abstinence question

[mynameisjane]

would you ever date someone who was waiting until they get married to have sex? that means nothing beyond making out.

[Maverick]

Yes I would. When I date I'm looking for the love and companionship, not the sex.

I personally don't see sex before marriage necessary or something I feel obligated to life by, but I'd respect that if that was her wishes.

[Hauptmann Kauffman]

I agree with everything Anthony said above:)

[ThatCanadianGuy]

Yeah I'd wait.... what's masturbation for? :D

[Sage]

I wouldn't want it any other way to be honest.

[mynameisjane]

wow. i'm suprised.

[Break the Cage]

only if i really really loved them..

[Underground_Network]

I'm not sure I would date someone if I didn't love them, but I wouldn't care if the girl I was dating wanted to abstain or not, I have no preference, but I'm not going to say I would prefer a girl who wouldn't have sex until wedding night. Its about whether I like the girl for her personality, how she treats me, whether I truly love her for who she is, etc., not whether I want to have sex with her, although if she wants to have sex, thats fine on my part.

[BornActor]

oh woops i meant to put yes i didn t understand the question until i read the post:whoops:

[Maverick]

wow. i'm suprised.
Why is that?

oh woops i meant to put yes i didn t understand the question until i read the post:whoops:
Fixed. :DThat's why you should read before you "sign" anything. :P

[mynameisjane]

i am suprised because sex is such a major part of pop culture and thats all everyone talks about at school and i dont know many virgins. i only know a couple people who are waiting until marraige to do anything past making out and they havent dated anyone in years. when i ask my guy friends this question they really have to think about it.

[Gumleaf]

yes, i would. even putting my religious beliefs aside, i think its very shallow to date someone for basically immediate sex.

[Underground_Network]

i am suprised because sex is such a major part of pop culture and thats all everyone talks about at school and i dont know many virgins. i only know a couple people who are waiting until marraige to do anything past making out and they havent dated anyone in years. when i ask my guy friends this question they really have to think about it.

We're just very kind, mature gentlemen. :P
And I don't like using people, especially girls, b/c then I fear I'll be used in return. Again though, if a girl wanted to have sex I would be fine with that, but I would never get into a relationship for just sex, and I would never pressure a girl into having sex.

[Hyper]

Depends.. Only would if I cared about the girl or more.. But then again I don't date girls I don't care about

[Maverick]

i am suprised because sex is such a major part of pop culture and thats all everyone talks about at school and i dont know many virgins. i only know a couple people who are waiting until marraige to do anything past making out and they havent dated anyone in years. when i ask my guy friends this question they really have to think about it.
I see what you mean. But the thing is there aren't as many people who actually want to wait or actually end up waiting in the first place. People who are set on their principles that they want to wait, is a rare breed.

[Underground_Network]

Yeah, I mean, most guys don't want to wait, but they're usually willing to wait if the girl wants to wait (especially if they really like the girl). As Anthony said, guys, and even girls, that want to wait are a rare breed. You'll rarely find anyone who wants to abstain; but you will find people who will abstain if that's what they're bf/gf wants.

[Silverfist64]

To tell you the truth at the moment i dont want to wait, but if i truly loved the girl and she loved me back then i would wait.(i may even be the one she waits for)

[Malcolm Tucker]

Yes, of course, its the girl, not the night :D

[Gumleaf]

i am suprised because sex is such a major part of pop culture and thats all everyone talks about at school and i dont know many virgins. i only know a couple people who are waiting until marraige to do anything past making out and they havent dated anyone in years. when i ask my guy friends this question they really have to think about it.

does this question take into account "1 night stands"? because a lot of the teenage sex that i'm aware of is the result of 1 night stands and not actual relationships which would explain why there aren't many virgins around.

[mynameisjane]

i'm sorry trigger i dont think i understand your question. if youre asking if it means no 1 night stands, than you are correct, it includes 1 night stands.

think about it too. i mean, people usually fall in love after they start dating a while. so what if you're friends with a girl and youre really compatable, and she's attractive, but you find out she's saving it till marraige, which probably means years and years and years from now. but you know there are other attractive girls who you could get to know who you may end up being more compatable with, especially if they're just as horny as you. maybe you could fall in love with her. you'd probably be happier in the long run. suddenly that other girl's not as attractive as you thought, right?