginity before me. Kids younger than me have already become parents. Kids younger than me already have those promise/engagement rings. Guess I'm pretty pathetic looking at that in that light.

Did you want to make out with him? Did he pressure you? Did you like it? Are you comfortable? Do you enjoy and like the pace at which your relationship is going at? Did you regret it? Would you taker it all back if you could?
If the answer is you enjoyed it, did it willingly, are comfortable and feel secure and you two are on the same page, then your friends can go kick rocks.
You're just a girl in a pace that's comfortable for you, not a slut. Is it weird to be making out hot and heavy before calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend? Maybe, but if that's what works for both of you, then no one else needs to worry about it.

Also, you friends don't like him. They don't approve of him. So stop telling them what you're up to relationship wise. You already know where they stand with him, no use or point in updating them anymore. They don't support you and unless they guy is a renowned jerk or abusing you, they aren't speaking to you as friends in support of your relationship, but as catty girls that think he's beneath you. Save yourself some stress unless you're headed for trouble and danger.

[Elementalpow]

Your not a slut!
No body in the world should call themselves such a horrible word. You guys have kissed a few times so what? And its not pathetic! im 16 and i never never even kissed anyone! So your not pathetic!

Well im not sure how to deal with your friends....yeah i fail here srry! But honestly your not pathetic! you seem like a wonderful person and font need to downgraded yourself cause of a few kisses and make-out seesions!

[Taryn98]

If you feel ready and don't feel like you're rushing things then that's all that matters. You said that your friends don't like this person, so why would you expect them to say something good about him. If they have a good reason not to like him then that's important information for you to have. But if it's just them being judgemental, then don't worry too much about what they say.

[Imfeelinglostagain]

You aren't a slut. Just because you made out with a guy that doesn't make you one. A slut is someone who just sleeps around without a thought of relationships in mind. Don't listen to your friends. Listen to your heart (and your parents lol) and if it feels right then I say go wth it!