Totally confused

[bobdole235]

I seem to have a problem with sex. Its not the whole having sex thing its just i can't seem to cum much at all. I've had three one night stands and out of these ive only cum once and believe me i've tried. Originally i thought this was to do with alcohol cos the first 2 times i had some in my system but not excessive amounts and we must have been going for 40 minutes to an hour yet nothing. But the other night i had sex with this other girl (the 3rd one) who wasnt just a one night stand. I was hoping to continue something. But even in this case i cudnt come and after about 40 minutes i even lost my erection. One thing i have noticed is that i think a lot during sex, my mind can sometimes wonder. Does anybody else have this problem im not sure whether its psycological or physical but its really got me spooked.

[Maverick]

There seems to be a pattern with your partners - they are one night stands. It can be the fact that since you have no emotional attraction/love to these girls you aren't able to perform well in sex because there's no emotional bond. Leave sex for someone you care about and love otherwise it will be just pointless and non-fulfilling.

[Hyper]

There seems to be a pattern with your partners - they are one night stands. It can be the fact that since you have no emotional attraction/love to these girls you aren't able to perform well in sex because there's no emotional bond. Leave sex for someone you care about and love otherwise it will be just pointless and non-fulfilling.

I totally agree with you here, Anthony. I believe that sex should be something shared only between you and that special person in your life. Its not just a bit of fun, its also a commitment, if you ask me.

this other girl (the 3rd one) who wasnt just a one night stand

Well being distracted certainly can't help.. And would you have any reason to think its psychological..?