Is it normal to be intimidated by my peers?

[JustinPCGamer]

Hello everyone. I hope you all had a good Christmas. I am new to this forum but my question has been bothering me. I never go out, I stay home playing computer games all day. I know it is an unhealthy habit but I am afraid of running into them. I have a bad grade, lots of ass holes, there are weed dealers, girls who think they are great but they're not, and people who like to drink. All the popular cliques really scare the shit out of me. I don't like any of them and I disapprove. Is it normal for me to be this intimidated by them?

[Lost in the Echo]

Yeah, i'd say that's pretty common. Just try to stay away from them.

[JustinPCGamer]

Yeah, i'd say that's pretty common. Just try to stay away from them.

That's exactly what I do. I stay behind my computer like a coward, they're all bad and looking for trouble.

[Jen Jones]

Well I would say its normal, but you should still try to get out a bit more. Smoking weed and drinking is obviously not healthy, but neither is sitting behind a computer for your entire life.

[JustinPCGamer]

Well I would say its normal, but you should still try to get out a bit more. Smoking weed and drinking is obviously not healthy, but neither is sitting behind a computer for your entire life.

Good point but still I find trouble quickly finds its way if I go outside.

[Lost in the Echo]

Good point but still I find trouble quickly finds its way if I go outside.

I'm not trying to sound like a prick, but can you please improve the grammar of your posts?
It's pretty difficult to understand what you're saying.
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Also, just do whatever makes you happy. If staying at home all day on the computer makes you happy, then by all means, go ahead and just do that.
Don't force yourself to be around these people if you don't like them.

Just simply do whatever you feel most comfortable doing, and whatever makes you happy.

[Jen Jones]

Just hang out with some people that you know arent into that kind of thing

[darkie]

I'm the same, actually; I don't go out with friends (I can't recall the last time I did) and they aren't the type to go out often as well. Don't be intimidated, just don't give a damn about what they do and who they are. People tend to be influential, therefore if you care about them (being intimidated still counts, a bit) then sooner or later, you might be dragged into fearing them for no apparent reason, or avoiding them because they're popular and all. You sound better than most of them, therefore just find two or three friends that you really value and they value you too, and you can stop paying attention to those cliques. No need to be intimidated just because they're popular and all.

[anyone50]

First off i don't want you to take my advise as an attack its not meant to be but it sounds like you have developed some pretty intense phobias and the level of intimadation your describing isn't what i would call normal. i i'm not sure where to begin with except to advise you that at some point you have to pry yourself away from that computer and try to enteract with your peers. Not everyone is as you describe but how would you know for sure unless you get out there and if you can't do it alone ask for help from someone you trust like a family member teacher or couselor at school.

PS: you might get more help if this post was in a more appropriate section maybe like Family and Friends

[JustinPCGamer]

I'm not trying to sound like a prick, but can you please improve the grammar of your posts?
It's pretty difficult to understand what you're saying.
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Also, just do whatever makes you happy. If staying at home all day on the computer makes you happy, then by all means, go ahead and just do that.
Don't force yourself to be around these people if you don't like them.

Just simply do whatever you feel most comfortable doing, and whatever makes you happy.

You don't sound like a prick. I was half asleep when I wrote that sorry. What I meant was people always seem to get in trouble when they go out. When you stay inside, you don't get in trouble.

Edit: @anyone50

Thanks for the advice friend. I don't really want to seek a counselor but me having a phobia, is possible. Is there a way to move this thread?

[Nolf]

Very little gets accomplished by just staying in and playing games all the time. I cant tell if this is an actual fear of being around people or just severe introversion but either way its not that healthy. Youll probably still get along okay in life, but meeting people and having friends is an important thing to do as a teenager. Personally what it seems to me is that youre generalizing the social groups often found in a high school environment. Yes there are some people you wouldnt want to hang around with, but if you look i dont think itll be long before you find some people you genuinely like. Even the stoners and the guys in cliques can be okay if you give them a chance. I would suggest you make attempts to get to know these people, and look at the situation optimistically

[chrisawesome]

You sound kind of like me, except the computer game part, but I see where you are coming from. The truth is that you should live up to be the best that you can be. Dont become a part of the drunk, dumb ass, weed dealers. You should find a friend that has the capability to drift away from those people, and be friends with you for a while. Just remimber the basics about drugs and sex ed. and you should be fine. Most of my girlfriends have been the snobby, sexy, and rich girls. All from being who I am, me! I am not a drug dealer, dumb ass, or sports joc. They are not either. Just because they are always high, always dumb, and know how to throw a ball doesnt make them one bit better than you.

Just be who you are. I bet you will be the next millionare, celebrity, or president. You dont need alcohol, cocane, or football to do that. If you have to change yourself just a little to be unintimidated then thats allright.

Its normal to feel intimidated, but if you try not to be, then you wont feel intimidated.

Do you want to be a forever drunk, crackhead, NFL football player that eventually goes bankrupt, or socially overrated ? Just think, who you are matters the most!

[DerBear]

Questions for Both :arrow: Family and Friends
This would be better here. I know it sounds weird considering your question to move it to this location. However you'll get more relevant answers here than you would in Questions for Both.

Anyway onto your question. Its very normal to not like your year group and feel intimidated by groups of people. Their are a lot of people I dislike in my year group. They think they're all high and mighty when they're not. I wouldn't say they intimidate me but they are very much a bunch of asses. So yes it is. I don't know how you'd go around fixing this problem as you can't change people, they need to change themselves. My advice would be to stay away from them and don't get yourself mixed up with a group of people you dislike.

[hscott729]

lol im kinda similar, i mean i get on with my year, but they just all annoy me sometimes, and i retreat :P i've found that the less popular girls tend to be easy to talk to and make friends with :P just a suggestion :D

[JustinPCGamer]

Thanks for the advice everyone. Moderator, thanks for moving this to a better section. I will try to get a bit more involved and seek out others like me.