Shy or not the right person?

[Eric57]

I recently just started talking to a guy and I can't tell if I'm just shy or if he's not the right person for me. I am naturally a shy person and have been my whole life. I have definitely come out of my shell a little, but I am still shy.

I met him on a dating site and our first conversation on there was good. We liked each other enough and had enough in common to where we added each other on Facebook. Our conversations on Facebook were a little dull, but we both figured it was because were talking online. We went on a date and our date was good. The conversation flowed, we have a lot in common, and we share the same beliefs and thoughts on most everything. Everything after the first date has been, well, dull. Our texting conversations are lacking and our 2nd date was lacking in the conversation area as well.

The thing is, I was instantly comfortable with him and we have so much in common, but our conversations are lacking. I like him, but I get so tense when I am around him being I like him that much. I honestly just can't think of anything to say when I am around him now. My mind goes blank. This has happened before with another guy and it ended up him saying it wasn't going to work out. I don't want that to happen again.

I can't tell if it's just me being shy or if he really just isn't the right person for me. Cause I feel like if he was the right person for me then the conversations should be more lively and I wouldn't be drawing blanks every time we have a conversation. I feel like it's my shyness and my nervousness, but at the same time I can't tell if it's that we really just aren't right for each other.

[White]

In my opinion, he might not be the right person for you. What's the point of dating someone and not talking about anything or having dull conversations and even dates?

[Noirtier]

I'm going to have to agree and say that he may not be the right one for you. If you guys can't hold a conversation, and if things are continuously dull when you talk, it doesn't matter how much you have in common, it's clear to me that things aren't working out. You've only been on a couple of dates, and sometimes that's all it takes to realize that things aren't going to work out between the two of you. It's not just you being shy hun, you two just aren't the ones for each other. When you find that person, who you're more compatible with, then you'll be able to talk to them easier. You'll know when you find that person. I know you like this guy, but sometimes a relationship just isn't meant to be. I would talk to him about it, tell him why you think that it won't work out, and end things now, before you get even more attached to him. There are people out there for you hun, I know there are, and you'll find them if you just keep looking. I wish you luck, and if you ever need anything we're always here to help and support you here on VT!