I need help...

[schmidgetman]

Well, heres the story. I used to live in Hattiesburg, MS, a quiet little town and I loved it so much. the people, and the way they understood me. I loved all of my friends so much, and most importantly, my girlfriend. Then I found out I had to move after seventh grade, basically the worst time to move. I got so depressed about it, but I didn't let me get it down. I found this out in February so I still had a lot of time with my friends. I enjoyed it so much that it was August before I knew it. August came, and I moved to Louisiana. I've been a loner since... I have some friends at my new school, but it's almost like they don't care about me. I've cut myself and I've taken up drinking and smoking. I'm so depressed and I don't know what to do.

[byee]

Loss is hard, you're suffering the loss of everyone (and everything) you valued and held dear. Maybe you're depressed, too. That happens with people who suffer catastrophic loss, and although no one died or anything, your's is a pretty big one. So, give yourself a break here, recognize you're hurting very badly, and take care of yourself. Cutting and smoking and the like hardly counts as taking care! You're in enough pain, you don't need more, esp when it's self inflicted.

Making the kinds of attachments you gave up in Hattiesburg takes time, and feeling 'at home', as if you fit in and are cared by others does, too. It's more work, probably more than you're used to doing, but if you made friends in Ms you'll be able to make them in La. Just get out there, join activities and the like that you enjoy, and don't despair. It will happen, but you need to hang in there and do some work.

If you continue to feel crummy as you're doing this, go tell your folks or your guidance counselor or someone and get some help. What you're feeling is normal, and temporary, but if you continue to engage in these self destructive behaviors you'll likely develop even greater probs than you now have.

Let us know how you're doing.

[schmidgetman]

well i stopped cutting... but i didnt even cut anything much, all you can see is a little red mark

[byee]

Bravo! You've taken the first step by not cutting. Now, go out and get involved in some things that will help you make the kind of friends you're used to.

[schmidgetman]

ive got a band... but thats the only friends i have

[Hyper]

ive got a band... but thats the only friends i have

So? Be glad you have friends... Besides you can always get new friends through existing friends.. It's the circle of society xD

And if you enjoy the band thing just foucs as much energy as you can in it

[schmidgetman]

Yeah I've been doing that. It seems like no one really cares though