i got my friend back.. well sort of

[ackmedsgirl666]

so i got my bestfriend back... well sort of
he talked to me.. we talked on the phone and things were going good till my little sister opened her big mouth and my boyfriend
my bestfriend is transgendered and is very sensititive on the subject of being called a girl... and well thats the whole reason why me and my friend stopped talking was because i called him a girl.. anyways yeah so i was tlaking to him on the phone and he got mad and hung up... and i was like fuck.... great now things are done for sure... and i cussed my boyfriend and little sister out...
anyways my friend called me back and we talked for a good hour and i think we finally got things worked out... and i am just happy to share my happiness that things might work out.. now heres the real problem..
my boyfriend isnt too fond of this friend... and he says he has something planned to break me and my friend up for good but i dont wanna lose my friend again and this time forever.... i am scared hes gonna really screw this up for me.. and i need advice.. i cant lose my friend again but i also dont wanna lose my boyfriend. both of these people are very special to me.. so what should i do??? :(:(:(
i need solid advice

[FreeFall]

One of them has to leave if there is no middle road to walk on.

You pick where your loyalties lie.
With the man you love? Or with the guy that already dissolved out of your life once before? You do not get to have your cake and eat it too, you should know this by now. Your boyfriend has made it clear to you where he stands, and if this friend is more important to you than him, are you willing to hurt your boyfriend and yourself by clinging to a friend?

You can try to sit your boyfriend down and speak about it, your friend too. Maybe get them both together but honestly, it's a good way to create a war between the three of you if no one is happy or willing.

[ackmedsgirl666]

Thanks freefall
He's agreed to back off but if me and my friend fight again
He said this Time he's gonna make damn sure he ever sees my face again
So I gotta try hard this time not to screw up. :)

[FreeFall]

Well, the burden isn't 100% your's so don't forget that and don't try to put it all on your shoulders. Yes, one person can screw up a relationship beyond repair. But those involved are both responsible for nurturing and holding that relationship before any faults cause it to blow up. Good luck!