Parents read my texts

[survivor]

Ok. So for christmas my sister got a new phone, but she set it up wrong. Until she fixed it she was getting every text I sent to anyone. Instead of coming to me, she went to my parents and they went through my text messages which are mostly photos and a lot of curse words. I don't know how I'm going to be punished, but I think I'm screwed. What do I do?

[Noirtier]

What do you do? You accept the punishment and the fact that your parents are doing what they think is best for you, and they obviously believe you crossed a line that they did not want you to cross. I'll be honest with you, your sister didn't really do anything wrong going to your parents instead of you, because she didn't know how to fix her phone. And, if there was anything she saw on there that may have made her uncomfortable--which it sounds like there might have been--she had every right to inform your parents. Is it a bit of an invasion of your privacy? Yes. In the end, though, your parents are the ones who pay for your phones, they are the ones who will be held accountable for anything you may say or do on them that could get you in trouble for the time being, until you're an adult or until you pay for your own phone. You'll probably hear this from your parents if they punish you, but having a phone is a privilege, not a right. They are in authority over you and if they think you have done something deserving of punishment, then they can punish you. There's not really anything you can do to get out of it, so you'll just have to persevere through it and take the punishment. Sometimes, that's all you can do.

[survivor]

You sound like my mom

[workingatperfect]

He's right though. There's nothing you can do. If your parents punish you because they feel that anything you said or sent was inappropriate for your age, so be it. You just take the punishment and get over it.

Your sister just wanted her phone fixed. She should have said something to you also, but she was right going to your parents so they could get it figured out.

[anyone50]

going to be tuff thats for sure but my advise is just accept it and try to rebuild your parents trust becuse life is no fun if your grounded 24/7, even worst every thing you do is monitored and your home resembles a fire fight on a daily basis. unless the pictures were nude it will blow over soon. Parents expect us to mess up and i think it makes them feel good when they think they are guiding us on the riight path to adult hood. Just be smarter inj the future i personnaly like to keep a low profile on the rents radar so i'm very agreeable around the house.

[ackmedsgirl666]

just take what they give you and accept it
that will just teach you not to talk inappropriately
most likely they will probably take your phone thats what mine would do at your age.
but just accept what happens and learn from your mistakes.

[AuthorX303720]

Hey I know that I am going to sound like an idiot but you don't know why they are scolding you for this until later on in life. I was yelled at during this week for not cleaning up my room or having good grades. But I thought for a little while on my own time with a talk from my mom that I noticed that I was wrong and later on in life that if I keep clean (soul and physically) then I will perform better than any other indviual. So if you have been cursing and taking photos( idk what) you should think about this might progess in the future and might get you arrested if you send out the wrong thing and completely ruin your life. Or don't send that and go on to be a succsessful person. I am sorry I am being a thorn in you side -Sid

[HandheldOutlaw]

Hon. Just about everyone on here is going to sound like your mom. Most of us have probably made similar mistakes with our text messages and were seen by parents (Lord knows I definitely have).
The only thing you can do is take it like a big girl and realize that they're doing it to help you. Maybe it doesnt really matter to you now, what exactly they're trying to teach, but one day you'll have kids of your own and you'll probably flip the first time you hear a curse out of their mouth.
Just try to understand why it matters to them. They love you, and whatever they dish out really is meant to make you a better person.
Good luck

[CharlieFinley]

You sound like my mom
That's probably because your mother is a sensible and intelligent woman.

[ash1520]

You sound like my mom

Who knows maybe it is just kidding. are looking for people to say it was wrong for them to read your text. Do you really belive it was after all I'm sure they are jusy looking out for your best interest. I belive you gotten some excellent advice and just have to see what happens.

[helloworld98]

my parents especially my dad goes through my messages like on my phone. Talk about privacy much. Anyways, just take the punishment as it comes and make sure no-one can get on it. And think carefully bout what u send 2

[Enchanted]

Ok the "you sound like my mom" post is prolly my favorite post ever omg but yeah they are right... sorry that people aren't agreeing with you but really, think about how your parents and sister feel. it must be a pretty big shocker to them to see how foul mouthed you've been through text messaging. I don't know what punishment you'd get for that but when I was younger and had said a curse word I got soap shoved in my mouth... hope it's not as harsh as that though q;

[Dunce]

Your parents aren't being unreasonable. Your sister probably shouldn't have showed them but it's done. It's not like they picked up your phone without your permission and read them. Even though you didn't do anything other teenagers don't do, your parents aren't in the wrong. It's just one of those things you can't avoid. I doubt it'll be that bad.

[Smeagol]

It's certainly an unfortunate situation. My parents always have the option to read my texts, but they haven't caught me for anything yet. Cursing over text, while not unforgivable, is probably something they'd rather you didn't do. Once you send a message, although its meant to be private, it likely isn't. Calmly accept whatever punishment you receive, and be careful in the future. Good luck!