Advice because I can't sleep whatsoever!

[boonsim]

So it's about 1:30 in the morning as I'm writing this. I can't even consider going to sleep because I'm thinking about what happened right before holiday break.

So I know this girl. She's very kind, funny, and attractive. I met her through photography and math class this year. We became really good friends almost instantly. I have her number and we text pretty much daily. She isn't the least bit hesitant to go up and say hi to me with a smile on her face every school day.

So last Thursday, one of her friends asked me this question completely unprovoked during French:
"Do you have a crush on Olivia?"

Not thinking very much, I said no. I don't feel comfortable telling random people who I like. I didn't even considering asking if she had a crush on me! Now that I continue to think about it, I feel like I lost my chance. It's been a really long time since I've been in a relationship.

So what do you think? Any advice is greatly appreciated. :)

[TheSocialInspector]

If you don't like her, if there is a lack or absence of affection you grow towards her ... then don't bother going into a relationship with her. It will only be used as an empty casing.

[boonsim]

If you don't like her, if there is a lack or absence of affection you grow towards her ... then don't bother going into a relationship with her. It will only be used as an empty casing.

It's not that I don't like her, it's that I didn't realize that I could like her more. I went through a pretty harsh breakup a while back and have yet to pursue another relationship since.

I'll rephrase it: I repressed having crushes altogether and now that somebody could have a crush on me, I've come to realize I can't not have feelings and that I do actually like her.

[Noirtier]

I'll be honest here. It seems to me like you're trying to convince yourself that you like her just so you can have a relationship again. And really, that's not fair to you, but moreso that's not fair to her if she really does like you. Unless you really truly do like her--and there's no doubt there about that, which I don't think is the case--then you really shouldn't be in a relationship with her. And really, I think you've been overthinking the entire situation, and I believe you should just kind of let it go. I may be wrong, but from what you've said here, it appears that you don't really like her, and you've just trying to convince yourself otherwise.

[TheSocialInspector]

It's not that I don't like her, it's that I didn't realize that I could like her more. I went through a pretty harsh breakup a while back and have yet to pursue another relationship since.

I'll rephrase it: I repressed having crushes altogether and now that somebody could have a crush on me, I've come to realize I can't not have feelings and that I do actually like her.

Oh. I see.

[believable]

I'll be honest here. It seems to me like you're trying to convince yourself that you like her just so you can have a relationship again. And really, that's not fair to you, but moreso that's not fair to her if she really does like you. Unless you really truly do like her--and there's no doubt there about that, which I don't think is the case--then you really shouldn't be in a relationship with her. And really, I think you've been overthinking the entire situation, and I believe you should just kind of let it go. I may be wrong, but from what you've said here, it appears that you don't really like her, and you've just trying to convince yourself otherwise.

I 100% agree with this. If I was asked pointblank who I like, I wouldn't tell them unless I was really close to them. If I was asked if I had a crush on a certain girl, I would probably be honest to whoever was asking me unless I didn't feel safe around him or her. To be honest, this sounds like you want to be with her just because she likes you. Don't be the desperate guy. I may be wrong, but if your feelings are completely real to this girl, then go for it, ask her out.