Trying to get through..

[HCFX95]

Hey guys..thought I'd post up my dilemma to see if anyone can relate.

I'm in my senior year of high school..I have lots of friends and no mental illnesses..and I'm not a douchebag either lol..I have a supporting family and no real issues other than what follows..

Unfortunately I was blessed with the wrong genes and metabolism. I'm 5'10" and 254 lbs. Yeah...fatass much? I'm working on dropping 50+ lbs to see if that makes me slightly more attractive and hopefully lucky..but for the time being..I'm lonely as crap. All my friends are flying past me with all their girlfriends..it's just brutal how I'm left in the dust. They also tell me "You'll find someone!" But that really doesn't help my cause, does it? I continuously get rejected and I know exactly why, but it sure doesn't help my self esteem much. Then my best friend tells me about sex and what it's like and that makes it even worse, because, you know..we have urges. I've been told by girls even, that I have a great level headed personality and I even help them through their bumps in the road with their relationships to try and make myself feel better. They also told me I'd make a great bf who has strong morals..then they proceed to send me to the friend zone?? Then that leaves me to wonder if they were bullcrapping to make me go away..I know it would be hard to date an unattractive guy but if great personality is what girls look for what's wrong with a person like me?

Ugh..it just sucks. Can anyone input their similar experiences and how they're getting through it?

[Pierce]

The truth is most girls find appearances very important. It can be a deal breaker. Many girls on this site will tell you that they only care about personality but it's not true. I believe that they believe that because that's what's important to them personally. Girls, especially at this age, find appearance very important. From what I read it seems like you have a great personality so the weight has to be the issue. Try to loose it I guess, unless of course you want a girlfriend who likes you because of you not because of your looks. Thta's just my opinion. Best of luck!

[HCFX95]

The truth is most girls find appearances very important. It can be a deal breaker. Many girls on this site will tell you that they only care about personality but it's not true. I believe that they believe that because that's what's important to them personally. Girls, especially at this age, find appearance very important. From what I read it seems like you have a great personality so the weight has to be the issue. Try to loose it I guess, unless of course you want a girlfriend who likes you because of you not because of your looks. Thta's just my opinion. Best of luck!

Yeah I know..I'm working on it and it seems to be going well so hopefully it will work out in the end.

[ackmedsgirl666]

growing up we face these challenges
making friends and getting partners isnt easy
and going into highschool being slightly"overweight" can be extremely difficult
i was in the same boat... nobody wanted me around.. no attractive guys wwanted me... only girls wanted me.... but then when i did get a hold of someone i became too obsessive and they couldnt handle it....stick to your gameplan
you want to lose weight to attract ladys? then make a goal and stick to it
work out.. eat healthy.... and maybe brush up on your personality
i feel for you. it seems girls now a days go for the assholes and dont give the nice guys a chance.... its a 1 in a million that that will ever happen.. just try and be positibe.. some day you will find the right lady friend and she will accept you for who you are..
and i believe those girls were trying to help you not out you down or get rid of you
they were trying to give you some helpful comments... they said your helpful and what not.... take that as an example. people do care about you more than you think. just keep your head high and everything will eventually come together:)