Im gonna loose it :'(

[YEAH BABY]

Im crying as i type this :'(
I cant tpe much because I dont feel well :( My girlfriend just got back from the nutritionist and had bad news about her anorexia and its not looking good :( Im trying to text her but I dont know :( We both love each other but.... idk :( I cant think straight right now and im worried sick about her :(
None of my friends can help and idk :/

[Noirtier]

I know it must be hard hun. I know you love your girlfriend. You need to just be there for her, talk with her, comfort her through all of this. I don't know how bad things have gotten, but encourage her to try and get through it and see a counselor about it. To begin to recover from her anorexia. Get some rest, try and calm down the best you can, and talk to your girlfriend when she's calmed down too, and make sure she knows you love her and support her no matter what, and that you'll be there for her. We're all here for you to help and support you if you need it too, and I hope that she starts getting better!

[YEAH BABY]

I know it must be hard hun. I know you love your girlfriend. You need to just be there for her, talk with her, comfort her through all of this. I don't know how bad things have gotten, but encourage her to try and get through it and see a counselor about it. To begin to recover from her anorexia. Get some rest, try and calm down the best you can, and talk to your girlfriend when she's calmed down too, and make sure she knows you love her and support her no matter what, and that you'll be there for her. We're all here for you to help and support you if you need it too, and I hope that she starts getting better!

It's really hard. you have no idea :( Im sitting here shaking like a leaf with tears in my eyes :( We just got together on the 30th of last month and shes just amazing in every way. We each have our issues and this is one of hers. She lives in another state, but not too far at all. Im trying to talk to her, but she has alot of HW, idk :( I think its best to wait till tomorrow.....although I wont be getting any sleep.
Well, they told her she lost more weight, and may have to go into residential treatment :'( Also they said it might affect her heart also :(

[Noirtier]

I do know how hard it is. I've struggled with anorexia myself. If she needs to go into residential treatment, then please, for her own good let her. I know that it's hard when you love her to be away from her like that, but especially if they're saying it could be affecting her heart, it's the best thing for he. I would wait to talk to her tomorrow, but please, at least try to get some sleep. You need to take care of your own self too, especially since she'll need you there to support you, no matter how hard it may be.

[YEAH BABY]

I do know how hard it is. I've struggled with anorexia myself. If she needs to go into residential treatment, then please, for her own good let her. I know that it's hard when you love her to be away from her like that, but especially if they're saying it could be affecting her heart, it's the best thing for he. I would wait to talk to her tomorrow, but please, at least try to get some sleep. You need to take care of your own self too, especially since she'll need you there to support you, no matter how hard it may be.

She said, and I'll quote it: "i cant eat, i cant get better, but i dont want residential treatment" :(
Even though she may not want it, it could help her, but I cant and dont want to upset her by encouraging her to go. She says she wants to stay in school.
It's all a blur of confusion right now and I dont know whats gonna happen :(

[Noirtier]

Sometimes, love means doing things that are hard. Choosing to do what is best for the person you love, regardless of what that means in the moment. What's best for her to get better, is to go to residential treatment. Regardless of what happens though, make sure that above anything else, she knows that you love her and support her and want what's best for her hun.

[YEAH BABY]

I agree. It can save her from possibly worse stuff in the future.
I think i'll get some rest...thank you for the help i really appreciate it

FUCK, now there is other stuff involved....anyone willing to talk to me in private?

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[ackmedsgirl666]

sure message me if you need to:)

[Noirtier]

I can talk to you here, you can't PM anyone other than staff members until you have 100 posts though, so I can't talk to you in private unfortunately. If you need any advice I'm more than happy to help in any way that I can.

[YEAH BABY]

I guess I can tell here, but now its not really on the topic of her anorexia, can I type it here anyway?

[Noirtier]

You can either type it here, or you can make another thread about it to put it in a more appropriate section, whichever you feel is better. Either way, we'll be more than happy to help.

[YEAH BABY]

You can either type it here, or you can make another thread about it to put it in a more appropriate section, whichever you feel is better. Either way, we'll be more than happy to help.

I'll put it in here because it somewhat relates to the original issue. Well she texted me this long message that basically said things like "i think we need to slow down and im really sorry that it's my fault for not telling you" and a whole bunch of other stuff. So i asked to talk to her, and we had this conversation for like an hour or two, idk.
I basically said how i was in shock by everything she sent me, cause I thought she really really was that in love with me. Turns out she really likes me alot, and wants to continue to be my girlfriend, but she thinks we were both taking it fast and that she apologizes for not telling me the first time, because had she told me, I would of definitely agreed to slow it down (the relationship). We went back and fourth talking about it, and all my other issues and worries (its WAY too much).
Basically, things are gonna be different from now on and she can adapt to it, while its confusing, and hard for me, but I really really really like her. Shes really sweet to me and understands me and my issues, because alot of our issues are the same. We talk on skype/phone all the time.
With things being different, it's going to be hard for me :( I mean, im happy that she still really likes me and everything, but I dont know how I should do things now :(
Sorry if its confusing

[Noirtier]

Right now, the most important thing to focus on is helping her get better hun. I know you're concerned about your relationship right now, but she still likes you and cares about you and wants to be together. So right now, focus on helping her through this and supporting her as she tries to recover.

[YEAH BABY]

Right now, the most important thing to focus on is helping her get better hun. I know you're concerned about your relationship right now, but she still likes you and cares about you and wants to be together. So right now, focus on helping her through this and supporting her as she tries to recover.

Thankyou i think that its best to do that too! We are texting and we feel a little better now :) I dont know what she means though, she just said alot of stuff at once :/