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Eric57
January 6th, 2013, 01:37 AM
I don't really need any advice. I sort of just a need place to vent.

I have posted a few times about this guy on here, but to make a long story short, I went out with a guy. I really liked him, but he said it wasn't going to work out for various reason. All were valid points and made sense. We tried to be friends, but it was too hard for me. So I ended up deleting him off Facebook. We ended up talking about why I deleted him a few days later and I told him why. He said that for now it would probably be best if we didn't talk and it would probably be this way for awhile, but he hoped in the future we could be friends. A little over a month has passed since then... and that is where I am now.

I still just can't get him out of my mind. I think about him every single day and it drives me nuts. What makes it worse is his entire reason for saying it's not going to work was because of our age difference. I am 19 and he is 26. We are in different places in our lives and right now it just doesn't work. That right there makes me keep holding on. Knowing that in the future things could actually work out. So it's making me not want to talk to other guys. I am talking to other guys to try to get over him, but ultimately I'm just interest in this one guy.... and I really wish I wasn't.

I have this stupid plan in my head. I keep thinking that when I turn 20 I will maybe try to talk to him again. That is 8 months from now, but still. I keep thinking that I just have to get through this semester of college and then through the summer and by August I'll be 20. But that plan is so stupid because I doubt things will be any different in 8 months. I just want to stop planning shit like this and just get over this guy.

I just get so frustrated because I can't get him out of my head. I deleted him off Facebook and while that is helping A LOT, it still isn't stopping me from constantly thinking about him. I keep wondering if he is thinking about me, even though he probably isn't.

I feel stupid, honestly. All I want is to just get over this guy because it's driving me insane. It has only been 1 month. I know it takes so much longer than that, but ugh. I don't know.

Abyssal Echo
January 6th, 2013, 01:53 AM
I've been thru a very similar situation and I know you don't wanna hear this but....it will take time to get over him.

ProudConservative
January 15th, 2013, 11:38 PM
I've been thru a very similar situation and I know you don't wanna hear this but....it will take time to get over him.

My ex dumped me a year ago, and I still haven't gotten over it.

dontfiguremeout
January 16th, 2013, 09:06 PM
May I just offer you an advice. You simply don't have to take it since you said this was more of a vent thing, but I know where he's coming from. I honestly think because of the age difference and you guys are in different places in your lives that he probably moved on! I doubt he really thinks about you, like you do to him. From what I read, I honestly think he just wants to be your friend, and because you actually like him and had to "delete" him off of fb, made him not want this friendship to workout. And well here's my advice. You need to keep yourself busy and literally try and not think about him! I've gotten myself busy trying to not think about things, and in the beginning it was hard, but then once I got going, could even care less to what I thought was so hard to forget.

ackmedsgirl666
January 16th, 2013, 09:34 PM
I totally know the feeling
I just got over my ex. It took me a year
Keep your head higher lt will get better :)