How much do your parents monitor you

[vif859]

How much do your parents monitor you?

And do you have a problem with it or not really?

[Desuetude]

My parents are very over protective. I've had baby sitters up until I was 12, shit on my laptop so they can track what I'm doing, room searches, if I'm out having to call them every half hour. You get the drift. I'm fucking sick of it really but can't do much about that. I just hope that they cut me some slack as I get older, not that I think it will happen but it's nice to dream.

[vif859]

It might especially if you don't give them any reason to think you are doing anything wrong.

Have your parents found anything?

[Skyline]

My mom is very over protective of me... If I leave the house then I have to heck in with her every 20 minutes, If a friend stays over my door has to stay open and she does "checks up on us", also under no circumstances am I allowed to stay at a friends. I absolutely hate it... I am 16 but treated like an 8 year old..

[Harley Quinn]

My parents don't really 'monitor' me anymore. After all, I am nearly 18 and they can't really do anything after that point. Sure, they ask me to call them when I'm out and shit like that, but that's something I do anyway, out of respect. They used to be all over protective and shit, but that was because I was expelled twice, got into fights and all that stuff. I think after awhile they stopped, but every now and again, they get all protective, why bothers me somewhat but eh.

[Coolboi]

my dad is all over my shit an I can't stand it . it my fault tho I did a few things for him not to trust me room search a no computer smashed my laptop it's all good now I just have to be on my toes haha luv u daddy lol

[vif859]

Who smashed your laptop and how are you on the computer now?

[Desuetude]

It might especially if you don't give them any reason to think you are doing anything wrong.

Have your parents found anything?
Found anything?

[vif859]

found anything in your room to make them suspicious

[Desuetude]

found anything in your room to make them suspicious
Not at first, this year they have but that doesn't mean they've always needed to.

[Elysium]

Not at all. I make my own plans, worry about my own assignments, make my own friends, basically, do what I'd like. My parents will speak up if they see something that they think is concerning (which is next to never, usually only about school), but otherwise they've explicitly expressed their trust in me and I don't intend to abuse it at all; I have no reason nor desire to. Plus, I value my privacy and I don't want it taken away.

[Hypers]

My dad is very protective, my mom isn't. Dad always checks on me, and it is really annoying and sometimes embarrassing.

[vif859]

Not at first, this year they have but that doesn't mean they've always needed to.


What did they find? and how much do they track your computer? Do they know about this site?

[Desuetude]

What did they find? and how much do they track your computer? Do they know about this site?
Vodka bottle and a couple things to do with self harm. They have done for about 4 years, put norton security or net nanny on and see what I go on and how long I use the computer for. It was recently taken off because it was shitting up and wasn't letting me on anything. Yeah they know about VT, I had to tell them about it so they could unlock the website from being blocked because all social networking sites were blocked at the time.

[FullyAlive]

I tell my mum where i'm going, with who and text her when I get off the bus. I don't have a curfew as such although my mum would prefer to pick me up than have me get the bus at night. I'm pretty much allowed to do anything nowadays though, a few months ago she found a bunch of vodka bottles empty and full in my room and her complaint was that I didn't just ask her to buy them.

It was different a couple of years ago but i'm 4 months off 18 and so my mums kind of accepted she can't really stop me doing things, but personally I prefer to ask and I'll probably still ask when i'm 18 just as a token really not because I need her permission.

[Mysterious Skin]

My parents generally leave me alone, I've never done anything that would destroy any trust that we have. ( not that they know about anyway).

[Ryhanna]

My parents like to let me be my own person, but they do get quite protective from time to time, particularly my mum. I think that she forgets that I'm not little anymore, and that I'm looking for more independence. Having said that, Mum knows that I'm responsible, sensible and smart, so she does allow me freedom most of the time.

[Lost in the Echo]

They used to monitor me a lot, but not so much anymore. :D

[Kacey]

My parents were overprotective but now are much more lenient

[vif859]

My parents never really monitored me or searched my room or anything, although they did clean it.

Not that I minded much anyway.

My brother was the same way, the only time they really searched his room was when he was self-harming, but even then they were good about it.

Anyone else?

[Abyssal Echo]

Moms a bit over protective but, I cant say she really monitors me much not that I can really go anywhere once I get home anyway. since I came out theres no sleep overs or me going to a friends for a sleep over, yes if a friend comes over the door to my room has to stay open. since my lap top crashed we share a desk top so no cam. I have a cell but she had the camera disabled.

[nutjob]

My parents aren't really over-protective. If I go out they usually want to know where I'm going and if I go to a friends house they want to know where it is. :)

[Cognizant]

My dad basically lets me do anything that's legal and relatively safe as long as I have a cell phone on me, or am with another person. He'll ask where I'm going, offer me money, take the cell phone, and I'll be on my way! Though sometimes depending on what it is he'll ask me to not go or wait for him to come with me.

[workingatperfect]

My parents have never really been that protective. I have quite a bit of freedom, even though I've given my mom a few reasons to not trust me lol. But I mean, I can go out with anyone I want, spend the night with any girls, she doesn't have to meet them first. Hell, I went to birthday party once and ended up staying the whole weekend and didn't go home til midnight on Sunday, a school night, she didn't care. She never searches my room, or even goes in it really. I just have to make sure she knows I won't be home and give her an approximate time of when she can expect me back.

[teen.jpg]

My parents are in the middle, I think they're over-protective, but in reality they're pretty damn lenient.

I just complain too much :D

[IVIodern]

My parents don't really care, even if I'm only 15. I've kinda gone through the stage that my so called 'friends' are at now and I have grown up. I know what to do and what not to do what could potentially get me in lots of trouble. I am kinda free, could literally walk out the door and just say where I'm going, and they will just say 'okay' and I would be free to do whatever I like. They do trust me in that aspect.

With regards to my 'internet life', I was caught watching porn once and my parents accessed my PC so they could use the Remote Desktop and see what I was up to. Although they thought it was a genius idea, me and a friend developed an application that would see if anyone was accessing my remote desktop and I could choose what to do with that specific PC. Sometimes I used to shut it down :3

[project_icarus]

My mum used to flip shit about me being online. I was never able to go anywhere, either, outside of school, and this other schoolmate's (son of my mum's friend) house, and some other places like the shopping centre when my mum was there.
Now, I have a lot more online 'freedom' as such, but going places physically is still the same. My mum insists on watching me. She keeps tabs on exactly how much money I have, and even if it is all rightfully mine, does her best to limit it to about £10-20. I don't go anywhere much anymore, really. CAMHS appointments or something similar.

I wouldn't call it over-protective, I just fucking hate her beyond fucking imagination.

[vif859]

For those of you who say your parents monitor you, are you still allowed to do "normal" things like hang out with friends after school and weekends, go to movies/concerts etc...
even if you have to tell them what you are doing or check in with them

[MrDaniel2K13]

I'm 15 and its mainly my mum that would be the most protective parent, she's not strict though

[iboy888]

My parents don't really monitor me. I'm 13 years old and I get to go out myself or with friends. I usually get a lot of time, when I go with my friends to see a movie I get unlimited time.

My parents don't monitor my transport since I always use public transport if I have to transport myself.

I call my parents if I see suspicious activities or if I am stranded.

You may think this is too much but in Hong Kong it is extremely safe. The public transport is safe, clean and efficient.

[TheWaterPrince]

It's kind of weirdly backwards for me. My mom usually doesn't care but I could be out with my best friend since age 5 for an hour and he's calling me asking where I am what I'm doing how long before I get home. He comes in my room at random times for no reason. It's annoying really but I can't really do anything about it.

[Jen Jones]

Theyre pretty lax

[PinkFloyd]

As far as what I can and cant play or watch, things seem to be fine. My parents are willing to accept that kids my age play violent games and listen to fuck up music.

When it comes to being at a friends house, they're okay. They always need to know the parents which I can agree with.

Overall they know I'm a smart kid who uses the right judgment with shit like fights, sex, drugs, etc.

[anyone50]

They use to when i was around 12 and in Jr High but over the last year they have come a long way and seldom question me in depth about what i do basicly because i get good grades and stay under the radar of trouble i think

[demon angel]

mymother is protective and kind of opressive and my father dosnt care
my mother just cares way to much

[booboo22]

My parents monitor me and my brother A lot!

We had baby sitters until He was 16 and I was 14. I didn't get to stay him over a weekend by my self until I was 18. I can't have people over unless they are home. I have to tell them my current location at 11pm and if i don't i have to come home immediately, if i do i usually can stay out until 12am.

These rules apply while we are at home, we are both in college now.

However, even at college they will call randomly to ask what we are doing, they expect to know everything.

to this day on all family trips my parents require us to have connecting hotel rooms(my mom referred to us as their young children until I was 16) We have to maintain our haircut to "an appropriate length" while we are home.

We are forbidden from getting tattoos and piercings, my brother doesn't care, but i have always wanted both… I am not allowed to have my own bank account unless it is linked to my dads.

I am also not allowed to play "m" rated games or ANY first person shooter game while in their house…

Somedays, I just can't stand it! My parents act very much like dictators...

[Enchanted]

My mom trusts me completely (or so I think). So no she doesn't really monitor me. Sometimes she'll just glance at the computer screen and be like "oh what's that site?" and I'll have to explain it to her... ugh.

[CharlieHorse]

Dad sets wifi to cut out at ten pm. That's it. Doesn't matter cuz I have 4glte on my gs3 and free mobile hotspot support on it.

[Leon03]

My parents used to monitor me a lot more when I was little. Now I get quite often talks about responsible behaviour and stuff. It's annoying sometimes but they basically trust me I guess.

[ninja747]

I can pretty much do what i want (as long as its legal), but i don't do anything stupid anyway so they trust me.

[CharlieHorse]

My dad might be monitoring what sites are going through the wifi network per device, but I don't care.

[villain]

They don't monitor me at all. Which isn't something I should be proud about. They should monitor me but hey, who asks their parents to monitor them?

[Stronk Serb]

My parents are OK. They let me go with my friend to basketball games. My other friend... His parents do not let him go 750 meters away from his house without them, I thought inviting him to go with me and my 1st friend to the game, but my 1st friend said that I should not do it. He asked them once and they replied: Are you insane? He will get kidnapped. Some parents are paraniod about their children, while some are reasonable, while some are overprotective and too strict.

[Stronk Serb]

My parents monitor me and my brother A lot!

We had baby sitters until He was 16 and I was 14. I didn't get to stay him over a weekend by my self until I was 18. I can't have people over unless they are home. I have to tell them my current location at 11pm and if i don't i have to come home immediately, if i do i usually can stay out until 12am.

These rules apply while we are at home, we are both in college now.

However, even at college they will call randomly to ask what we are doing, they expect to know everything.

to this day on all family trips my parents require us to have connecting hotel rooms(my mom referred to us as their young children until I was 16) We have to maintain our haircut to "an appropriate length" while we are home.

We are forbidden from getting tattoos and piercings, my brother doesn't care, but i have always wanted both… I am not allowed to have my own bank account unless it is linked to my dads.

I am also not allowed to play "m" rated games or ANY first person shooter game while in their house…

Somedays, I just can't stand it! My parents act very much like dictators...
Dude, after you are 18 (in my country and in many more) you are a legal adult, which means none of that overprotective bullshit they are forcing you to. I think by being overprotective, they do not allow you to survive your own, because you have no experience about the outside world.

[thisisben]

They used to when they found out I used to say stuff on MSN which was quite big a few years ago , now its all facebook , twitter , skype etc. , and I used to say things which werent true , and my parents found out what I was saying and were so angry and put a keylogger on my computer , it was embarrassing , but now they learn to trust me , but it was awful !

[Jess]

I wasn't monitored much at all, since I rarely went to parties or games or whatever. But when it came to the laptop, that was another story. When I was younger, I had a few "disasters" with my parents finding out what I was doing. What I did wasn't even bad at all. It was mainly games or writing in a journal. But they thought those were bad. But as I got older it wasn't much of a problem any more.

[Texas warrior]

In my room I have as much freedom as I wont. I can't eat, drink, drink, smoke, fuck and look at porn up here all day long and they wouldn't know about it. But my parents are more strict about were I go. I just recently got to take a 12 mile bike ride and I am 16 come on..............

[ForeverAlon]

my parents very trust me because they know i can make my own decisions and make them good so i feel kind of free :)

[dontfiguremeout]

My mom doesn't monitor me a whole lot since she knows I'm one of the most responsible kids in the family. So doesn't really bother me since it doesn't affect me a whole lot.

[somegirl]

Once I turned 17, it was like I could do anything that I wanted as long as I told my mom what I was doing or where I was going. She trusts me 100% now when I have my boyfriend over or go to his house. I also have my own transportation now.

She knows I don't smoke or do any kinds of drugs and I never will.

[Anonimi]

i have never been "monitored" a long as i tell my parents where im going, they pretty much tell me, be home before midnight, if you can't make that, please call us to say so.
and my laptop isn't searched or monitored, thank god :D

[LiamC]

Not monitor as such, but I'm pretty controlled by my foster parents -_- My phone gets taken on a school night (usually at about 10pm) now, and the internet has been going off at 9pm since I arrived here about 16 months ago, most nights. Weekends are different and it's about 10.30-11pm but still always off apart from the odd night every now and then.

[dedee]

My mom is way too overprotective. She doesnt let me ride with my friends , so she drives me everywhere since i dont have a car its really awkward when I go out with my friends

[Wrestler0821]

I have 3 brothers so its hard to monitor everything. They are strict about curfew and letting them know where we are. There is a net nanny on the internet but I don't think they use it.

[AbbaZabba]

My parents don't monitor me much. We are together a lot and I found play by their rules and the more they trust you.

[moneta173]

They don't monitor me. I call them when I go out and I say them where I go, but I'm free and they trust me ;)

[joeyboy24]

my mum is quite over protective of me but if im honest i kinda like it cus i feel sorta special and my mum and me have a very strong relationship

[Professional Russian]

My parents really don't care what I do or where I go. They know I'm not going to do something incredibly stupid.

[The Mechanan]

They monitor me heavily, but I work around it. So it doesn't bother me.

[Gwen]

Never, like never they don't know nor care what I do or am doing

[Austin2]

Not much at all.