Is she uninterested or did i do something wrong?

[zencoran]

So i've liked this girl since freshman year (im a junior now), and on the last day of school before winter break, i decided to just go ahead, tell her how i feel, and ask her out to coffee. Her exact words were "i'd love to get coffee with you." So we met up at starbucks, i let her do most of the talking, i bought both of our coffees. She talked alot about herself, we told jokes, talked about one of our similar interests (video games) and we ended the "date" (i put date in quotation marks because i dont know if she knew it was a date) with a hug and i got her cell phone number. So i texted her 2 days later to hope to start some conversation and get another date with her. We texted maybe 3 texts back and forth, mostly about a video game she likes, and i sent the last text, which was a joke about the video game, and she has not replied in two days. Now, i know that it was Christmas and all, but she's been tweeting and favoriting/retweeting my tweets, but still not texting me back. I've gotten kinda cold because i dont know what i did wrong. Any thoughts?

[Jen Jones]

Any chance she lost her phone?

[zencoran]

Any chance she lost her phone?

Maybe that happened. Not sure though.

[ReginaGeorge]

If she has a prepaid phone, she may not have credit, or she has gone over her cap. She may not have known how to respond to the joke. She wanted to talk about something else. She didn't know she has a text. She is busy with family. Her phone isn't charged. She can't find her phone. Her phone is on silent. She checked the joke, and got distracted before replying and now has forgotten about the text.

There are soooo many possibilities, don't freak out. If she's still interacting with you, she isn't ignoring you. Just give her another call and see if she wants to go out again, and this time, make it clear it's a date, just so you don't need to use quotes around it next time. And if she doesn't answer the phone, don't freak out either, it's probably because it's on silent, or she lost or, or didn't hear it. Send her a message on social media to check a good time to call her. :)

I don't think there is anything wrong, there is no immediate reason why she would be upset about something. :)

[zencoran]

If she has a prepaid phone, she may not have credit, or she has gone over her cap. She may not have known how to respond to the joke. She wanted to talk about something else. She didn't know she has a text. She is busy with family. Her phone isn't charged. She can't find her phone. Her phone is on silent. She checked the joke, and got distracted before replying and now has forgotten about the text.

There are soooo many possibilities, don't freak out. If she's still interacting with you, she isn't ignoring you. Just give her another call and see if she wants to go out again, and this time, make it clear it's a date, just so you don't need to use quotes around it next time. And if she doesn't answer the phone, don't freak out either, it's probably because it's on silent, or she lost or, or didn't hear it. Send her a message on social media to check a good time to call her. :)

I don't think there is anything wrong, there is no immediate reason why she would be upset about something. :)

would it be too forward of me to just send another text asking for a second date?

[ReginaGeorge]

would it be too forward of me to just send another text asking for a second date?

Well, I recommend calling her, you have no idea if she even has her phone right now, so you should get on social media and ask "hey, have you got a free minute so I can you?" or something, that way she knows you're calling, you know she knows you're calling, and you can find out if she even has her phone on her, because there's a chance she doesn't.

[zencoran]

Well, I recommend calling her, you have no idea if she even has her phone right now, so you should get on social media and ask "hey, have you got a free minute so I can you?" or something, that way she knows you're calling, you know she knows you're calling, and you can find out if she even has her phone on her, because there's a chance she doesn't.

And if she declines or pulls the whole "let's be friends" speech, how to exit the situation?

[ReginaGeorge]

And if she declines or pulls the whole "let's be friends" speech, how to exit the situation?

I think for some reason you think if you text her you're not going to get it, either way, she will give it if she's going to, but everything went great according to your original post so I wouldn't be stressing out about it too much right now.

If she gives you the whole "let's be friend" speech, then listen to it. Don't blow her off just because you're not going to get something from her. Just keep being her friend, and if it's too hard, then you can do whatever you want from there. Just hear her out, and tell her it's okay but you really wish you could be a couple.

[zencoran]

Well I feel like an idiot. She got a new phone and lost all her contacts...

[anyone50]

Like you said it is the Holidays and many people have plans made far in advance for this time of the year be patient and see how things work out in the new year

[zencoran]

Still not replying even though I tried to contact her again. Guess she's not interested?

EDIT: NEVERMIND! She replied, we've been texting for like an hour. Sorry for overreacting. I've never asked out a girl over texting or the internet. I've only asked face to face.

[zencoran]

So I asked her to see a movie with me this Saturday. I know it was short notice, and she refused, saying she'd like too, but is really busy the whole weekend. I told her it's cool, and she said she's genuinely sorry, and that she wanted to see that movie really badly. I said "maybe some other time!" And she replied with "definitely :)" so I'm guessing she's into me and is genuinely busy? Any thoughts?

[zencoran]

Anyone?

[Taryn98]

Sounds like she's just busy. You don't want to come off as overly needy, so I would back off a little. Wait til after the holidays are over and then talk to her again. Don't go in with the objective of asking her out. Just talk for a few days and see how it goes. If things are looking up, then ask her again.

And don't ask over text or facebook. That shows girls that you lack confidense which is a huge turnoff. Always do it face to face or at least on the phone while talking.

Also, if you ask her to the movie again, just ask if she wants to see the movie and then ask what day is good for her. If you ask about a specific day and she already has plans you'll get turned down, but if you ask what day works for her, you have a more flexible chance to work it out. Good luck.