"Best" age to have sex for the first time?

[ReginaGeorge]

I didn't really know where to post this. I figured here, or puberty, or White Padded Room. So sorry if it's in the wrong spot.

What age do YOU think it the 'ideal' age to have sex for the first time?

Don't say "when you're ready", tell me what average age you'd think they'd be most ready at. We all know when you're ready is the best time. I'm looking for person opinions on AGE.

This doesn't just go for heterosexual (boy-girl) sex, but between any two genders/sexes.

[simplycomplicated]

15 or 16 imo.

[Lost in the Echo]

Damn, I was gonna say "Whenever they're ready". :P

If I had to pick an age group, i'd say older teens ( like 17-19 ).

[ackmedsgirl666]

I think it should be when both couples reach a mature stage of adulthood and when they understand sex properly and what it's all about. So I figure couples can start having sex between 18-20
Sorry that's just what I think because I see alot of teen girls getting knocked up now a days a it's all because of the lack of irresponsibility in you g teenagers and that's why there are alot of teenage pregnancies now a days

[ReginaGeorge]

I think it should be when both couples reach a mature stage of adulthood and when they understand sex properly and what it's all about. So I figure couples can start having sex between 18-20

You think mature adulthood is 18-20 years old? They're barely out of the teens. :P Let alone mature adults.

[ackmedsgirl666]

It's a Better age than 14 or 16
That's barely legal and 18 is considered a legal adult in my country so I would hope that the couple is matured by then.

[Noirtier]

In my book, I would say 16/17+. The maturity factor plays in, as well as the responsibility and commitment factor in a relationship. Also, it's illegal to have sex before the age of 16 here, and while I don't hold anything against anyone who does, it's just something else to factor in. I would also expect both parties to have a knowledge of the consequences of sex, and the benefits of safe sex.

[zerosix22]

I think 18-20ish years old will do,not only it is the legal age but most probably in those age groups they have higher maturity level,they know what to do if something happens. You know in our generation,girls who are giving birth are getting younger and younger and it really bothers me.some girls aready gave birth to their child but doesnt know how to prepare foods for themselves yet,i mean they are not yet dependent enough.

[FreeFall]

17 or 16. It's when the body's more developed, girl wise, and they can enjoy it and not feel like someone's poking their bladder.

[denicedak]

i think the best age is starting 15 years

[AuthorX303720]

In my words the best time to have sex is not an age but a stage of marriage. But be sure to have a stable financial income, stable house (physically and financially) and enough money to support another person. $1,000,000 yep a big price tag to raise a child (idk where this study was from). But that is my thought.-Sid

[Mysterious Skin]

At least 17. Even that is a bit young in my books.

[workingatperfect]

I think 17-19 is a good age.

[User Deleted]

When you are financially stable, have the job you are going to try to get, have married, and are ready personally.

But since someones whining fine, I'll give an age, 30.

[Avenida105]

Most people think, whenever you think you are ready or like 18, and some people are crazy enough to put 14. Well even though most people see sex as a physical thing, sex is actually more complicated, it requires a mature body and a mature mind. Puberty for girls ends at 18 and for boys at around age 21. So I would say Any age starting at 22 or more for your body to fully response to sex in the right way, not in the way you think its right.

[Teen Titan]

15/16

[Skyline]

I am going to take a shot in the dark and say 14/15 +....

[Zenos]

I'm glad i was raised right ,i'm waiting til i'm married!

[thisisben]

whenever youre ready , but have to think about the dangers, because it could result in a teenage pregnancy if the condom splits or no protection at all ! ,

[Zenos]

I think it should be when both couples reach a mature stage of adulthood and when they understand sex properly and what it's all about. So I figure couples can start having sex between 18-20
Sorry that's just what I think because I see alot of teen girls getting knocked up now a days a it's all because of the lack of irresponsibility in you g teenagers and that's why there are alot of teenage pregnancies now a days


I disagree it is a lack of responsibilty on the part of "BOTH" teens not just the girls,but it's also a lack of responibilty on the part of the "PARENTS" for not raising their children right and also letting the media raise their children!

If parents raised their children right and gave them actual "gasp" MORAL guidance of some kind these teens getting knocke dup would more then likely wiat til they where married!

[ackmedsgirl666]

the earth is becoming overpopulated and flooded with teen pregnancies
i have so many friends that are having babys and its insane
like its nuts, i wish here in canada they would make a law against teen pregnancy that you have to be a certain age to not only have a child but be old enough to raise it

[jayyy-lmao]

18-20

[MrDaniel2K13]

18-20

[AkuRokuStalker]

Sex is a sacred bonding between two people who should be married.When you have sex with someone you are giving them a piece of your soul. So wait until you are married

[Dimentio]

Well i am a guy and gay and i have never had a boyfriend and only been in love once and dated once but i want to at least wait until i am 18 to have sex if i am with someone by then, As most people have sex by the age of 14 lately! But yeah, I wanna wait and for it to be passionate not rushed or harsh and i want it to be with the one i will love for the rest of my life :) So if he can wait for me for when i am ready, That is when i know it is him! Hope this helped!

[unnamed94]

the earth is becoming overpopulated and flooded with teen pregnancies
i have so many friends that are having babys and its insane
like its nuts, i wish here in canada they would make a law against teen pregnancy that you have to be a certain age to not only have a child but be old enough to raise it


i cant understand how can someone post stuff like these. did you even read what you wrote before posting it? it's just so stupid, how could you even expect for a country to make pregnancy ilegal, even if its just a law for teens? a law wouldnt change anything anyway, even if it existed teen pregnancies wouldnt drop considerably. theres some places where having sex as a minor is ilegal and that doesnt stop teen pregnancies. (not trying to be mean on you)

@zenos: why would you imply that you were raised right just because you are going to wait until you get married to have sex? since when is having sex before marriage something bad? some religions forbid it and there is nothing wrong on following what you believe, but thinking that parents have part of the responsibility on teen getting pregnant for not raising their kids right (which according to you involves making them wait to have sex until you are married) is just wrong. parents could raise their kids 'right' even if they dont think their children should wait until they get married to have sex, although this doesnt take all responsibility away from some parents that simply can't raise a child.

imo: the obvious answer is 'when both are ready'. if you want a certain age it should be around 17-20, which is usually around the age people are physically ready and mature enough to handle everything that sex involves.

[DepartInSecret]

I don't know the best age but something over whatever the legal age in your country is.

[DerBear]

I'd say around 16+

Really though if two couples really wanna have sex then its up to them. They just need to really think about it. To say all couples aren't mature enough would be a lie. However majority aren't mature enough or they don't consider the emotional downsides. Or splitting up.

So I'd probably say 16+

[Ussb823]

At least 16 here in the U.S., cause if not before that age it is illegal ;)

[PinkFloyd]

I lost mine on my 14th birthday I was still a 13 year old mentally. it was great. However, I think 15 or 16 is a much better age.

[Taryn98]

everyone is so different, so I wouldn't pinpoint an average age. Like you said originally when someone is ready is the best answer even if that's not the answer you want to hear.

[brianabyington]

I would say maybe 16 at the earliest or wait til you are married. Depending on what you have set for yourself in your mind

[forever alone]

I would say between 17-20 everyone is different but average that's what I would say.

[teen.jpg]

18+

But if you strongly believe you are ready before then, you can. But beware of the consequences...

[tundravortex]

well i already lost it at a sleep over but i say when your out of highschool

[PetRock]

16-17

[Lunar]

As for me, I would wait until marriage, preferably. Aside from that, I think 18-20 is a suitable age range.

[Trinity_15]

i would say at a mature age like 17 or 18, that's what age me and my girlfriend did. we understood our risks of having it and chose to

[Snookers]

From my point of view it's 15/16.

[Troy35216]

let me see........how old am I right now? :P
If you have to sneak to do it then your too young. if you don't have to sneak to do it then your old enough. idk what the no-sneak age is cuz it might be different for different people.

[UnknownError]

Everyone is different and matures at a different rate, I wouldn't say younger than 13 though, although I know a girl who done anal at 12.

[janisj182]

15 its young

[MDawg143]

You know, I want to say around 16-18. There isn't that many(if any) harmful/dangerous effects of safe sex. So if 16 is the age when you can drive a car and pug someone elsewhere life on your hands then you should be ready to have sex.

[karl517]

i guess 16 is just perfect

[joshduder]

16 years onwards

[anyone50]

It would depend on the maturity level of both people involved but I think if you’re under 15 you should wait no matter how mature you feel you are and your first time should be with someone you love

[Loveless-Wrists]

Best age is older 20's.
If you have sex in high school, people will find out. If you are a dude it's a good thing, but being a 15 year old girl; I know what is said about girls who have sex. Even once, they earn a scarlet letter. It's terrible

[AbbaZabba]

I think at least 18 emotionally. But to each his own.

[midnightstar]

I would have to agree with chief from south park on this one
The right age is 17.. or older imo

[midnightstar]

delete please

[Eyeless]

Best age to have sex for the first time is....there isn't age.
We must do it when we are ready. But not too young nonetheless.

[saturnine]

Although is really is all about when you're ready, I'd say anywhere between 14-17.
I take the whenever you're ready thing quite seriously because of the maturity of sex and the maturity of body required to have a pleasurable time. You cannot tell the stage of puberty someone may be in at the age of 14 exactly. I'm 13 and I am a stage 4 according to the stage calculator test. I have also gone through major depression and self harm and visited psychiatric hospitals. I have grown up around my two older brothers, who are 18 and 19, so I was forced to grow up quite exceedingly in my years in order to keep up with the maturity of my family.
So not only am I about as mature as a 16 year who is serious, I have the body as well. Therefore, I do not think I'm not ready for sex, it's just the social requirements of age to have sex that are holding me back. Also, I have not found a partner who was done both of what I just stated- matured mentally and physically.
I know people say "whenever you're ready", but I truly do mean it- however mature you are and the amount of puberty must be reciprocated between the two participants. I stand by this.

[birthcontrol]

14-16

[PinkFloyd]

Well I had it on my 14th birthday so I was still in the mindset of a 13 year old... I wouldn't suggest 14. I'm goin towards 15 or 16.

[Jess]

Whenever both parties are ready and in consent. I have nothing against under-18s doing it, but I think over 18 is the best age overall............

[Swa19]

Age does not matter. I have always gone bye "If its your instinct to do it, and it feels right, then fuck age and fuck your partner". It may sound crude by it almost always works. If your instinct is to do it then you are ready. Drop your morals you learned from others, and do what comes naturally.

If you are looking for a statistic, then id guess that most people consider themselves ready around 14-18 (US High Schoolers). But some feel ready at 12 and some feel ready at 30.

[Pierce]

17 or 18..... but mostly when they're ready... *cough*

[Eclipsical]

No age specifics I guess....mostly when you're smart enough to I think.

I was 15. No regrets, no real consequences...because I wasn't stupid about it.

[JoeHillsTSD]

You need to be financially and mentally (maturity-wise) stable enough to handle a child. You usually dont see that in younger teens. 17-19 is where you usually see mature young adults working jobs and have a high maturity lvl at this age.

[Panda Rose]

I was always taught 18 and I still think it is the best time but I would say anywhere between 16-18

[Smeagol]

Well 16 is legal in most places, but it's a very personal decision.

[WalkingOnDisaster]

19 or older. Or any age if married. Here we can get married at around 16 with parental consent, so if they get married then it's fine in my opinion.

[ethan 27]

17-19

[Synyster Shadows]

18-19

[NTTHRASH]

When you are financially stable, have the job you are going to try to get, have married, and are ready personally.

But since someones whining fine, I'll give an age, 30.

F*ck yes. I completely agree; kids and those who aren't ready shouldn't. Sex is for making babies, and the pleasure is to make up for labor.

[peaceNlove]

18-20. I really can't believe that people are putting ages younger than 18, especially 14/15. Seriously?

[crazy_teen]

20ish? :D

[Lisa Monroe]

i think its best to wait until marriage unless your not planning on getting married or are 40 years old and still not married. i think its best to wait until marriage so then you dont have to have that conversation about the guys you have had sex with and then he gets worried they are better than him and you still think about them. believe me it happens my parents were arguing for about 2 hours about that topic

[lowride]

I did it at 15 but if u want to wait i would say 17-19

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I say between 16-18. I would go down to 15, but in the US it's illegal to have sex at the age of 15.

[AzuPazu]

I did it when I was 17 with my now recent ex bf but now I wish I would've waited until I found the right guy(you know the guy that is like the one).

[HuntedDom]

18-20. I really can't believe that people are putting ages younger than 18, especially 14/15. Seriously?

I was a year younger then that. Not that it was really sex... I guess it was but it wasn't like I was any good. And I'm not saying it's right or wrong - it just happens. And I certaintly wouldn't suggest it.

I guess the obvious answer would be when you're of legal age, but I think one would know when they're ready - I'm gonna guess that's harder for girls then guys but...

[Jake111]

15/16 personally

[Lofiel]

Depending on the person's maturity and life-style, 16-20.

I very rarely suggest anything at 16 unless you've been with some one for like, three years.

[Stronk Serb]

25-30. A normal person would have a stable job by that time. But I guess if you take it seriously, and take the neccessary percautions, 16-30

[NzForever]

13 years old

[Cooper197]

My girlfriend and I did for the first time on my 17th birthday...

[Goonch97]

I would say when the two of you are ready and you're at least 18 years

[Poplar]

Marriage is probably the best time.

[unknownuser]

At least 18 or wait until marriage.

[Unique Physique]

I lost mine at 17, but I was "ready" when I was 16.

I think 16 is a pretty good age, although really it's a personal thing.

[MaguireUk]

17 or 18 have more on a relationship and bond and you no so more by then and whats best

[BeautifulAngel]

On a personal note i lost mine at 14, so i would have to say 16 -17 because at 14 your not exactly ready yet. Your ready for the act but emotionally most people just aren't

[Miserabilia]

17..