My girl..

[Daguy01]

Basically since before I was born my parents had arranged a marriage between me and my current gf\wife\life partner

Often I find her in a bad mood and she'll tell me things like
"you're retarded"
and she calls me a faggot and queer alot
and for some strange reason when she does this i cant help but feel..
charmed.. seduced by her aggressive behavior..
but worse than that..

one time we were together and we decided to fool around
she was.. rough to say the least
she bit me places
and stepped on my uhm thing
and she slapped me alot
and basically durrin the entire experience she would call me stupid
or a whore
or useless things ilke that
and i cant understand if its normal for me to.. enjoy it
i almost wake up and hope to see her cold expression looking down on me
her hateful eyes

i think somethings wrong..
can someone help me?

[RaisingSand]

Wow man, that sounds a bit extreme ... I honestly don't really know what to suggest. :/

[redcar]

Your 13 right? Where are you from?

[Underground_Network]

S+M? If you enjoy roughhousing, that's 100% normal, but as Alex asked, what country are you from that you already know who you're future wife is going to be at the age of 13? If you like her aggressiveness, then I'd say the relationship could work out (it could be a paraphilia or fetish), but if you don't like the aggressiveness or get sick of it, you should have the ability to tell your parents that you do not want to marry her out of fear that she will harm you.

[Daguy01]

I wish it were that easy.. you see
my parents would disown me and banish me from my house
no matter how much pain and humiliation i go through
it would be a disgrace to my family and a dishonor to her family if I said such a thing

I am an adopted child from the streets of Lin Fen city in the Shan Xi province my parents are traditional chinese, having no parents and beind a 13 yr old boy In the US it would be
almost impossible for me to survive if they were to disown me
I love my parents very much and owe them my life because they had
taken me and brought me here to the US where i can have a nice life
i could never do anything to hurt them

its strange while i somewhat dislike the way my wife\gf\soul mate
treats me.. i love the feeling of being force into something, like a prisoner

i want help.. but.. by seeking help im disgracing my family letting people know that i feel i have mental problems
im already dishonoring my famiyl by asking for help on this forum

it causes me pain, i hate it and love it, but i cant decide if i hate it more or love it more please.. please help me.. i don't know what to do. i'm crazy. but it feels so good.. I dont wanna grow up to be a gross person.. what if my friends discovered how disgusting i am.. i'm a freak! i'm crying, but even though it hurts i'm enjoying it!! what can i do to become normal?! please tell me!

[thesphinx]

You should be able to do what you want to do. do you love this girl?
because if you don't I think you should tell your parents that you dont love her.
I understand the whole "honor" thing but if its not working for you then I think you should have the freedom to do what you want to do.
your in the USA now you can marry who you want.

[Underground_Network]

Sphinxy your back!
Anyways.. to restate what I previously said, if you decide you can't handle her, you don't truly enjoy the physical, and possibly emotional pain she brings unto you, tell your parents. What parents would want their child to endure pain in order for a relationship to succeed? If your parents don't care how your gf/future wife treats, they aren't very good parents.. If they seriously don't do anything about this, you might want to seek counseling or something.. I don't know what you should do.. I don't think your parents are doing anything illegal, but forcing you into a marriage in most views (especially when the marriage could be harmful to both your physical and emotional state) seems highly immoral. I don't see how you could let your parents do this to you. You should not have to endure such pain. If you're parents were to throw you out of their house, they could be arrested. So tell them that you do not appreciate the way your gf/future wife treats you, and you don't care about their opinion. This is America, a place where you are free to make your own decisions; your health is one hundred times more important than your honor and your dignity. If you allow this girl to abuse you, I don't see how you have any dignity or self-respect anyway.. Don't let her physically/emotionally harm you, stand up, and fight for what you want. If your parents throw you out of the house at 13, you can definitely get them in trouble... Grr... sorry for making this so long, hope it helps :)