I Am In Love, What Do I Do?

[NeutraltEAm4za]

Hey guys, so i need some advice from the community on this one. So you know, i am bisexual, just to clear up any confusion. There is this guy that just moved here this year from taiwan (american citizen) and i have slowly fallen in love with him. it is now to the point where anytime my mind is wandering, it goes right to him. i find myself staring at him in bio and band whenever i get the chance. this is the first guy i have truly loved for everything about him. not only is he drop dead gorgeous but he is a really nice guy. he and i are not super great friends yet but i have been working on it. i have told him that i am bisexual and havent heard much from him but i know that he is ok with it, problem is, idk his sexuality, and i really want to tell him how i feel. i am just not sure because i have people telling me to forget him and others telling me that i should go for it. i really truly love this guy but i just dont know if its worth the risk. lemme know what you think :)

[Noirtier]

Let me start by saying this. You said he's from Taiwan. Let me tell you that, from experience, I know that being bi or gay in Taiwan is despised even more than it is here, and if you are bi or gay there and you come out, your whole family basically abandons you. I'm sorry to tell you this, but I really wouldn't count on him being bi or gay. Yeah, there's still the possibility, but even if he is, that culture he was raised in has been ingrained into him, and it may be very difficult for him to even begin to claim or accept that he is. You can still try and go for him, but in all honesty, for now, I would just stick to getting to know him better as a friend. I know you say you love him, and that can be a really rough thing to get over. If you want to get over it, the first thing you have to do is accept that nothing is going to come of the friendship, and that there's no possibility of a relationship with him. Once you accept that, you just have to keep reminding of yourself of that, don't obsess over him, and try searching for someone else. If I were in your situation, I would probably drop it and try and find someone else, but the decision is yours. I know that's not necessarily what you wanted to hear, but sometimes that's just the way things are...

[NeutraltEAm4za]

Thanks for the quick response. I just thought id clear up that he was born here and his family is american. They first moved to Germany and lived there for some time (which is why he currently speaks german at home) and then moved to taiwan for a short time. like i said, he is an american citizen and is american, he just has lived in other countries due to his parents' jobs. either way, the chances of him being gay/bi is not fantastic to be honest but i will probably at least try to get to know him better for now. its just really hard when you cant express your feelings