Falling for a friend.

[Mikec3257]

Okay. So I have this friend. She is really the most beautiful girl I know. She's always smiling when we talk. I'm afraid to ask her out. I feel like I could ruin it. I just need some tips on asking her out. Anyone want to help me out?

[ackmedsgirl666]

Well first off how lOng have you been friends for?
If it hasn't been that long you might scare her off
But if it has been a while is she showing any signs of liking you back
If so try talking to her
Try telling her how you feel and see If the feelings are mutual then go from there

[Mikec3257]

Well first off how lOng have you been friends for?
If it hasn't been that long you might scare her off
But if it has been a while is she showing any signs of liking you back
If so try talking to her
Try telling her how you feel and see If the feelings are mutual then go from there


Well. I've known her for 6 years now. I can't tell if she does or doesn't like me. I'm an extremely shy guy... I usually can't talk to a girl easily...

[Noirtier]

The first step, really, would be asking her if she wanted to go on a date sometime--see if she wants to go see a movie with you, or go out to dinner, or something like that sometime. That's a good way to ask someone out and make it seem a little less awkward if they say no. Rather than just "Will you go out with me?" it becomes "Would you like to see a movie with me?". Now, if you do ask her out on a date, you gotta have the specifics. What day, what time, where. I know you're going to be nervous, but try and be as calm as you can. From what it sounds like, she may like you too, although I can't tell for certain as you didn't give much information. If she says yes, great! If she says no, brush it off the best you can and try and move on from it. I doubt you'll ruin the friendship by doing that. I wish you the best of luck! :)

[ali98]

If I have to be honest, it looks almost impossible to me to turn a long friendship into something different. REal risk to loose your friend to get nothing.

[believable]

If I have to be honest, it looks almost impossible to me to turn a long friendship into something different. REal risk to loose your friend to get nothing.

I disagree. My brother was friends with this girl since kindergarten and he asked her out in eighth grade. They dated until the beginning of ninth grade. I would say that the worst case would be there will be an awkward thing between the two of you for a week or so and then it will ware off. If she says yes, yay! If she says no, say that you hope that the two of you can still remain friends. It is harder to stay friends with your ex than just someone who you just asked out.

[StoneColdNicky]

I don't think telling her how you feel will ruin the friendship. What could end up ruining the relationship, is if the romantic relationship ends badly. Whatever happens, if you do ask her out, remember how it all started, and keep that in mind if things start to go sour. Talk about it a lot. I always think it is such a shame when friends who become more break up and don't remember where they started. Yes, you see another side of the person, but that doesn't mean that that person you were friends with isn't still there.

I hope whatever happens, you and your friend end up on good terms. Good luck.

[Troy35216]

tell her you need some advice and then ask her the same question you asked here. tell her you are friends with a girl you've known for a while and you are attracted to her and would like to ask her out (without telling her that SHE is the girl your talking about) but you are afraid it will mess up the friendship i she says no and then ask her what she thinks you should do----ask her out or keep it to yourself and just keep being friends. if she says "ask her out" then you say "i'm glad you said that cuz your the person i was talking about" and if she says "keep it to yourself" then you just say thanks and change the subject.

[anyone50]

Sounds likes she likes you so the best advise i can think of is just ask her out and don't make a big deal about it. just casually ask her to see a movie with you i can't see how that could ruin what you have already with her. A lot of my friends that are dating begain as just friends hanging out and they decided they liked each other. think more about the best thing that can happen instead of the worst.

[MrDaniel2K13]

tell her you need some advice and then ask her the same question you asked here. tell her you are friends with a girl you've known for a while and you are attracted to her and would like to ask her out (without telling her that SHE is the girl your talking about) but you are afraid it will mess up the friendship i she says no and then ask her what she thinks you should do----ask her out or keep it to yourself and just keep being friends. if she says "ask her out" then you say "i'm glad you said that cuz your the person i was talking about" and if she says "keep it to yourself" then you just say thanks and change the subject.
That is perfect advice

[anyone50]

I can only speak for myself but the approch stated above you agree with would have a negative effect on me. it's deceptive and how would you know what she would say. if i was asked that by a guy and i did say that, it would be a very awkward situation if he later confessed it was him he was talking about. This script needs to stay in the movies because in my opinion thats the only place it going to have a chance of success. Girls like honesty just tell her how you feel

[CharlieFinley]

Well. I've known her for 6 years now. I can't tell if she does or doesn't like me. I'm an extremely shy guy... I usually can't talk to a girl easily...
Then it's a horrid idea. Don't do it. The time will come, five years from now, when you will have a long-time close female friend to whom you can turn for advice or comfort, and that's worth more than a thousand dates, no matter how beautiful she is.

Love is not worth ruining friendships. Platonic love is more pure, more beautiful, and more essential than romantic love.

[Mikec3257]

Everything you all have posted I agree and dis -agree with it all... I do believe it may ruin the friendship. I've decided though from reading your replies I am going to take a chance and ask her next time I see her. Maybe even ask her on a date too.