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[Sir Suomi]

Well, I'm in about a level 99 Friendzone with this girl. I've known her since 6th grade, and we're best friends. We can tell each other anything, and joke around about stupid things, and I'm really only myself around her. And this past year, I've starting feeling more towards her. And one day, I decided to tell her how I felt. She was really shocked, and said I was like a brother to her. I covered up the pain, and just shook it off, smiled, and we forgot about it. Then, about 2 months ago, I told her once again about how I felt, and she said the same exact thing. I've seen her date guys, and they absolutely crush her heart, and she comes and cries on my shoulder every time, and each time I'm always there to comfort her with both my words and a hug. She's said that she couldn't imagine me being gone from her life, which has helped me get through my depression I've been fighting for the past few months. She tells me she thinks she's not good enough for other guys, and not pretty, when in my eyes she's more beautiful than an angel. My heart skips a beat. Even my friends say she's pretty nice looking, yet she still beats herself up, saying she's not good enough, and thinks she fat, and tries to lose weight constantly. I don't know what to do. I still feel the same, even maybe even more. How can I get her to open her eyes? Please, I'm begging you guys for some advice. :(

[gingerchick]

if you have told her twice that you like her and she has told you that she doesn't see you in that way than my advice is to not ask her again or at least not for a while. a friend of mine keeps saying he fancies me and everytime he says how he feels i get awkward and it effects our friendship. so i suggest that you don't tell her your feelings or at least not for a while if you don't want to risk your friendship. just continue to be there for her, and may be try to move on. who knows she may realise you are the one for her but let her realise that in her own time because you can't do much to control her feelings towards you.



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[Worthless]

Get the fuck away from that fucking mess. Jesus Christ almighty. I'd say try convincing her one more time that the only way you feel about her is in a sexual/boyfriend girlfriend type of way. I mean don't shake it off if she's says no. If she says no say goodbye. You know how many friends I have that cry on my shoulder? 0. I listen to their problems, but god damn it man I'm not going to listen to a woman bitching about another man. Especially if I'm in love with that woman! It's just a recipe for misery and disaster. You're only 14 years old anyway, if you still want to be friends with her just start looking at other girls. If she says no again, accept defeat and pick another fish swimming around in the sea. Seriously, you're wasting your time if you keep thinking about this girl.

[Taryn98]

Sounds like she has low self esteem. She realizes that you are a great guy and maybe doesn't think she deserves you. You need to find ways so she thinks better of herself. Once she knows that she's a great person, she'll be more open to being with someone that will treat her right (like yourself).

In order to improve her self esteem, it would help if you knew why it's bad in the first place. Does she have problems with her parents, abuse, not doing well in school, does she have problems with kids at school, does she have good supportive friends?

If she has a hobby or something that she loves and is good at, stress that with her. The more she sees her accomplishments the better. Make sure she has as much fun as possible. Happy people tend to have higher self esteem. Get her to try some new things. That way she can meet new friends and learn something new.

[unnamed94]

my advice be just move on. keep being friends with her if you want to but if you are looking for a girl to be in a relationship with, look somewhere else. even if she has low self esteem or whatever it doesn't mean that if you help her with that she will then start to look at you differently (possible bf). she maybe just doesn't like you, it could be that simple. you could still try and tell her how you feel again in a while but she maybe wont change how she feels about you and you would keep getting hurt, although she could start to like you (which doesn't seem likely because you already told her twice). hope everything works out