He's going no where, fast.

[RequiemForADeath]

If this is in the wrong forum, sorry.

There's a boy who I've known for 3 years. When I saw him I knew that I was going to marry him. He wasn't interested.. but now he is. Cool right? Yeah but he still has his problems.. Like all the harder drugs he gets into. I'm fine with some of it but not others. Plus, He almost got us into 3 different car wrecks tonight. It gets worse... 4 days ago he cut his arms, because of me. I cut and I'm trying to stop. He wants to quit college. And he has an anger issue, he thinks he messes up when he really doesnt.

But I love him so much because I've been waiting for him for 3 years and he makes me the happiest person when I'm with him.



Oh, did I mention he wants to marry me?
2 years.

anyways. I jsut don't know if I should keep trying to talk to him about everything or just leave it and let him handle it, because I'm afriad that if I do that he'll end up in jail. Or worse..

[Hyper]

Hmm anger issues... Now I know alot about those..

And they typically come with me when I am really fucked up.. So yeah if you just want to know should you continue trying to help him..

I'll just ask a question..

Could you not try, if you love him?

[RequiemForADeath]

of course i'll try but seeing as how he now has a court date for possetion of pot when he got pulled over yesterday morning.. he is refusing to go to court.. and hes 18 so hell go to jail..

not good

[byee]

And what exactly is it about him you love? Sounds to me you love the fantasy of marrying, maybe you loved who he was 3 years ago. But currently, he has some pretty major issues which would undoubtly interfere with that fantasy. Help him get some professional help, encourage him to get his life together. His well being is not your responsibility, it is his. And until he takes charge of himself, keep a very safe emotional distance from him.

[Hyper]

Yeah see.. ISA not everyone who comes on this site and says they love someone are retarded..

Idk, I don't bother with the do you really love him/her thing unless necessary..

She's 18 should know better, and if not she'll learn, but yeah partly I agree

[RequiemForADeath]

Does is matter why I love him? I try to help him. He refuses. My sister has a Phd in pychology. And he wont even talk to her. now he's saying that if he doesnt marry me he'll kill himself.


It'd be great if just one person i knew didnt cut and talk about suicide like its their weekend plans.