All of my friends are girls - I hate it.

[Eric57]

I have to come to realize that every single friend I have is a girl. It has been this way basically all through high school and I honestly hate it. I had a few guy friends, but they were more like "school friends." I'd talk to them during class, but we would never hang out outside of school. All the friends I did hang with outside of school were girls... I figured it was like this because I am gay and in a way, I do identity more with girls.

At this point though, I hate it. I used to not really mind it so much, but I'm just getting tired of the endless conversations about shopping, boys, etc. While I am gay, I am not feminine. You wouldn't know I was gay unless I told you. So I hate talking about those things and I'm tired of listening to it all. It gets old.

I get a little frustrated with being friends with all girls a lot of the times because I feel like I really don't fit in with them. Like if we go to the movies, it's always a romantic comedy and they never want to see movies I want to see. Like that movie "Ted." When it came out I really wanted to see it, but none of them wanted to because it's "guy humor" and they wouldn't find it funny. I just feel like I don't ever get to do things I enjoy doing because I don't fit in with my friends.

While I am gay and I identity with girls in some ways, the fact is, I am a guy. I enjoy guy things, which the exception of sports. So I'd like to do guy things and hang out with other guys. But I feel like it's so much harder now. I am out of high school now. I am in college, but I go to a local technical college. A lot of people in my classes are a little older and for the most part, everybody kind of keeps to themselves... It's not like a university or anything. So it's harder for me to make friends and meet new people.

I don't know, I just get frustrated. I don't even like hanging out with my friends anymore. I like them and they obviously like me, otherwise we wouldn't be friends, but it gets annoying sometimes always being around girls. I don't know how to make new friends because of the fact that I am not in high school anymore and the college I go to is full of people who basically keep to themselves.

I don't really know what to do about this....

[nick]

Most of my best friends through secondary school were girls but they never treated me as a girl. Our conversations weren't about shopping or boys, I don't think they had any trouble having different conversations with me to the ones they had with friends that were girls.

I'm not a good mixer, I don't share common interests with many people of my own age. My passion is for classical music, I don't listen to anything contemporary on the popular scene. I would rather go to Stratford (about a 50 minute drive) to see Shakespeare than go to watch "Ted" in the cinema. I love opera.

Now those things are probably irrelevant to you but I just give them as examples, because what I am trying to say is that you need to stay true to yourself. Don't try to change just to fit in with other people, that probably wouldn't work anyway. Stay true to what matters to you, be patient, and you will find friends within the circles that you move in that share your interests.

[anyone50]

maybe it's time to try meeting people outside your college. I'm sure there are places young people go to have a good time in your area. just don't limit yourself to the school and explore other avenues to finding new friends. who knows maybe some of those that seem to stick to themselves are a lot like you and they think you like to stick to yourself as well. go make the first step. What have you got to lose at this point.

[Dimentio]

I am gay and all my friends are girls and their school friends except one who has been my friend for life, But the thing is, She is more manly than me sometimes XD But we do whatever the other wants to and we have clicked so well and we're down for anything so i suggest try finding someone like that if you can :) It will be good having guy friends but i don't know how they work so can't help on that sorry :/
And about the college this may seem hard but like i said, I don't know how guys work, And i also hate them and have a fear of them and i am the shyest person ever but i talked to a guy in our college and made friends with him he left shortly after but he was a guy friend, So yeah try going up to someone and just talk to them, It may seem hard and odd but if you keep pushing it on the right person at a right pace it will be good :) Good luck!

[NitoJuanito]

Well, I, for one, am gay. I have TONS of friends in the female variety. The thing is, they're either all bi, lesbian or they have a more grisly humor. I'm gay and i like guy things, you know, the things you don't get to do? :P Everytime me and my friends go to the movies, we head for the latest comedy, never a romance. Lol, I don't know where you live, but it you were here in my town, I'd hang with you. :D maybe it's time for new friends? People more on your level?