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Lifesreject
October 18th, 2007, 12:00 PM
I had been seeing this boy for 6 nearly 7 month and i was really in 2 him. He always told me how much he loved me and that he would never leave me and i was his world.

Then we were on a school trip 2 Cambridge Univesity and we were stayin over. We had been bowling and were then allowed 2 stay in each others room until 12. So there was a group of us in his room till then. I went bk down 2 my room when we had 2 and he amediatly started textin me it was the normal stuff telling me how much he loved me and would never leave ma and I was doing the same. I then went on to ask him if he wanted 2 come down to my room in about an hour when the teachers had gone to bed as a group were coming in to my room. He said he dint think he would so i just went ok.

Next morning when we got he said he was so tierd because he had spent 2 hours on the phone to this other girl. I was ok about that because im not bothered if he talks to other girls. We sat together on the bus going home but all the way back he sat with his back to me and dint tickle me back like normal. When we got off the coach he just set off to walk home, so i shouted after him dont i get a hug. He came bk and gave me a hug but said You dont get a kiss. I thought this strange as he is normally happy to kiss me.

That night i got a text message sayinng im really sorry but i just want to be friends. I no will be really upset but im sorry. It's just that i dont get to see you enough. I was devastated when i got this message and cried myself to sleep. The next morning my best friend came up to me and showed me a message which was from my ex and said i really want to finish cat (me) because i really like laura(the girl he had been on the phone to) I really like laura and at Cambridge she spent the night in my room and we didnt do anything but we were really close to kissing. I ran out of the room in tears because it upset me that much.

I later talked to him on MSN and he told me the truth he said he really like laura and wanted to ask her out. He said yes it was true she had spent the night in his room but they didnt do anything. He asked me if he could ask her out and i said yes because i have my pride. Then laura text me and asked me if it was ok if they got together again I said yes. And that night he asked her out. Less than 24 hours after breaking up with me.

At school the next day they were all over each other kissing and constantly all over each other. I could watch them and walked away with tears in my eyes. People at school still say they are like they are super glued together and even his best friends cant be there when they are together.

It has been just over a month now and i still cant get over him. We camped out at a freinds the other day and had been drinking when he came up to me and hugged me. This isnt strange because he sometimes does this from time to time. But whennhe had hugged me he tried to kiss me, I pushed him away and told him I he had a girlfriend and to stop.

Today at school he hugged me again and I just wanted to hold on forever. I really love him. He was with his girlfriend again at lunch and i just cant watch them it makes me want to cry even if he isnt holdin her just stood next to her. My heart flutters when he hugs me and i dont think i can be friends any more it hurts to much. People have told me it will get better but it isnt its getting worse and i really dont no what to do. I cant tell him how I feel or anyone else because they will just laff. I have told one friend who i would trust with my laff but they just said you will get over it.

I really dont no what to do. Please help!!!!:cry2:

Maverick
October 18th, 2007, 12:56 PM
From what I can gather from what you said, this isn't a guy you want to be with. He is obviously a manipulator and will lie and say things he doesn't mean (ex I love you and you are the only one, etc). You should not go back with him because you will just end up getting hurt again. If he goes up to you and hugs you make it clear to him that you two are over and not to hug you like that again. He can't have both.

As for you, getting over someone doesn't happen overnight. It takes time. All you can do is lean to your friends for support and make sure you don't put yourself in a position to get your feelings hurt again with this boy. Soon enough you'll be able to move on. Just believe that you will get through it. Don't doubt yourself.

4IrishJustice
October 20th, 2007, 08:44 PM
Well...country music helps =). Anthony's right, it just takes time, a lot of time. Eventually though you'll get sick of the pain and then it will just start to fade until it's gone. Sorry but there's no quick remidy for heartache, but it's true that Time heals all wounds.

Sugaree
October 20th, 2007, 11:39 PM
Yeah Ant's right. take time to calm down and understand and move on from it

Gumleaf
October 21st, 2007, 12:17 AM
ant has hit the nail on the head. just make sure that he doesn't try and get back with you because he seems to be the type that goes around with all the girls he can. if you fall for him again you will end up hurt again and that wouldn't be good at all.

lovya90
October 22nd, 2007, 07:04 PM
I think it probably took a lot of guts to tell him he could go out wiht that girl....and good u stuck to ur pride...i dont think i would have been able to do that

mynameisjane
October 23rd, 2007, 12:44 AM
i dont see the point in sticking to your pride. if you love someone, you shouldnt mask how you feel. he could be thinking, "it didn't even bother her. she probably doesnt really love me." i think you made it too easy for him. now he doesnt feel guilty. it doesnt damage your pride to love someone and be upset over them leaving you for another girl 24 hours later. "still being friends" sounds a lot like "i'm going to keep you around so if this doesnt work out, i can just go back to you". i think thats much more damaging to your pride. you need to express to him exactly how you feel. you shouldnt be sad, you should be mad. he's an asshole. he hurt you. you dont want to get back with someone who's so inconsiderate of your feelings. then you move on because he's not worth thinking about.

Lifesreject
October 23rd, 2007, 09:05 AM
Don't worry Jane there is no way i would go back with him. I'm so angry with him i realy want to hit both of them but i no thats not the way to go about it. I just dont realy talk 2 him no more iv get better people to talk to who treat me right.