Coming out to mom

[RCT109]

Hey guys.
My mother is homophobic but, she says she's fine with gays, I know its a lie. How do I tell her I'm bi. Should I wait till I get a bf or not???

Please help

Shawn

[Noirtier]

Hey guys.
My mother is homophobic but, she says she's fine with gays, I know its a lie. How do I tell her I'm bi. Should I wait till I get a bf or not???

Please help

Shawn

I certainly wouldn't wait until you have a boyfriend to tell your mom that you're bi. I would find a time when she's calm, when everything is calm in your household, and tell her that you have something you need to talk to her about. If she says she's fine with gays, whether you think she's telling the truth or not, she may be more accepting than you think. Especially with her son, her own flesh and blood, who she loves. Do wait until you feel you're ready to tell her, but when you feel that the time is right, sit her down and tell her that you have feelings for guys, that you're bisexual. Just like you would when you're coming out to anyone else. She'll be shocked at first, just like any parent would be. But you're still her son regardless, and I would venture to guess that she would still love you and accept you even if she knew you were bisexual. It's a hard thing to do, but take your time hun. Wait until you're ready to come out to her, don't feel forced into it before you're ready. And then when the time comes, you'll be nervous, but know that she will still support you, no matter what. And we all support you and are here to help you here too. I wish you the best of luck, and if you ever feel you need to talk we're all here to help!

[RCT109]

I certainly wouldn't wait until you have a boyfriend to tell your mom that you're bi. I would find a time when she's calm, when everything is calm in your household, and tell her that you have something you need to talk to her about. If she says she's fine with gays, whether you think she's telling the truth or not, she may be more accepting than you think. Especially with her son, her own flesh and blood, who she loves. Do wait until you feel you're ready to tell her, but when you feel that the time is right, sit her down and tell her that you have feelings for guys, that you're bisexual. Just like you would when you're coming out to anyone else. She'll be shocked at first, just like any parent would be. But you're still her son regardless, and I would venture to guess that she would still love you and accept you even if she knew you were bisexual. It's a hard thing to do, but take your time hun. Wait until you're ready to come out to her, don't feel forced into it before you're ready. And then when the time comes, you'll be nervous, but know that she will still support you, no matter what. And we all support you and are here to help you here too. I wish you the best of luck, and if you ever feel you need to talk we're all here to help!

thanks good advice

[TigerBoy]

For what it's worth, a lot of people can make casually homophobic comments because they've never had their views challenged. Once their kids come out they often rethink the issue. It's a lot easier to be prejudiced and judgemental when you aren't directly affected by something and have no emotional context for understanding it.

[Abyssal Echo]

I certainly wouldn't wait until you have a boyfriend to tell your mom that you're bi. I would find a time when she's calm, when everything is calm in your household, and tell her that you have something you need to talk to her about. If she says she's fine with gays, whether you think she's telling the truth or not, she may be more accepting than you think. Especially with her son, her own flesh and blood, who she loves. Do wait until you feel you're ready to tell her, but when you feel that the time is right, sit her down and tell her that you have feelings for guys, that you're bisexual. Just like you would when you're coming out to anyone else. She'll be shocked at first, just like any parent would be. But you're still her son regardless, and I would venture to guess that she would still love you and accept you even if she knew you were bisexual. It's a hard thing to do, but take your time hun. Wait until you're ready to come out to her, don't feel forced into it before you're ready. And then when the time comes, you'll be nervous, but know that she will still support you, no matter what. And we all support you and are here to help you here too. I wish you the best of luck, and if you ever feel you need to talk we're all here to help!

I agree with Noirtier wait till your ready then talk to your mom. Thats what I did

[AuthorX303720]

Hmm :/ Maybe you should ask her about gay issues. Like political spectrum. And see how she reacts. Maybe when your single you can tell her that you are gay?

[Dimentio]

Eh deleted this XD

[Eth_94123]

Just tell her don't wait until you have a bf :)