Please help..

[american_idiot]

Ok, well if this is not puberty related i am sorry i just need some help. I am 14 going on 15 and i have never had a GF. am i a loser or just what i really want to know and if anyone has any tips or advice on getting one please help. thanx:D

P.S.- Also im not sure what my mom would say or if i should ask her if i can get a GF or what ? how should i handle that situation with my mom?

[The Resurrected One]

Request move to Relationships & Dating


I am turning 15 in a month and I have never had a girlfriend, either. It's been starting to get to me now. :( Badly.

So if you can, do what I have never been able to do. Go up and talk to girls and try to start a conversation with them.

[Gumleaf]

yep, just get to know the girls that are around you. find one you like and really get to know her. if you think there is some sort of connection, and you know she is single, then ask her out. in my case my mum was happy to find i had a gf. she thinks we are cute together which sounds strange to me but to have my mums support when i have a gf is appreciated all the same. because we go to different schools and don't spend every waking moment together, my mum isn't worried because it doesn't affect my school work much, although i have run up the phone bill a bit, thats probably the only thing my mum doesn't like about it.

[american_idiot]

ok thanx so much keep the posts coming.

oh ya also : Request Move to Relationships& Dating at your own discretion because im not sure if it will get any posts there.

[Aηdy]

Boys Puberty :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[ThatCanadianGuy]

I'm in a similar situation... I'm 15 and "gfless" :(. I can talk to girls with no problem, it's just that the one I have my heart set on has a boyfriend. It's really bugging me 'cause I know I would be a better boyfriend to her (he treats her like an object). I don't want to be known as a "girl stealer" but when you really love a person what are you to do? Oh well my advice would be to try and get attracted to girls that DON'T already have boyfriends that look like they want to hurt you :D.

[byee]

I'd like to think your self esteem isn;t so totally determined by your g/f status. 15 and single isn't really THAT odd.

I think you're probably judging yourself too harshly, maybe comparing yourself with others who seem blissfully coupled. It's not always so blissful.

But, the desire to be connected is a good thing, I'd suggest that you start by making yourself more available to the girls around you, smiling alot, being friendly and talkative. And complimentary. Girls love that. Find something to compliment them about, or ask them about something that they seem to like or put some thought into, maybe their hair or jewelry or perfume. Girls love it when you recognize that stuff, it makes them feel noticed and appreciated. it's not hookey, it really works. They're as nervous as you are, and most of them want to be hooked up, too. Just break the ice, don;t expect too much, and know when to leave! (when there's nothing else to say, when things trail off).

With regards to your mom, if you feel comfortable talking with her about this stuff, she might be a good resource for you, being a girls and all. And having been thru this, too.

[BornActor]

You're not a loser I've never had a gf and i have tons of friends. Second I wouldnt tell my mom because its all she can think about is sex and she is overly paranoid that I'm going to

[mynameisjane]

unless your mom is really strict, she'd probably be okay with it because she should know that 15 is when people start dating. but maybe ask what she would think of it just in case.

i'm 17 and i've never had a real boyfriend. and all my friends are guys. i feel like a looser too sometimes but they say that nothings wrong with me so i feel better. the way i see it is there's no point in going out with someone if you dont like them all that much. get to know people, find someone who you think you'd match well with, talk to her more, and ask her out.

[Underground_Network]

I'm 14 and I've never had a gf (seems to be the common theme in this thread), but yeah, my mom doesn't care if I get a gf or not, and my dad's actually pissed that I don't have one. He always makes fun of me for not having one, which pisses me off, so at least your better off than me. You shouldn't worry, you'll find the right girl eventually, any relationship that you have at this age probably wouldn't be that serious anyways. You should wait till you're ready to date and until you find the right girl for you. You shouldn't be pressured by your parents to date or not date. Its your decision, if you have to keep it discrete, do so, if your parents don't care, then let them know your dating someone (once you begin dating). And as for girls, I'm rather shy around them, but if you're not shy, just strike up a conversation. If there's a girl you really like (and she's single) talk to her, be open with her (not too open :P), and just be yourself and let her be herself. If there's a connection then you might wanna ask her out. :P I doubt she'll say no. But yeah, patience is a part of life.. we all have to wait to get things that we want. So just be patient, a girl will come along eventually. :D