i think i finally found him! but there is a problem..

[Bri-Bri]

today my mom and step dad got to meet this guy that i have fell for. my mom thinks he is really great and aproves of him. but my step dad wont awnser me when i ask "what did ya think of him"
just FYI i dont come a very wealthy family
later on this afternoon my step dad asked where this guy lived, i told him that it was one of the sorta richer neigbor hoods. He replied with "Oooo money!"

im not exactly sure why this botherd me, but it did. A LOT.

can anybody explaine to me why i might feel this way?????

[White]

You probably feel this way because your step father "insulted"(it may have been an insult, it depends on how you take it) someone you care about. Its just your natural defense to get angry when someone insults someone you really like. Now about your step dad not answering you when you ask what he thinks, he may not like him, but does it honestly matter to you if your step dad approves of him if you really like him?

[CharlieHorse]

Step dad was being a D. If he's great, than be happy :)

[StoneColdNicky]

I'd be bothered too. You want him to approve of the person, not the bank balance!

[GlitterAholic]

Your stepdad may think you just like him for his money. We don't have much either and I dated a boy that was wealthy, but my mom made me break up with him because he used to buy me presents and she thought I was using him.

[Bri-Bri]

You probably feel this way because your step father "insulted"(it may have been an insult, it depends on how you take it) someone you care about. Its just your natural defense to get angry when someone insults someone you really like. Now about your step dad not answering you when you ask what he thinks, he may not like him, but does it honestly matter to you if your step dad approves of him if you really like him?

your right, to some extent it matters if he aproves of him.

[FreeFall]

...did your step-dad just insinuate you're a gold digger? Or did he just insinuate your guy of interest is a Richy rich snob? I'm trying to not look too for into it, but I got offended too o.o

Anyways, I'm wondering why you kept asking him to begin with. Do you need parental consent of the guy before you date him or were you just curious?

[Bri-Bri]

...did your step-dad just insinuate you're a gold digger? Or did he just insinuate your guy of interest is a Richy rich snob? I'm trying to not look too for into it, but I got offended too o.o

Anyways, I'm wondering why you kept asking him to begin with. Do you need parental consent of the guy before you date him or were you just curious?

it was more like both. but i kept asking because i care what my parents think. i want them to aprove of who i spend my time with ya know

[ackmedsgirl666]

his comment "money" meaning if you and this guy marry there will be alot of money in it for u and for your family meaning he is being greedy and selfish and only thinking about value and not about how your feel about this guy.... i know i would be pissed if that was said to me but luckily mu boyfriend is poor and im poor so it works out well for me :O

[kye.]

Well that's great :) I wish you the best, and sorry I don't have an answer to your question. :(

[FreeFall]

it was more like both. but i kept asking because i care what my parents think. i want them to aprove of who i spend my time with ya know
If they raised you to be a woman of common sense, good judgement and know your self worth and self love, they shouldn't have much to worry about in the first place. So have a little more faith in your parents having raised you to be good in picking people (:
Step-dad has less chance of making hurtful cracks like that and doesn't seem to dig in for the value you're searching approval of anyways.

[Mysterious Skin]

You didn't get the approval of your stepfather so naturally you'll be upset. It will also be the fact that you really like him. I defend the guy I like too, even though nobody knows I like him.

[AuthorX303720]

Money should never be a subject for love, never unless you are going to have a child. You stepfather should approve of the boy-that-you-fall-head-over-heels-for's character not his money. If you ever heard a wedding vows there is a line that states:

I, (name), take you, (name), to be my [opt: lawfully wedded] (husband/wife), my constant friend, my faithful partner and my love from this day forward. In the presence of God, our family and friends, I offer you my solemn vow to be your faithful partner in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad, and in joy as well as in sorrow. I promise to love you unconditionally, to support you in your goals, to honor and respect you, to laugh with you and cry with you, and to cherish you for as long as we both shall live.

(The Underlined part) This means through bad fincial times. But I am going to be my own devil's advocate and say that also when you become married you should have good fincial health because in the eyes of the law both of you are unified as one. Thus joint-checking, savings, 104k, stocks, etc. are created in which unmarried people can't do except for joint companies.So IDK if your stepdad is in it for the money try to convince it's not it is for his charcter and what you like about him.

You feel uncomfrotable about your stepdad caring about the boy's money thus buying himself a nice in-law (hard to get these day -_- ) But in your mind you love this boy because of his feeling not for some material value. When my girl friend found out that I was moving into a gated communty her sister started be all nice and butt kissing me (she is extremely sour the sister is). I honestly hate those people. You are suppose to love/like a person for there charcter not for material. Like what I said above ^. You should care alittle bit but not a whole lot. You see what I am saying? If you have any questions Message me. I hope everything works out fine with this boy -Sid

[Dunce]

Your step dad probably won't like any guy you bring home. Don't feel the need to prove to him you don't just like him for money, just carry on. At least your mom likes him :)

[Taryn98]

It's normal to want your parents to approve of your friends and significant others. That's good. He just met the guy, so it might take time for your step dad to warm up to him. Let them get to know each other slowly over time and if he sees that your bf treats you well, I'm sure he'll like him. Parents just want us to be happy and be with someone who cares for and respects us.

[AkuRokuStalker]

You care about him so you don't want people to judge or make fun of him.