Sex Addict?

[PinkFloyd]

Note: It's hard for me to even think about this in my head, and now im making a thread about it. It's hard for me.

Okay... Ever since circumstances have changed, allowing me and my girlfriend to have sex a lot mre, weve been doing it a lot. Like 2 times a week... Im scared that it's taking our relationship over. We used to go out a lot and spend quality time together... believe me this is for sure quality time, but for only a few hours at a time.... How can I fix this? I want it to be like it used to be where we would fool around a little, but other than that we stuck to going to malls and amusment parks. :confused::(

[LouBerry]

Well, tell her you want to slow down a little bit. Hang out a little more, screw a little less. I'm sure she'll understand, and she might even been thinking the same thing. Communication is key and all.

[karabeauty]

Well, tell her you want to slow down a little bit. Hang out a little more, screw a little less. I'm sure she'll understand, and she might even been thinking the same thing. Communication is key and all.

I agree. You need to be able to communicate about it.

[ackmedsgirl666]

Sounds to me like u and her should have a chat
Or think of ways to avoid sex doing activities to distract you too
I would definately talk to her though and find out her thoughts who knows maybe you guys are on the same page

[prob1996]

First off ur 14, trust me half of it is hormones. I remember my ex and I started first doing it, we couldn't stop. :P I seriously couldn't get enough. So i understand the whole feeling like a "sex addict" thing. I also understand ur fear of burning out ur relationship too quickly. I often wonder if that's wht happened with me and my ex. I'm not saying that it will happen to u. U seem to be aware of this and that's good. I agree with the above posters. Try to slow down. Plan special nites to do it. special occasions and maybe the occasional quickie after school or something. This way when u guys do it , it'll seem more special and exciting. Try to plan regular dates, like movies or hanging out w/ friends, stuff to keep ur mind off it.


Good luck . hope this helps!

[jonjon1998]

Note: It's hard for me to even think about this in my head, and now im making a thread about it. It's hard for me.

Okay... Ever since circumstances have changed, allowing me and my girlfriend to have sex a lot mre, weve been doing it a lot. Like 2 times a week... Im scared that it's taking our relationship over. We used to go out a lot and spend quality time together... believe me this is for sure quality time, but for only a few hours at a time.... How can I fix this? I want it to be like it used to be where we would fool around a little, but other than that we stuck to going to malls and amusment parks. :confused::(

Sorry... But what's the problem again?

[Hungman]

Sorry... But what's the problem again?

this, this, this, this. Cherish it, one day you might have a girlfriend who doesnt want to bang at all.

[anyone50]

I'm having a little trouble understanding the situation your describing but it sounds to me like since you began having sex with your gf she's been wanting more sex and less time spent dating and going places like to movies and amusemant parks. I'm sure a lot of guys would say wow your the lucky guy but if this is putting a strain on your relationship you need to open up and start communicating with her because it sounds like you just going with the flow.

I'ts ussually the other way around and the guys are the ones that want more sex but regaurdless of who is the more sexual dominate one in a relationship the outcome is ussually the same when one persone wants more than the other is willing to give. Sex changes a relationship and sometimes not for the better. I can only tell you from a girls point of view that when i first had sex i wanted it a lot and i think some of it was harmones and the fact it felt incrediable but there was also that i felt more vulnerable since we had sex and maybe she is afraid if she doesn't have a lot of sex you will dump her. This is where communication is so important now that your in a sexual relationship. You need to let her know how you feel and reassure her that your not hanging around just for the sex. Once she feel secure things will shift back to a little more like you want but your relationship will never be like it was before sex. just try to find what will work for both of you.

[Shining Star]

While having Lots of sex is a good thing ( believe me I know) I understand where you are coming from.
First off talk with her and tell her your concerns. Next maybe set aside specific time each week where you guys can do stuff together but not sex... You know just hang out n be together n do stuff.
I mean sex twice a week doesn't qualify you as an addict ;) it's great that you guys like making love. Maybe still do that but plan other non sex dates as well

[flyboy27]

Tell her exactly how you feel. Just talk to her about it. It makes things better. And if YOU are feeling this way, then there is a good chance that she is to.

[Sean4U]

as long as sex doesn't control your life, whether that be sex with your girlfriend or constant masturbation if is OK...I agree with others, if this is bothering you, then communicate with her, let her know that you feel that you need to just enjoy each others company without sex all the time...although I do not believe that 2x a week would qualify as too much, but at 14, some might....I agree with anyone50 maybe she feels now that you have gone to that level, if you don't get it she might loose you.....talk with her let her know you like her for her, not just the sex....do what you said and go out on dates like you did before this happened....

[Arsenalfan123]

Talk to her?

[PinkFloyd]

Thanks guys, We talked about it and decided that we can do other things.