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[Magnus Bane]

I really need some help I spent the night over at my friend's house last weekend and i woke up to him jerking. well he asked me if i wanted to join him and i did. (not going to get graphic) well one thing led to another and he asked me is I could give him a bj. i refused and he hit me in the head hard i was dizzy for a second and i fell. he got on top of me and shoved it in my mouth.
Should I tell some one or not. Ever sense then he hasn't talked to me but gives me dirty looks like its my fault. I don't know what to do. can anyone help me.

[Noirtier]

Yes, you should tell a trusted adult as soon as you can. I know he's your friend, but what he did is unacceptable, and borders on sexual assault. He asked for a sexual favor, you refused, so he hits you and forces you to do it. Does that not sound iffy to you? Let me be the first to tell you that anyone who would do that to you is NOT your friend. He tried to take advantage of you, he forced himself on you, and it was NOT ok. It's clear to me that he probably doesn't want anyone to know about the incident, because he knows what he did was wrong. But it's your responsibility, for your own sake, and the sake of others who he may do that to--because if he'll do that to you, I'm sure he would to others--to tell an adult who can deal with it properly. Please, do it for your own good hun. We're all here to help and support you. I'm sorry you had to go through that..

[Troy35216]

dude that's called rape. don't you watch Law and Order SVU?

[guyinoxford]

horny and crazy friend.
But that's not right,something wrong with your friend
Use violence in order to get sexual satisfaction....
Btw is the friend very handsome or cute? ......

[TigerBoy]

In my view this is aggravated rape. Aggravated because he hit you, rape because you didn't consent, and because penetration occured (his penis entered your body).

The exact details of rape law vary from state to state in the US as far as I can see, but those three things very clearly make it rape if you look at the law.

Rape with violence is one of the most serious crimes there is. I would certainly tell an adult, because if your "friend" starts with doing this to a friend, he's quite likely to get carried away and sexually assault other people. He needs help before he lands himself in jail. He may also do something like this to you again, and try to blackmail you with the whole gay angle: the easy way out is to cut off all contact with him and make sure your parents know why.

[shadymc]

Well, in my opinion, snitching makes things worse, and its messed up to snitch on anyone. And im not saying that what he did is ok, but it kind of sounds like he was to horny to think, and acted out of that. But you need to let him know, that its not cool to do that kind of stuff against people's will, and if he cant respect that, dont hang out with him.

[shadymc]

In my view this is aggravated rape. Aggravated because he hit you, rape because you didn't consent, and because penetration occured (his penis entered your body).

The exact details of rape law vary from state to state in the US as far as I can see, but those three things very clearly make it rape if you look at the law.

Rape with violence is one of the most serious crimes there is. I would certainly tell an adult, because if your "friend" starts with doing this to a friend, he's quite likely to get carried away and sexually assault other people. He needs help before he lands himself in jail. He may also do something like this to you again, and try to blackmail you with the whole gay angle: the easy way out is to cut off all contact with him and make sure your parents know why.

Umm, actually there is no such thing as aggravated rape, there is aggravated assault, and aggravated murder, and that is where someone is being a jerk and you punch them, or someone is pissing you off so you kill them.

[TigerBoy]

Umm, actually there is no such thing as aggravated rape, there is aggravated assault, and aggravated murder, and that is where someone is being a jerk and you punch them, or someone is pissing you off so you kill them.

Yes there is. Many crimes can be tagged as 'aggravated' (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aggravating_circumstance). State law may vary on the details, but the principle exists.

In this case the OP stated they were hit, which fits your own explanation, but there are other reasons.


An aggravated rape is an offense of rape that is committed under circumstances which render the offense more heinous. The severity of the crime may be increased because of factors such as tender age of the victim, blood relationship between the accused and the victim, the victim is aged, the offender is armed with a weapon, , and more than one offender rapes the victim. The exact definition of the term varies from state to state and from nation to nation. An aggravated rape is different from a forcible rape.

Rape which occurs during commission of specified crimes, such as assault and battery by means of dangerous weapon, constitutes aggravated rape, punishable by harsher penalties than simple rape. [Commonwealth v. Williams (1987) 23 Mass App 716, 505 NE2d 233, 1987 Mass App LEXIS 1786].
source (http://definitions.uslegal.com/a/aggravated-rape%20/)

[Straya]

Yea don't keep that a secret he took advantage of you and that's not right at all and you shouldn't let him get away with it, that was just wrong what he did

[Aidoon123]

Firstly I must say Oh my GOD! That is rape I think! I know it would the the 100% most akwar thing to do but you must tell someone! That is illegal ( atleast I think and hope it is ) That guy is most definitly not your friend! Tell somone you can trust. Oh my god I am so sorry man!

[Dimentio]

I feel like you should tell someone yes but i know most people are scared of getting them in trouble so tell a teacher in school or an aunt or uncle or parent and then say as much as they may argue you don't want them to get into trouble if it makes it easier on you but yes this is very serious, Also i know if i did something like that it would of been because i was horny then after that I'd feel horrible and regret everything in my life so probably the reason he is not talking to you.

[anyone50]

i think the last thing this guy needs is for people to get into a battle of why type of rape this is. Unfortantely when this happens many people girls as well as guys feel partly to blame in the back of their mind perhapes in your case you may feel why did i even spend the night. that dosen't matter what he did to you was sexual assult and if you let him get away with this your just going to ensure he has more victims if you can't tell a parent tell an adult you trust and if you need help finding a way to do this and feel you can't turn to anyone you know i recomend you call the rape crisis center in your area the number can be found on the internet by typing rape crisis center in the url box. they will help you through this and see that this guy can't do this do another person and most importantly they will find you help to deal with this so it dosen't effect future relationship and trust issues since this guy had broken a trust you shared with him.

[Magnus Bane]

thanks I ended up telling my parents after the first few posts and then they called the cops i have to go to court against him on Jan. 25, 2013.

[Canadian Dream]

I would defenitly talk to someone. It's consider this sexual assault, because you didn't want him to do something and he forced you to do it. It would be a bad decision not to talk to someone, there are a lot of people willing to help you, and it is the best decision you can make to talk to an adult. I would also suggest reviewing your friendship with that person: - Has anything else been going on lately? - that kind of stuff. Hope this helps!

[princess09]

hey, i think you will be doing the right thing if you tell an adult for ur own saftey and jst let things calm down for a bit by staying away from your friend

[joshduder]

Its accountable to rape ...talk it out to some1 u trust!

[MrDaniel2K13]

That's horrible, that's sexual assault, call the police

[Eth_94123]

I really need some help I spent the night over at my friend's house last weekend and i woke up to him jerking. well he asked me if i wanted to join him and i did. (not going to get graphic) well one thing led to another and he asked me is I could give him a bj. i refused and he hit me in the head hard i was dizzy for a second and i fell. he got on top of me and shoved it in my mouth.
Should I tell some one or not. Ever sense then he hasn't talked to me but gives me dirty looks like its my fault. I don't know what to do. can anyone help me.

I would ask him why he doesn't talk to you no-more and I would class what he did as rape if you didn't want to do it! It will be hard but I think you should tell someone!