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[thefear]

Hiya, so I'm in a bit of a situation. I'm in a relationship with a guy and we've been together for nearly 5 months. I do honestly love him and I'd do anything for him, but recently I've been talking to a girl and she's really lovely. And I think I'm starting to have feelings for her. Whenever me and her talk she says she wants to kiss me and cuddle me and all that. She knows I'm in a relationship. It's just so confusing, because this guy that I'm with is my absolute world, we talk about getting our own house one day and we've got our whole future planned out. He's a lot older than me, I'm 15 in 13 days and he's 22. Our situation is really difficult because we have to sneak around so that nobody finds out about us... I don't know what to think to be perfectly honest and could do with some advice if anyone's willing to help me out. :confused:

[ackmedsgirl666]

Hiya, so I'm in a bit of a situation. I'm in a relationship with a guy and we've been together for nearly 5 months. I do honestly love him and I'd do anything for him, but recently I've been talking to a girl and she's really lovely. And I think I'm starting to have feelings for her. Whenever me and her talk she says she wants to kiss me and cuddle me and all that. She knows I'm in a relationship. It's just so confusing, because this guy that I'm with is my absolute world, we talk about getting our own house one day and we've got our whole future planned out. He's a lot older than me, I'm 15 in 13 days and he's 22. Our situation is really difficult because we have to sneak around so that nobody finds out about us... I don't know what to think to be perfectly honest and could do with some advice if anyone's willing to help me out. :confused:



ok for one... i am not going to judge you.... but what are you doing seeing a grown adult man... theres quite a gap there in age and depending where you live its probably illegal... but whatever its your choice im not your mother... i cant tell you what to do but i can tell you its not healthy... and well as for the sexuality issue well your 15 and still young and still developing.... and sexuality is something that you can play around with to test personal boundaries and to see how you truly feel. do you feel sexually attracted to this girl.... do you wanna meet her...... would you want to be with her... in my honest opinion i think your family would much prefer you be dating someone of the same sex rather than be dating an older man..... sure they would need time to sdjust but i am sure they would rather you be safe... try and speak to your boyfriend and see how he feels and if hes ok with you experimenting... if hes not ok with it well all i can say is hes controlling and a controlling relationship usually doesnt last.

[Skyhawk]

He's 22? Holy fucking shit!

You can try experimenting with her if you want, or give it time.

[Aidoon123]

Honey... I mean... Thats just not right! At all! And most likely illegal. End it now for your own good

[Desuetude]

The girl in question shouldn't be saying she wants to kiss you especially if she knows you're in a relationship. It's not fair on you, so maybe if you bring it up with her an tell her you're uncomfortable when she says stuff like that because you know you can't kiss her. It's good what you're feeling for your boyfriend is genuine, it takes time to find someone like that but the age gap is a big factor. When you're older it doesn't seem so bad but especially being below 16 if you do anything sexual it's considered abuse on his part whether it was done with consent or not. What happens if you get found out? Do you think your relationship can take that? Do you think he's willing to wait for you before you go further. Also, how do you see your relationship with the girl? Can you imagine living with her, being in a real relationship with her? Is she worth losing your current relationship over?

[thefear]

Well, this was the most helpful and least judgmental reply, thank you. It's helped me a lot tbh. :)

[jos3]

well you should think about whats better for your life n see who is the right one for u or think if u r going to be happy with someone who is older or someone who is the same gender as you n u r in a really tough spot for a girl but this is all i can say hope it helps n wish u the best in your troubels p.s im kinda feel bad for u, u r really in a tough spot also hes 22 thats not even legal is it ????????? well as far as i know it isnt over where i live but u should leave him u still have plenty years to go

[Dimentio]

Urm, I, I just, I am speechless, I am not going to judge you or scold you or say what you are doing is wrong but you are not even 15 and you are dating someone who is 22?! I am sorry but that will never last and is kind of creepy to me, You are a young girl with a vulnerable heart, He is an older male who will want sex which you'd still be under age for, This would never work out.
And as for the girl, You could be confused and conflicted with hormones or by curious but i wish you luck and i personally think you should contact an adult in your life as this man sounds funny to me and not in a good way but do what is right and best for you :)

[Eth_94123]

Hmmm ... :/ I don't know what to suggest!