Very Confused

[Imac350]

Hello :)
This is my first post so yeah
I am very very confused. Basically I am 16 and consider my self straight however I am sexually attracted to men. I would love to experiment an so on. I never feel sexually attracted to Women- I have never looked at Porn or anything but I have seen men with no clothes and thats what I think about when jacking- I can never do so when thinking of women.

However I see girls as pretty and am emotionally attracted to several girls I know and would love to have a family and children and get married. I could never see my self with a man emotionally. Also my family is Roman Catholic which means that I would probably be rejected as a Gay person. (I personally am very supportive but that is another story.

Please delete if this is inappropriate but I am very confused about my sexuality.

Thanks :)

-iMac 350

[rogue350]

Dude, I completely understand what you are going through. This confusion that you are having should slowly fade as you grow older and have more experiences. I think that once you find the right girl for you, you will gain that sexual attraction for women that you desire. Most guys have some level of curiosity about other men. Stay strong and have hope that you will gain clarity.

[Imac350]

Thanks very very much :)
Makes me feel a lot lot better!

[Sudds3]

Yeah, i had a stage just like this bit grew out of it. Its just that hormones are driving you crazy and you are just really curious.

[BakeBake]

Hello :)
This is my first post so yeah
I am very very confused. Basically I am 16 and consider my self straight however I am sexually attracted to men. I would love to experiment an so on. I never feel sexually attracted to Women- I have never looked at Porn or anything but I have seen men with no clothes and thats what I think about when jacking- I can never do so when thinking of women.

However I see girls as pretty and am emotionally attracted to several girls I know and would love to have a family and children and get married. I could never see my self with a man emotionally. Also my family is Roman Catholic which means that I would probably be rejected as a Gay person. (I personally am very supportive but that is another story.

Please delete if this is inappropriate but I am very confused about my sexuality.

Thanks :)

-iMac 350

I am the same way, I want to jack off and experiment with my friends and stuff, but doing that is doesn't make you gay. Gay means that a man wants to have a LOVE relationship with another man and they want to get married, and spend the rest of their life together. As long as you are not thinking of marrying a guy, then you are not gay. An act cannot be considered gay, so jacking off together, hand jobs, blow jobs, and even anal can be considered straight, many people just don't understand this. I am the same with girls too, I have had a few relationships with them, but it has not just worked out, the usual stuff you know... But all of this, the way you are thinking and stuff is just because of puberty and your hormones are going crazy. PS I am just like you, I can picture myself jacking off with a friend and finish a lot easier, than I can thinking of a girl. I think it is just because we can relate to men a lot easier. Any questions, or stuff, just hit me up.

[truckee98]

I always was confused by this. But one you have a girl friend it changes. Especially when your parents know about her and you two do sexual interactions such as making out and the such. I would not think of sex as being something you do for pleasure, but rather something you do because you love someone. It's okay to like guys sexually and girls emotionally though... And completely normal. My good friend and I had this conversation before, so your not the only one going through it.

[Imac350]

I'm glad- My friends don't talk about this stuff and are very straight so I never know- I have worried non stop about this for the last 2 years without anyone to ask :)

I am the same way, I want to jack off and experiment with my friends and stuff, but doing that is doesn't make you gay. Gay means that a man wants to have a LOVE relationship with another man and they want to get married, and spend the rest of their life together. As long as you are not thinking of marrying a guy, then you are not gay. An act cannot be considered gay, so jacking off together, hand jobs, blow jobs, and even anal can be considered straight, many people just don't understand this. I am the same with girls too, I have had a few relationships with them, but it has not just worked out, the usual stuff you know... But all of this, the way you are thinking and stuff is just because of puberty and your hormones are going crazy. PS I am just like you, I can picture myself jacking off with a friend and finish a lot easier, than I can thinking of a girl. I think it is just because we can relate to men a lot easier. Any questions, or stuff, just hit me up.

Yes!!!!
Thanks :) I can picture men and go fast or take ages with picturing women- thought I can picture men and finnish with women :P




Please use the 'edit' or 'multi-quote' buttons instead of double posting. -StoppingTime

[BakeBake]

yes!!!!
Thanks :) i can picture men and go fast or take ages with picturing women- thought i can picture men and finnish with women :p

right?!?!

[Imac350]

Whats the Right about? :P

[lukene]

Im basically the same although im emotionally attracted to men aswell, i wanna have a family with a women and i think women are attractive but i couldn't imagine doing the stuff with them i wanna do with guys

[sdude]

I think your religious upbringing is clouding the picture. You are sexually attracted to men, you jack off to men, you are not to women...probably gay. You just haven't accepted the idea that you could be emotionally commited to a man, cause you have been brought up believing that isn't norm..YOU CAN GET MARRIED IF YOU ARE GAY, YOU CAN HAVE CHILDREN IF YOU ARE GAY, YOU CAN BE A FAMILY IF YOU ARE GAY!! Stop living the stereotype and enjoy who you are!!!

[NeuroTiger]

You'll be fine as you grow...I was same before
But now it has changed

[Irishperson15]

Yep, I know exactly how you feel, I am the same :D

[Worthless]

I've sexually fantasized about men before but I don't think I'd ever actually do it. I think I just get so bored with the ridiculous amount of porn I watch that I do what I can to get off. I think it's normal if you ask me. The whole gay/straight label is bogus anyway. We should all be free to do whatever makes us feel good and not worry about being placed in a category.

[billiam183]

You might be gay or bi? Infact I think its likely. But if your bi you could still fall in love with a woman annd get married. Im bi and used to be the same as you. And nowbi CAN be emotiotionally attracted to a guy. Infact, it has just now happened. So maybe it takes meeting a dude youll like. Or maybe your just curious. Either way live your life and try tobbe as happy as you can. Easier said than done, I know.

[FergusDunn]

Hello :)
This is my first post so yeah
I am very very confused. Basically I am 16 and consider my self straight however I am sexually attracted to men. I would love to experiment an so on. I never feel sexually attracted to Women- I have never looked at Porn or anything but I have seen men with no clothes and thats what I think about when jacking- I can never do so when thinking of women.

However I see girls as pretty and am emotionally attracted to several girls I know and would love to have a family and children and get married. I could never see my self with a man emotionally. Also my family is Roman Catholic which means that I would probably be rejected as a Gay person. (I personally am very supportive but that is another story.

Please delete if this is inappropriate but I am very confused about my sexuality.

Thanks :)

-iMac 350


Its cool bro - really - jacking is a fantasy thing we do what works yea.

Most guys have a stage where thats normal and then you meet the right girl
and all fine as far as you are concerned. At the same time some guys will be gay or bi and thats ok too.

Sexuality is a big journey and not the easiest for many.

Take care.

[MickeyMouse13]

I'm going through this at the moment !!!! ... It's so annoying and feel for you !!! ... I hope that it has nearly finished :)

[justinglives]

I've said this another post I believe that we are all capable of being sexually attracted to the same sex. a lot of supposed to have said that being gay and won't love and I think I believe that. but getting or giving a handjob for getting or giving a blowjob is nothing more than experimentation. set your friends don't talk about that stuff... and I'm sure you're right but I will bet each and.every 1 of them has been curious about doing something with another guy. it's kinda like at a sleepover who is the first 1 to get naked who is the first 1 to get out of bed with a hard on... and most times if you're talking about porn and sex and stuff with another guy..... everybody's really horny it's just a question of whether they admit about what they have what are feeling. relax and enjoy what you're going through it's totally normal! Pm if u wanna talk more....

[Imac350]

I don''t think I am Gay. I really do have no emotional connection to guys- I have crushes on several girls I know and have practically planed my life around marrying one of them :P (I know that it probably won't happen ) I don't get attracted to guys I know in an everyday sense- I only think about the sexual component and that is separated from any emotional connection.

To be Gay in my family just wouldn't happen. I have never talked to my parents about it but I assume they would be aganist it- Sadly the Catholic church has brainwashed people about matters like this.

[Sph2015]

We are in the same boat man. Completely, from the Catholic upbringing to planning your life around marrying a specific girl. From everything I have learnedly, I'm almost positive we'll both grow out of it. All we can do is wait haha.

Luckily for me, my parents are actually more "liberal" Catholics on many of today's issues, so if I did turn out to be gay I'm sure I'd be fine. Good luck, hopefully everything goes well for the rest of us.

And to the guy who thinks he's forced himself into a religious denial, I disagree entirely. Just because someone is religious, they can still think for themselves.

[SirMazing]

I am in the same spot as you!

[StoppingTime]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality. This fits better there.

[Skyhawk]

If the only emotional attachment you're feeling is towards girls, but lately you've been purely sexually attracted to men, it's usually just hormones. I'd give it time. It'll all be clear when you're older. ;)

For now, don't worry too much about it.

[Imac350]

Yes :) Thanks guys.
I am religious but I have NO problem with homosexuality- If I knew I was Gay I would come out- My parents would be very taken aback but would accept it would just be very awkward to do so. However I swing towards thinking that I am not so yeah :)

[teen.jpg]

You're just curious ...

[king-of-the-dark]

i mean finding out what your preferences are is like trying a food for the first time so basically its like trying mac and cheese for the first time when you were little u didnt know but u tried and ended up liking it (u know if u actually liked it) soo long story short if u dont know just try it and if u dont like it dont touch it again till this feeling comes up again if it dose :)